Sexting strangers

ok but you have a wife or serious gf ?
so guys are doing because they are horny and they wanna cum? thats it and its easy to find nowadays thats all?

 

No, I have no partner. That's the problem for me.

When one is horny, I need sexting with anyone... porn sites... abilities are endless.

On the other hand I don't like being around people, but you could have sex drive. Today I blocked using DNS all porn sites on my laptop. My phone is dumb phone as I couldn't buy new one when one broke on me last year. Now I am happy with my dumb phone and no need for other phone with smart features. I found out one was sexting strangers on smart phone on the go... it was easy... just open site and one more rush...

So my option was to use this app https://adguard.com/en/article/parental-control-software.html

I password protected it, password is hard to write/remember and it's stored in my second mail which I use only once a half year to keep it active. There password is in archive at Notes option. Email password for that email is not stored in password manager, is hard to remember and I change it once a year at least. Password for that is on my computer at one random file, which you need to locate first. So I really no more find porn.

It also hides any porn results even if you search on Google etc. with specify word to find it. Same with pictures, nothing "naked".

On top of that, I add any site one is addicted to which is not porn related/blocked. Any cam sites for random strangers.
Any sexting sites etc. It is always blocked and you get big message of parental control instead of content.

Like I said removing the block is needing some work on your side, so it's not worth the 15 minutes of your life for one quick rush...

Cheers!!

 

Thank you for starting this thread. 56 year old married guy here, and I do have regular sex. Why was I sexting? Three reasons:
1. It was the immediate attention
2. The ability to share insecurities about my own sex life with a stranger and they’d think it was “ hot “
3. The exciting dopamine delivery system allowed me to fall into a rabbit hole and think of nothing else. It was a high.
I only stopped when I realized it was hurting my actual sex life by not being able to get hard and also carrying some guilt and a secret into the relationship.
Quitting this habit honestly has been easy. I don’t even crave it. Trying now to let my brain heal while in a relationship is the biggest challenge.

 

I can definitely relate to your list of three reasons. Those are also three of the reasons I found myself deeply addicted to not only sexting/video chats, but also illicit massage parlors and escorts.

I've done a complete 180 over the past 4 months or so, but it certainly hasn't been easy. I remain consistent in my recovery program - that's been the major difference this go around for me.

I'm grateful to be sober today and to be part of a community where I don't feel alone. It's incredibly refreshing to read comments and posts from others that deeply resonate. Having the support from others, and supporting others, is paramount to my recovery.

Wishing you the best!

 

Thanks. Sharing our stories keeps us focused.

 

I would add this : Reddit was the site I needed to block my access to, and was able to do so with an app called “ Freedom” in the App Store. It creates just enough of a barrier to access to shut down my curiosity.

 

Hi everybody. I want to tell you my experience (actually I need more than "want").

Porn doesn´t attracts to me and turns me on as it used to. I´ve had resets within several months of distance, but this last sunday I almost destroyed my image, dignity, privacy, etc.

Sometimes I get down in mood like if nothing matters or like if nothing has sense, and the sunday was one of that days. This, at the same time with other factors that were boredom, sadness, no plans for that evening, beeing horney, feeling disconnected from myself, having talked to strangers in previous occasions with no "bad" consequences were present at the same moment. And they made me fell in extortion.

I do not usually accept unknown facebook users, but this time I was bored and though that it was going to be as the same previous occasions. So I accepted a request from an obvious fake profile of a girl, and talk to her asking her what she wanted. Later in the noon she replied and I followed the conversation but this person was experienced and made the conversation feel like it was real (again I was bored and with this feeling of indifference). So "we" made a videocall and there she was half-naked (at this point I stopped thinking, at least in a rational and critical way, and lost control of myself), and she started telling me to show my parts. And I did not show it, but I took my clothes off and show my part through the boxers. I noticed that the girl wasn´t following the conversation neither the videocall, like if she was acting or not knowing she was in a videocall. And I suddenly realized I was beeing filmed, just a moment later this person showed me the recording of myself beeing halfnaked. And then started to threat to show this video to the world and he/she send it to 2 of my contacts (one is a bussiness page and the other was a friend, but this friend told me that she didn´t accept this person´s message) so I blocked him/her and canceled my fb account (I think I´ll erase it definitely tomorrow).

This person can´t contact me or my friends anymore, but having had this "erotic" experience with an "unreal" girl (she may even be a girl under prostitution) and knowing that somebody has a video of myself stripping and almost showing my penns (or at least showing it behind the clothes) makes me feel like unworthy, destroyed, dirty, fool.

 

Classic con situation. Just see it as a lesson learned. Move on!

 

I had the same thing happen to me in 2020, during the lockdown whilst my wife was upstairs. They threatened to send to my employer and friends and family (before my profile was private) my cam/dick pics. Tbh I didn't panic and called the girl's bluff. I don't think she did it anyway as I reported the account.

I don't think these scammers do anything , and if they did - so what? Deep down i couldn't care if someone saw my dick. I'm at that level now. I want out, but i keep relapsing. I'm done with porn and sexting. It's only really boredom that brings us back here, there is no genuine want or need for me anymore. It's just habit. All we have to do it break it.