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4 Years 100% Porn Free

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by PornFreeMattD, Mar 13, 2014.

  1. PornFreeMattD

    PornFreeMattD New Fapstronaut

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    Hey Guys,

    I am new to this forum and reddit in general but I wanted to share that I just got to 4 years, PMO free in Janaury. I am married so there is still sexual activity in our marriage but for many years in my marriage I could not go more than a week w/o looking at porn and mast. I had symptoms of Porn ED and I lot of shame that stuck to me in my daily life.

    My story like most of yours started early on when I was 7 and first saw a pornography magazine. In my teenage years, the pattern of PMO became daily ritual. I would steal magazines when I was young and started buying them when I was old enough. Then I moved to renting videos. In 1994- I got access to the internet and you can guess the rest.

    In 2001, my wife caught me downloading pictures late one night and that led to be honest with her for the first time. I started telling some other people in my life which was embarrassing but freeing. For the first time I was the same in the inside as the outside. I didn't have a hidden life.

    I had moderate success in a group I went to and then started a support group of my own. Part of my motivation to staying PMO free is to not let the other guys down.

    I am so happy to find this group. I would of loved it in the 90's when I felt really alone. If there is anything I can help with AMA. I never thought it was possible to go more than two weeks with out porn but now I am measuring years not weeks. It's totally possible. There's hope.

    Matt
     
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  2. Cojax

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    Wonderful to hear! 4 years! wow! I look forward to one porn free year, and my hopes are this is the year:)
     
  3. DarkATi

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    4 years just seems impossible right now... 18 days is hard enough...

    Congratulations on your success. I hope I can do the same and start counting stuff in years.
     
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  4. Raynethemagi

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    Awesome! I knew it! We as humans are always made for so much more!
     
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  5. Esterni

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    Hey :) Really cool to hear your success. I have a couple questions if you don't mind. I don't want to be a burden. :D For myself, I'm curious as to how your relationship with your wife changed the longer you went PMO free. I PMO nearly everyday even after satisfaction with my girlfriend. She doesnt care that I PMO but she would like it if i wasn't so horny with her all the time. Would going PMO free help that? I thought maybe by doing PMO that it would lessen the desire to do things with her so often. But it doesn't seem to help.
     
  6. AshD16

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    4 years is pretty awesome! I'm hoping that I can get that far. I once made it 4 and a half months without PMO but then relapsed. Now since Feb I've decided to try again and so far so good. I'm on day 40 of my recovery. Keep it up!
     
  7. gettingreal

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    Matt: (1) Wow, and (2) Thanks!!!

    Chase, hang in there, brother ... you got this.
     
  8. uchicha15

    uchicha15 Fapstronaut

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    Props to you man! How old were you when you started?
     
  9. woodswarth

    woodswarth New Fapstronaut

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    Well put. For the first time in my life too I've been honest with a therapist and my wife. To others reading this it takes a ton of courage to do this but the rewards far outweigh the perceived risks. For me it's a struggle with the type of porn, the fantasies,and the frequency of course. Admitting it has been the first step and obviously we have because we are here. Telling trusted people and letting people into my circle of trust has been the more difficult, but also the most rewarding part of this journey. I cannot underestimate the relief in having people to talk to. The act of sharing my shame, grief, anxiety, fear and terrors has been extremely therapeutic.
     
  10. jlrevived

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    Looking forward to reaching and passing your milestone, thanks for the words of encouragement.
     
  11. Staal

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    You sir, is a manly man. 4 YEARS! in a porn infested society like this. How the..
    What kind of group is that you attend?
     
  12. reedman

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    Your story is truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing it!
     
  13. greatconquerer

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    Congrats for your 4-year addiction free life. All the best for your future journey..
     
  14. Fedupwife

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    Congratulations to you for your success. Can I ask how your wife has learned to trust you? Or how you gained her trust back? I'm sure there were a barrel of lies that came with your recovery process.. I'm struggling with this. As a defence mechanism it's just easier not to believe anything my husband has to say.
     
  15. bizzlelop

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    wow you've gone a whole world cup awesome absolutely brilliant
     
  16. sigma_mahameru

    sigma_mahameru New Fapstronaut

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    Wow amzing. 4 years without porn . Hope i can reach my goals too.
     
  17. Mariposa

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    So inspiring! Thanks for sharing!
     
  18. pure lion

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    Matt you are courageous, 4 year is something !! good luck hope i'll do the same in my 22 years
     
  19. who

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    Congratulations to you. I hope to never PM again, but I feel I have to bear the burden longer because I can't bring myself to tell another. I don't know for sure how it would change things with my wife. I accept this, and if it leads to a better life, no one needs to know. I am glad to hear that you had the support you needed.
     
  20. SuperGxz

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    4 years that's a very well done job.
     

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