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Almost 1 month. Don't feel better

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by John2024, Mar 23, 2024.

  1. John2024

    John2024 Fapstronaut

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    If anything, I feel kind of worse. I feel more tired during the day now. I feel angrier. I seek out more conflict. I feel less tolerant of other people. I raise my voice more often. I argue more often. I feel like I am in more of a rush, less patient. I don't feel more focused on whatever task I am doing, about the same. I feel more bored than usual when doing said tasks. I wake up more often in the night than I used to. I seem to be spending more time in bed per day on average. But roughly the same amount of sleep.

    I don't feel the need to rub the lamp anymore though. Not even when waking up at night. The snake doesn't randomly get out of the basket anymore on his own. He does get out on command so it seems to be working. Week 1 was rough. Week 2 was better. But after that not really a problem.

    Am I basically getting "roid rage"? Is my testosterone too high as a result of not letting the genie out?
     
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  2. Abel100%

    Abel100% Fapstronaut

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    Bienvenido a esta maravillosa comunidad...
     
  3. John2024

    John2024 Fapstronaut

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    Hey. Thank you for the welcome.
     
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  4. nomo

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    I think your problem might be that the only thing you are not doing is no PMO or MO. What other changes have you made in your life? Why did you PMO in the first place?

    My reason for PMO, besides the obvious reason that it feels good, was because other things in my life were not going well. I would go to the comfort of porn so I wouldn't have to deal with my frustrations in my life.
    Try making some additional changes beyond just abstaining.

    Good luck,
    Nomo
     
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  5. John2024

    John2024 Fapstronaut

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    Just doing no PMO. No other changes. I tried it long ago without noticing any benefits. And I decided to try again. See what happens. For me it doesn't really feel good to abstain so far, as I just explained why. When I do rub the lamp, I mainly do it because the genie wants out and it feels good, not as a distraction. I don't experience post nut clarity as some do. I don't feel bad after doing it. I feel good. I don't know what other changes to make and I'm not sure if they would help.

    You could call me a vocel. Is that a real word? Voluntarily celibate. No, not going through a recent breakup. After seeing how a lot of women are, looking up some statistics about marriage and couples in general, the high competition men experience in the dating world, the unrealistic expectations because of the high competition, I decided the juice is not worth the squeeze. Big investment (not necessarily money, but time and emotional investment) with high risk and usually not a great result.
     
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  6. Failing_upward

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    Having intimacy with women is still worth the hassle despite your research that shows otherwise.

    We have to actually experience life through trial and error sometimes

    Have you ever seen ‘Taxi Driver’?
     
    Last edited: Mar 23, 2024
  7. jimmyclear

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    Your hitting the plateau. Now, you need an outlet. Depending on where you are, you can go to an establishment to get some personal time with a woman.

    Remember, that "Roid Rage" your going through, is your Testosterone reclaiming its position.

    Stay away from the visual, because that's porn's trap.

    Been researching why in certain cultures (Yes, I'm looking at you Philippines), that a woman is uncomfortable in the light when both are engaged in Happy Loving.

    Its Touch. Have someone else give you a touch. But it has to be good, or else your going to fall into the PMO spiral again.

    Why am I saying this? Went to a masseuse, asked for the Happy Ending, got it with extras. Went home, deleted my entire Porno stash, burned all physical copies, and said, "FINALLY! I have a goal worth touching!"
     
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  8. Khri$$ Javan

    Khri$$ Javan Temporarily Suspended

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    This. except I been doing this for 5+ months. I'm not some badass or a bully that thinks he can kick everyone ass I just haven't fucked in almost 3 years, its making me real aggressive. I got too much rage. Lack of nookie is making me want to throw them hands for real.
     
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  9. Be Inspired

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    It's normal what you are going through. These may be long-term withdrawals. It would be strange if you felt better after a single month. PMO was an anesthesia. Now you see the issues coming to the surface that before were masked with PMO abuse. Don't quit. Keep coming back to the forum. You have a real chance to break free.
     
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  10. John2024

    John2024 Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, I saw it. Great movie. No way I would go to such lenghts for a woman. Or anyone. I am a selfish person.

    Thanks for the encouragement. So will I feel better in time?

    And is it healthy to NOT let the genie out of the lamp once in a while? From a purely biological point of view. I heard reports about lowering the risk of prostate and testicular cancer but nothing conclusive. What about doing the occasional MO without P for health reasons?
     
    Last edited: Mar 24, 2024
  11. Be Inspired

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    I tried recovering with occasional M but that didn't work for me.
     
  12. John2024

    John2024 Fapstronaut

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    So today I wanted to let the genie out. I think it's healthy occasionally, still not sure. Just with M no P. I was not "in the mood" as you could call it. I'm always in the mood when doing PMO or MO regularly. Hard time getting the snake out of the basket. He didn't really want to dance to the M. I panicked a bit. Did some P. Helped very little. Panicked some more. Did just M with no P. The snake was never fully out of the basket. And managed to O. A very small genie out of the lamp after this break. Panicked some more.

    After reading about this I think I'm going through a flatline. Little to no libido. I hope that's all. This was scary.
     
  13. nomo

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    Sorry, but I can't relate. I would never want to be celibate. My sex drive was always strong and I started MO when I was about 12, and started pursuing girlfriends for sexual release and companionship at that age. I have been on a lifelong pursuit of female companionship and enjoyed my relationships.

    If you are not seeing benefits and you only MO occasionally then why not continue to MO? It sounds like MO isn't a problem for you and not doing it doesn't change anything. I'm still going back to my original advice, if you want a better life you need to make more changes in your life.
     
  14. jimmyclear

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    Your just in the wrong environment. Heck, I am in that position as well. The only real relationship I have are just the ones I pay for their company.

    If my goal is to have a family, I am NOT going to have a family in the West (Australasia, Western Europe, and Northern America; with some debate as to whether those in Eastern Europe and Latin America). Your chances of having a happy and fulfilling marriage is in the 0.005% success rate. Why? Traditional Values, National Laws, the lack of morals, Lack of Unity, its a comprehensive list where you need to ask if its worth the hassle.

    You give everything for Love. You bleed for it, stay up through restless night, give everything you have just for it, and here in the West, it's worth less.

    But go for the more Traditional states, or Asian states that still value Love and Relation, the Man is Celebrated.

    You don't need to go VoCel. Go Passport. Explore. Give your body a reason to live, due to the state that we're in of "Spirit Rules Body". Try having real sex. None of this fake visual stuff.
     
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