I was looking back at my Nofap journey and glanced over my first post on these forums which was dated November of 2013... so over 10 years now (listed below). Although I've learned a lot about myself and met some great people in the community during these years of attempting a full recovery, I'm still nowhere close to a full reboot. I'm sick and tired of doing the same old shit and seeing the same old results. I'm on Day 1 and it's a new day, week, month, and year. I've reminded myself of my physical, mental, and spiritual goals so that I go into these next 90 days with a clear vision. It's now or never. Let's do this gents. Cringe Warning: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/it-stops-here-hopefully.1539/
What seems to be stopping you? I'm sure you've asked (and been asked) this question a lot. Is it past trauma? An unhealthy lifestyle? A desire to PMO? For me it's poor stress management and a desire to escape it and O. I've taken up journaling and that helped with stress. Mantras and similar reinforcement helped with managing my desires. I've struggled about a decade now but by now fixing the source problems have seen actual results.
That's a good question. I think it's a multitude of different factors and circumstances I was in so it's hard for me to pinpoint a single reason why I've been struggling. Escapism has been a big culprit for me when it comes to PMO. I've been dealing with feelings of loneliness over the years and it's led me to consistently rely on porn as a security blanket. And like you, I think stress is also something that I don't do well with managing in a healthy way. That's good that you're implementing ways to address that though. Have you tried joining an accountability group or having an accountability partner? It's another good way of talking through your emotions and doing it with other dudes that share similar goals.
Definitely anticipate the lows, especially after long streaks it will get tempting to browse your phone for porn on mornings where you are feeling pretty good about yourself, and then that time will turn into a next time the next morning, and it will more or less become a habit again, thinking that this time you won't face any consequences, personally I don't think porn blockers are the way as you will find a way around them when you want to, and may even make you more determined to end up on that website. You will tell yourself those websites are there for a reason eventually, let's face it, and you will be very tempted to single them out, it really is up to us to remember the consequences and look for other activities that are energizing and healing instead of the opposite.
Fuck you should change the blanket you put on your body. I hope you do change your boxers everyday yes? Instead of putting the same blanket for 10 years try to change the blanket you put on ironically. With trying comes failure well its a lesson after all yes? All those hidden gremlins in your blanket should be throw away .
