PMO is filling a void. Any help?

Hey Fortitude,

Be proud of yourself for realizing this and coming here to write about it. I would suggest continuing to come here and writing whatever thoughts and feelings you have as introspection can be a great healer.

My only other suggestion would be to join an SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) meeting in your area. I recommend it because it's been working for me, and I've seen it work for other people as a place to transform their loneliness, isolation and shame into feelings of togetherness and personal pride.

 

Figure out what it is about the fantasy that sex is a symbol for. The kind of porn you like/don’t like may give you clues. As an example, domination/humiliation was never my thing, enthusiastic consent is. I take that to mean I don’t need to feel powerful, I do need to feel wanted. I address that by being around people who want me there, and it doesn’t have to be in a sexual sense. Just hanging with family is fine. When I don’t feel wanted, my desire to PMO spikes.

It may be difficult to find your thing, as deep addiction has you seeking novelty more than anything else. But the kind of porn that first sucked you in, and the kind of porn you’re drawn to after abstaining a couple weeks, should give you a clue.

 

How do SAA meetings help one in recovering? I would like to know from your personnal experience