How do I get a specific porn scene out of my head?

Get busy in life and don't try too hard to get that scene out of your mind because it can have the opposite effect.

All the best!

 

Thart's a tricky one. I still have some of my fav scenes flash back from time to time.

 

This may sound counter intuitive, but the more you try to forget about a certain scene the more your likely to remember it as you're indirectly bringing attention to it. This may sound easy, but it's extremely difficult to do. First and most importantly, forgive yourself and choose to let this go.

 

It's called Euphoric Recall, google it.

 

Idk.. maybe you will never truly forget it.. just like someone who was attacked or abused will never 100% forget what happened…

but over time perhaps the feelings associated with this scene will weaken so much that it will be just a very, very distant memory.. one that can be easily dismissed out of mind without any more thinking about it

 

This is a tricky one, but it can be done. It won't be quick or easy. It will take a lot of hard work and dedication, but you can get to a point in life where the memory of that scene fades. It may not ever go away completely, but it will fade in time to the point that it doesn't trigger you all the time. You have to get into the 12 step Sexaholics Anonymous program. (sa.org/f2f) They give you the tools to fight this addiction. In my opinion, that's the best (and pretty much only) way.

 

This is totally on point. You cannot think to NOT think about something. Stop trying to forget, just accept that you watched some bad shit and focus on your recovery instead.

 

As others have said--you can't prevent yourself from thinking about something. But you can train yourself to redirect your thoughts to other things.

Meditation is a great tool in this respect. And when I speak of meditation, I'm just speaking of the practice of being aware of your own thoughts. Instead of just going through life on autopilot, take a few minutes each day to truly think about what you're thinking. Be a "conscious observer" of your own mind.

When "that scene" comes up in your head, don't just let it get you aroused like usual. Instead, be curious about it. Why has it had that effect on you? Recognize the trigger, and then shift your attention to something more meaningful or productive to you.

When people meditate, they often focus on their breath. And when their mind starts to drift (which it will, inevitably), they just recognize it and bring their attention back to their breathing. I would suggest doing the same kind of exercise when this scene comes to mind: notice it without judgment, acknowledge it, and gently redirect your thinking toward another task or interest.

 

From my experience even the best porn scenes get boring after a while. The same goes with fantasy.
One thing I have done is go somewhere without any electronics and just embrace whatevers been on my mind. I left myself get an erection and I masturbate if I feel like it. The most important thing though for me is I DO NOT look at more. This includes "innocent" looking like if I have a crush on a female friend I make sure not to feed my mind Facebook pictures.

 

From my experience and others, there is sadly no alleviation for this. What has worked for me and other forum posts I've seen have said to keep very busy. Work, social stimulation, hobbies, getting into life or death situations (kidding) help. You won't be thinking about some stupid scene involving brain dead neanderthalic cretins once you do the above. And if your hands are idle, think about what porn has done to you.

 

Thank you for sharing your concerns brother. You have come to the right place.

Prayer has always been very helpful to me. I am not proselytizing or inviting anyone to attend my church (or any church, for that matte. In my experience, a sincere and ardent prayer will be answered. I have been in the same exact situation as you.

Also, time will pass and the memories will fade if you don't engage with the memory. Do not engage in euphoric recall under any circumstances or you will just reinforce the image or the memory. These flashbacks are a normal part of early abstinence. This means that you are likely still in the acute withdrawals phase.

Hope this helps.

I have 171 days of continuous abstinence from PMO today (thank God).

 

Couldn't read all the comments but I had this issue once. Keep in mind, I haven't watched p in over 5 years. Still think about it and sometimes fantasize about it. But I have distanced myself from doing it. There was one thing I used to really like and what helped me get over it was discussing with another addict. I didn't get too graphic or descriptive just said there's this thing I can't let go of. When we talked about the emotions behind it, that helped me move on. So now when I think about it, I might think oh I wanna see that again but I also remember the conversation I had and the feelings and triggers behind everything. Kind of deconstructed it in a way, makes it less appealing. Still a little appealing but in reality not appealing at all because will cause too much pain to go back to that life.

 

Time spent with busying tasks and I'd say the absorption of different kinds of healthy media. Time has been the best thing for me imho.

 

With time

 

Porn does have a way of burning images into your brain--perhaps permanently. I started using over 40 years ago when porn was mostly in magazine form. I still have vivid memories of one or two images of women I looked at in a magazine back then. Once in a while those same images rise to the surface for no reason I can fully explain. But the more I fight this addiction, the less appealing those images are to me.

 

Slightly discouraging that this is still an issue after 270 days. Do you still regularly get urges this far in?

 

I think the answer is you can't. You can't play with fire and not get burned. Once you get burnt the scars will remain with you for life. The best thing to do is accept the scars and move on with your life.