Wanting to regain libido questions ! HELP needed pls

You can’t M to partially naked images of your partner because that’s staying inside the paradigm of porn. Sex is supposed to be for bonding, with lots of eye and skin contact, it’s about trust and giving and receiving, it’s about a relationship between two specific people, for a specific purpose. Sex also makes babies, and it’s imperative for the survival of those babies for the parents to be in a strong, supportive relationship. It also feels good, and people decided it would be great if we could feel good without having to build a relationship and trust and be exclusive and all that. We invented contraception, and thought that babies were the only consequence of sex, besides pleasure. We thought that we could have sex with anyone, anytime and anywhere, and the only result would be that we feel better, more often. Porn is part of all of that, a practice that appears at first to be a consequence free… I dunno, a diversion, a hobby. A form of entertainment, like watching any other video or streaming show, just… stickier. As it turns out, humans are a lot more physically and psychologically complex than that. For one thing, contraception did not reduce the number of unwanted babies being born, it actually increased. For another, we’re finding human men in particular can have too much of what we thought was a good thing. Porn messes with our heads and confuses our expectations, and you’ve seen how it messes with us physically as well. Part of that is, it’s because we treat sex as just a thing we do to feel good, so the people we do it with become things we use to feel good. Sex becomes all about us. When you’re in that mindset, there’s no natural limits to what you can do and what you can consume, and what you can use, to feel good, so you always end up escalating back to the levels of use you were at before you decided to cut back. M’ing to a partially nude pic of your partner is good… but pretty soon you won’t get the same level of pleasure from it as before, so you go to a fully nude pic. Then, you go to pics that aren’t your partner. Then before you know it you’re back to whatever level you were before, with PIED or a reduced appetite for your partner, because it’s not about her anymore and what she wants, and the connection you have between yourselves. Now it’s all about you, and she’s just a substitute for all the women you wish you had, because they look better and look like they do it better and appear to be more into it than your partner ever was.

The mechanism behind it is theory, however, but the action is not. We know pretty much everyone who tries to compromise with addiction doesn’t win. You have to do hard mode because it’s the only thing that works, otherwise you stay addicted.