Day 50: Flatline Ongoing But Longest Streak In 10 Years I'm 47. I'm more wired for real/human sex and didn't grow up with P, but in between girlfriends or situations, I used P and it became an issue in recent years. I'd say the last 4 years I was really struggling to quit. ...Ive been seeing a therapist for 3.5 years which has helped a lot. Since Day 1, I've been having relations with my girlfriend who is aware, so I've not had semen retention during these 50 days. She's understanding and we both decided to back off the physical activity a bit to help me rewire quicker. She just moved back home from overseas so we were having sex almost daily for about 4 weeks, all in December. I'm currently flatlining hard for the second time in 50 days. I also relapsed only once to PMO on Day 43 just to 'test' things, which was a mistake, but I've moved on. There was NO chaser effect at all. I'c enot looked at P otherwise or M'd or O'd. SO these are pretty good results and progress for me. I'm riding out the flatline as best I can and thankfully my partner is very understanding. I've had zero urges during this time and the only reason I 'tested' to PMO was b/c I'm experiencing some ED and PE. My anxiety increased significantly on day's 38 - 41 and has slightly reduced. I've had some pretty severe brain fog as well. Due to this, I'm also now having CPPS, pelvic floor dysfunction which creates the loop of more health/sexual anxiety and thus more severe ED and PE. It's a vicious cycle. I hope to get out of the flatline ASAP as well as recover from the ED and PE soon. 50 Days with only 1 relapse isn't too bad. Look forward to some feedback!
Congratulations! I think that too much sex might also reduce your libido overall. Don't be afraid of the flatline, look at it as part of the process, and always remember that it is temporary, think of the long term. Wish you luck!
Day 50 is just the beginning. Considering a slip on day 43, you're effectively 7 days with no PMO. It's not a huge setback because it wasn't a binge but it's still a setback. Day 50 is not a very long stretch. Day 7 is not long at all. Be patient with yourself. I am 40 y.o currently on Day 140 And I have not had binges on PMO since October of 2023 I must say that it still feels like I am in PAWS So be patient. It will take time to recover I would talk to your partner about maybe taking a break with the sex for 30 days or so
Why test yourself when you had sex everyday for the whole month of december? You know everything works well below the belt
I think flatlining at this point in your journey is nothing but positive. The fact that you have experienced social anxiety, even better. I think the general idea of the flatline is for your nervous system to go "offline" while you recover. Social anxiety, low mood and anything else you are experiencing is just the side effects of the body recovering. Keep going and wait for your nervous system to come back online then you will be good to go. It is worth the wait for sure.
thanks for the encouragement! My anxiety has been around ED and PE; my erection quality has been inconsistent, and mostly less than ideal and I’ve had more premature ejaculation than usual, but I believe both of those are exacerbated by the anxiety that I have about not pleasing my partner, because my brain and my body are going through this shift. Thankfully, she’s been very understanding. I am very proud of myself as this is the longest I’ve gone without PMO since I can remember. I think for me, even though I’m not doing hard mode, having consistent sex with my partner has been really helpful. It’s enabled me to see that my dick is not broken and then I can still please someone I love physically, in addition to the non-physical intimacy that we have. that said, I have done hard mode before and I think the longest I’ve gone in the last 10 years was maybe 25 days, and I can definitely attest to the benefits of semen retention for 25 days. I felt like an animal. I don’t have that animal feeling consistently now, but I think I’m in the deeper end of a flat line, coming up on 60 days with only one relapse and 60 days. And my relapse was not a binge at all. It was a one and done. Someone earlier asked why I even tested when I relapsed. I tested because my erection quality with my partner was getting worse and I just wanted to see if P made any difference. The fact of the matter is it really didn’t, and it wasn’t worth it, as you all know, a peak or a test is never worth it. I really appreciate you guys chiming in on this thread. It also makes a big difference in having a positive outlook knowing that people are listening to you and there to help
