THE SUPER SAIYAN CHALLENGE! What is your Power Level?! (RANKS ARE BACK, GET YOURS NOW!

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Day 25 checkin

 

Day 12

I was posting in the Jedi Order but no one is active there right now so I'll come here for community.

I feel like I have a lot better vibes lately and that I'm able to focus on more positive things to do in life. Other than nofap, I am reading books that I always wanted to read and that I am back at playing piano. When I did nofap before I would also play a lot of video games or be on the internet too much. That was really substituting one bad habit for another because the core issue is that I was avoiding taking responsibility for my life, and avoiding feeling what I'm feeling when I relapse or playing video games addictively.

 

Day 1 brothers

@Baki Hanma keep going brother, we got this. We've already made so much progress

@Dovahkin101 I agree. Video games and YouTube tend to be time wasters. I recently put my switch into storage because I have far more important things to do. Having a proper sleep schedule I find is paramount.

 

May Fortune favor you in your nofap journey. With video games I've been back and forth thinking it is the absolute worst thing other than pmo, to playing it addictively again. Now I think they are okay as long as it's not something your wasting your life over as with anything else. I have my consoles hooked up but I've on'y played a few hours in the past few weeks because I've been focusing so much on better things. I might play a little bit at some point, but if it turns into a binge session where my day is wasted on it then it's a problem. Video games I think has only become a problem in the past decade or so with addiction I think because now it's really easy to be anti-social with it being in your room all the time alone. In the past it was more of a popular thing to play games with your friends which I think was okay.

 

It's normal for other people you're in a relationship to have been with other people in the past, and that they may even have had sex. That's just most people. It's actually kind of rare these days where you get into a relationship with someone who is a virgin, unless if it's a very religious couple. And the problem here you're having is your reaction. You are resisting the fact that she was in a relationship and maybe you want her all to yourself, and that no one has ever touched her before other than yourself. The thing is is that if you let this reaction you've had take root in your feeling and thinking it could actually end up ruining your relationship. You don't necessarily need to do anything bad, but she might get that feeling that something is off about you and not really like you anymore. Being your first relationship I can understand why this might feel stressful, but this is normal and there are going to be a lot of ups and downs that you'll go through. Remember that the root of the problem started within yourself and that you decided to resist a simple fact, that she was in a relationship before you. And from that point focus on that feeling of hatred or whatever it is and let it flow through you. Accept the feeling and hug it to death. Embrace that feeling like you embrace your girlfriend. I can recommend a book to learn how to be a really emotionally mature man, or an emotionally deep man. It's called Blue Truth by David Deida. He talks about how to love yourself and how to love a woman properly. He also has other books on relationships and sex that might interest you as well.

 

I can agree to that! Appreciate every moment and resist nothing. I hope you do well on your nofap journey.

 

Hey Baki I don't know if you remember me or not. I was here a while ago. Good to see you're still going. Try to beat me to become a Super Saiyan!

 

Day 63

@Dovahkin101 there's absolutely nothing wrong with videogames in my view. Sure, it can be a real problem only if over spending time with it, but I have to disagree on the part that's 'worst than pmo'. I grew up gaming and I still play sometimes, but I was never lazy because I learned self-control and learned to spend time with school/college work, especially productivity.

 

Does anyone watch Avatar the anime? The story of Iroh and Zuko is about an immature boy learning to grow up into an emotionally mature man. "Hope is something you give yourself. That is the meaning of inner strength... You are not the man you used to be Zuko. You are stronger and wiser and freer than you have ever been."
I tear up every time I watch this video. It just says so much about what it means to grow up as a boy into a man. Zuko was full of hatred, confusion and doubt about who he was. He believed that he had to get the acceptance of his villainous father by capturing the Avatar. His father in the first place didn't even care about Zuko, he was just a toy to him. And Zuko learned how good the Avatar was over time, and they eventually became good friends. His uncle as well helped him so much. He never got angry with Zuko even when he messed up big time. He just wanted him to learn from his mistakes and to grow into the man that he was meant to be, rather than to stay oppressed for the rest of his life by trying to conform to the image his father wanted him to be. Sometimes when I'm having a hard time I watch this again and its really fortifying and its only a few minutes. It allows me a chance to reset my emotions and to focus again.

 

It's plain and simple:

1. If it happend before you were officially together: none of your business and don't even bring it up or pay attention to it. Just man up, deal with it and discipline yourself. If you cannot do it yourself, seek (professional) help but never let her know. Because that will lower her interest in you.
2. It happened during your relationship: she cheated, drop her and move on. Never talk to her again. Man up, deal with it and discipline yourself.

You can figure out what the common denominator is in both situations. Good luck.

 

Today at noon I'll be reaching my 500 days mark.

In my opinion I've completed the first few stages of this journey and can say I'm close to completely healed. Probably I'll need another year to be as close as I can be to being a man who'd never been exposed to these high dopamine stimuli.

In the last 5-10 years I not only won the battle over my porn addicition but I've managed to improve / discipline my life in many many other areas. But, as all meaningful journeys; I'll never be done working on this.

If anyone wants coaching: send me a message in this topic, not private. Since I believe we should all be able to learn from each other's mistakes / improvements. If you want to improve your willpower, go educate yourself about it. Education = motivation.

Here's a good article that gives an excellent explanation how it works and how best to train your willpower (yes it works like a muscle): https://www.apa.org/topics/personality/willpower

 

Congratulations on beating the pmo addiction!

I have a question for you. What's does your average day look like now? How do you spend your time? Is it all discipline or do you take time to relax and enjoy life?

 

Checking in!

 

Day 13

I have been making progress by not just focusing on goals, but also doing things that I really enjoy. As long as it's hobbies that don't turn into a bad habit. After work I plan on going to the bookstore for an Alan Watts book, and getting some Epsom salts for a hot bath. On my days off next week I have a pretty solid plan of what I want to do. Some time focusing on my goals, as well as some time to relax.

In the past I wouldn't have any plan of what to do with my time off from work and inevitably it would turn into a binge fest of video games or pmo.

 

Let's do this brother! Good luck!

 

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QUOTE="Dovahkin101, post: 3776267, member: 367837"]Hey Baki I don't know if you remember me or not. I was here a while ago. Good to see you're still going. Try to beat me to become a Super Saiyan![/QUOTE]
bro, i remember your profile picture. I accept the challenge . Let's go . Good luck brother

 

Thanks!

Workdays:
Wake up around 6/6:30. I get dressed, meditate for 10-15 min.
At 7:00 I start making my breakfast (takes about 20-30 min to cook my steel cut oats) and while cooking I usually listen to a Spanish class or I am reading / doing some Spanish homework. I eat my breakfast for about 20-30 minutes with no distractions apart from some easy piano music in the background.
Around 8/8:30 I start up my work laptop, read a few emails and what I'm going to do that day for 30 min. I make my coffee (manually grinded coffee beans) which takes me another 15 minutes to make / drink.
I continue to work till 11:00 and then I go to the gym for about 2-2,5 hours
Come home around 1/1:30 pm and start making lunch (usually rice, meat, eggs and broccoli) and have a cup of Japenese green tea.
I work from 2 till about 5:30/6 pm and then I go shower and on Monday evenings I go to my Spanish class. Other evenings I either go for a walk (with the neighbors dog), have my salsa dancing class, read a fiction book, study some more Spanish (if I have the energy), watch something educational on YouTube, have a date with a lady, or I just sit on my couch and look out the window and enjoy being by myself and digest my thoughts. Usually I go to bed at around 9:45/10pm.

Weekends are more or less the same except instead of working I meet up with friends / family or I go to salsa parties to dance. Some weekends I go in nature for a 2-3 hour hike.

Oh and I check my emails / Whatsapp messages max 3 times per day.

I'm enjoying almost all the times of the day:
I enjoy my meditation in the morning
I enjoy my healthy and super tasty breakfast/lunch and dinner
I love my manually grounded coffee
Work is about 30% really enjoyable, 30% fun and rest of the time acceptable
I love working out, have a great gym and still making progress
I love learning a new language, go dancing, etc.

And when I'm tired of it all I can really really charge up from a 10-20 min nap or just sitting on my couch and reading a book or just stare out the window. Currently I never ever have a single moment where I was a victim of my cravings and lusts and felt ashamed afterwards. Which in the past I had the most with porn / searching for escorts and from time to time quite some from eating junkfood or binge watching some stupid series on NetFlix.

 

Maybe you guys mentioned it when it happened, that Akira Toriyama died recently. What a legend.

I actually started watching Dragon Ball again, and just before he died too. And I'm watching one episode a week, every Friday. I never got to see it on TV because I'm too young and I like the weekly viewing of it. I can't do binge watching anymore, and having that every Friday gives me something to look forward to. In a weird way it helps me to feel like the adventure of DB is helping me with my nofap journey. The progress the characters make in the story is like the progress I make in my own story. The next episode is where they got captured by Emepror Pilaf and he stole the last dragon ball. This is a lot more fun than binge watching too.

 

That is incredible. Did you have any issue with withdrawal symptoms? Some days I feel it so bad it saps all of my energy, I get a headache and chest pains from anxiety and I just feel like going to sleep. But the next day I'll have a lot more energy. Those withdrawal symptoms days can be really hard though.