Feeling behind in life

Nothing is stopping you from applying for a different job that you may be more proud of. An easy professional job that you can get into without a degree is sales, and in the right sales job you can make decent money. Why don't you do that or something else that may interest you?

 

What's important to you?
What does success mean to you?

You're defining success by your peers' hypothetical "belittling."
Start from square one and define your success subjectively.
You're putting the only person down who has any capability of getting yourself out of this undesirable situation.
You're the only person you can rely on 100% of the time, and you're deeming that person a failure.

Care for yourself

 

You're not behind. Most people won't even be able to tell a difference between a 24 year old and 21 year old. Just keep improving, you're on the right track.

However, your attitude to your coworkers is ridiculous. You say they're nice but you don't want to be "lumped in" with them. Apparently it's below Mr. Goes To College to associate with the working plebs. Rockefeller used to play janitor in his church but @Realcaveman doesn't want to be seen doing food service. Get off your high horse dude.

 

You need to learn to stop comparing yourself with others.
It seems that your "peers" have a lot of power over you. But why did you give them so much power?

You need to let them go emotionally seen.
You need to let your porn use go completely. And I guess that you have some issues to resolve from your childhood.....

 

What would you like to do in life? Start to concentrate on that thing more than you concentrate on your current situation

 

That feeling is one I'm very familiar with. It wasn't until I was about 33 that I found a job I could be passionate about, but I count myself lucky because I see plenty of people who are older and still struggle with that.
One of the key things I've learnt in my life is to stop beating myself up about the past. Yeah I've made some questionable choices that have meant I'm far behind where many of my peers are, but that doesn't mean my experiences are any less important.
A couple things I think it's worthwhile focusing on:

1. Try to enjoy where you are. Yeah you're in a shit job and you want to be somewhere else, but this is your life and wishing your circumstances were different is just a waste of it. You can't just magically enjoy everything about your life but really notice the parts of it that make you happy.
   
2. Channel that ennui and use it to drive your life towards better circumstances. You're finishing your degree, that's great. Once you've finished you'll be in much better control of where you can take your life.

I know it doesn't feel it but 24 is still so young, I didn't start uni until I was 24, got a job when I finished, hated it, then started from scratch in a completely new industry at 33.
Life's weird, and if you're lucky it'll take you on some fucked up winding path. It's the ones that stuck to the conveyor belt I feel sorry for.

 

I think I get you. I see the criticism, I see the validity, but there’s the other side, too. I don’t think food service is an acceptable long term solution either, unless you’re angling for chef, or management. And I understand liking a person, or group of people well enough on a personal level, but not wanting to replicate their life choices.

There’s nothing wrong with starting a little late with the driver’s license, or college, or anything like that. Some people take their time, it’s okay. You should figure out what you want, though, and aim for it. Don’t talk about wanting a different job, apply for a different job. And continue working food service until you get one, because that’s a safe, viable option for the short term.

I’m feeling you, because I’m 39 and trying to get into an entry level position, out from living with family. It’s hard. But I’m working on it.

 

First of all, it's still not too late, many successful people started their journey after their retirement. You are still early. As the saying goes "when the student is ready, the teacher arrives", have immense faith in yourself, you can do it.

I m 21 and still dont have driving licence, there's nothing wrong with being virgin, I mean there are literally people who don't lose their virginity until marriage. For what people think, build a why bother attitude, you might be thinking too much, who have so much time to think about you, they are instead worried about what others think about them. Instead of wasting you precious time on them, invest it in your improvement.
You only have one life, already 25 years are gone, last 20 years will be retirement years, atmost you have 40 working years left, do you really want to waste it on what others think about you, and anyhow all these people are temporary, tell me how many of your school friends are still with you, most of these people will disappear within one or two years, why bother about what they think, instead use them to improve your social skills, since anyhow they are going to disappear, your improved skills will help you in your next job. Happy or sad, this life will end within next 70 years.

Don't bother about them, people's opinion changes faster than light, one day they might praise you, other day just because of a small incident they will start talking behind your back. Don't try to control things which are not in your control, it will only leave you feeling miserable. Focus on what you can control. People's opinion is not in your control but your actions are, focus on improving yourself, sooner or later opinions will change, even if they doesn't change, who cares.

Moreover, didn't you say that you are in college, did you try getting internship in your study field.

I agree with your perspective of not wanting to associate too much with people who don't have goals, afterall there's a saying - you tell me about 5 people with whom you spend your maximum time, and I will be able to predict your future. You friend circle obviously have a big impact on your character, stay with 4 successful people and you will become the 5th successful person, stay with 4 unsuccessful or aimless people and you will become the 5th one.

 

Have you ever considered that you are a late bloomer? I'd be curious to know your thoughts on that.

 

Have you ever thought about getting life coaching? It's helped me get clear with what my goals are and how to achieve them. Having an accountability buddy and someone cheering me on and helping me when I get stuck has been so powerful.

 

It's completely normal to feel behind compared to your peers and to have concerns about your current job situation. Remember that everyone's path is different, and there's no set timeline for achieving certain milestones. Focus on your own goals and aspirations, and take steps towards them at your own pace. While it's natural to feel embarrassed about your job, try not to let it define your worth. Explore opportunities for career advancement and consider further education or training if necessary. Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your journey. Keep pushing forward, and know that you have the power to shape your future.

 

It's totally normal to feel like you're lagging behind sometimes, especially when it seems like everyone else has it all figured out. But remember, life isn't a race, and we all have our own paths to follow. Take your time to finish your degree (contact gonzaga university customer service) and don't worry about comparing yourself to others. Instead, focus on setting your own goals and making a plan to achieve them.

 

You can apply for other jobs. Good luck in your search, I think you will succeed and everything will get better in life. In college, I also felt worse than others. But I worked hard: I studied a lot, made new friends and worked from time to time. Thanks to https://domypaper.com/ I found time for myself and my improvement. I am very proud of myself and happy to see who I have become. Everything is in your hands, good luck!

 

It happens to all of us bro.....it happened to me in the worst way..this job lasted a long time because of the immediate benefits,and that while in college this company tries to work around our college schedules;In other words this company wants at least have intelligent people....that was then....well this job lasted beyond college. So remember,you're not here(in my opinion) to please family/friends/partners. You're here to feel confortable with yourself;You can't lie to yourself. So hang in there. Of course,I'm here because my addiction thrashed my career...literally...and I'm greatful that I'm here..and to advance in my life.....