Comparing wife to ex-wife who was more seductive dress, acting

I might not be able to answer your question at the end of your post but I hope I can still give you some thing you can hold on to.

For my self I came to a conclusion that no matter what you are struggling with there are fundamental things that need to be cut out of your life in order to solve them, lessen them or find their true cause.

One of those fundamental things I think is no porn and no masturbation. I believe by time things will become more clear and the addictions and overwhelming thoughts, triggers, sensitivity, will fade away as it seems to be in your case as well.

And if it still not going away after more than a year then you might work on some other fundamental things.

I hope I could help while I need help my self as you can see my Day Counter is only Day 8. What I said is a collection of knowledge I agained from reflecting and thinking trying to understand other peoples problems and my own problems.

There might be someone who will answer who knows better then me. I wish you the best and keep telling us what you are doing so we can help and you might also help us by posting your story giving other people the chance to see they are not alone.

And I am sorry for your first marriage and wish you the best success in your personal journey to fullfilment and your second marriage.

 

I would say that your increased sexual interest in your wife is a result of cutting out porn, yes. In my experience, watching porn regularly does reduce your sensitivity in that regard and cutting it out makes you more responsive to low-level sexual titilation. Just keep ditching the PMO and I believe your attraction to your new wife will increase.

 

Hey there, thanks for sharing your story. It sounds like you've been through a lot. It's great that you've been clean for a few weeks and are noticing some positive changes. Keep focusing on the progress you're making, and take it one day at a time. You're not alone in this struggle. Stay strong!