Stress and masturbation

The best way to get rid of stress is movement - go for a walk, go to the gym, move your body.

 

That’s interesting…I’ve always known this but never categorized it as “movement.”

It’d be good to intentionally respond to stress in this way next time I feel that t lurking and coming up in my mind.

 

Two simple exercises that involve the body, mind and breath have been working wonders for me, especially when practiced everyday.

 

When an urge to watch porn hits, drop down and do as many pushups as you can. I guarantee when you are finished the last thing on your mind will be to watch porn.

 

I don’t have urges to watch porn anymore. I’ve been off a year.

But when I’m tempted to go to a massage parlor or just masturbate, I should try this. Thanks for sharing!

 

Or burpees, if the urges are particularly bad.

 

Stress is definitely a major killer, one of the exalted princes of addiction.

 

stress is one of the main leading factors to masturbation so make sure you find alternative ways to get rid of stress like going for a walk or hitting the gym

 

Look man, that isn't a good way to solve problems.

Using PMO makes stress worse.

If you feel stress, you need to just feel it in order to get used to it.

Better yet, go lift weights.

 

My parents are the stress factor for me.

I've been living on my own for a few years now and I've noticed I would always relapse a few days after meeting them for dinner or something. In addition, I noticed the longer I went without talking to my parents, the easier nofap got. After years of trying to distance myself from them, I'm washing my hands of my parents who wish to claw me down to hell.

 

What if your perception and reactions to your parents is causing you stress?

 

This is exactly why it's taken me so long to stop contact with them, I always thought it was my issue and something I was projecting onto my parents, but couldn't stomach the idea that they were projecting toxicity onto me. Before, I would be so insecure and ashamed of myself to let a comment like this make me doubt the evidence before my eyes and my own life experiences, but not anymore

 

What’s a specific example of this? if you don’t mind sharing…

 

While I appreciate your willingness to take a huge risk in playing the devil's advocate regarding my unique family issues, do you even posses the moral/religious literacy to understand the significance of such an example if I were to give you one?

 

Well, of course I know next to nothing about your situation. I'm not seeking to blame anyone. I'm simply saying what if our reactions to people/situations, and to memories arising in our minds, is causing us to suffer right here and now?

 

I understand what you're saying and I think Ive had the exact same thought before. And you're 100% correct in accepting the responsibility that many of our relationship issues can be solved if we hold ourselves accountable and put in an effort, and discipline to watch our reactions to arising memories.

Conversely, sometimes one sided good intentions and good will aren't enough to fix a situation, especially with parent-child relationships where the child is predisposed to intrinsically trust the leadership of the parent (a bond and relationship that begins in the womb, I don't believe such a bond can possibly be broken). And on the opposite side of the relationship, parents are predisposed to dismiss the leadership intentions, the moral initiative, of the child. It sounds odd, but with parents, isn't it "their way or the highway?"

So actually you're right, I could "fix things" with my parents. What's more, following their guidance comes naturally. The deciding factor here is that I wholeheartedly reject their leadership (not because of any possible incompetence on their part, but because of their lack of morals and guiding principles). Such leadership has lead me to very dark places, and I hate it. I've been riding on a ship with a blind captain for 22 years, and I've decided it is better to take a lifeboat and quit the ship than to stay aboard until it's inevitable tragic demise.

You probably should not follow my example, and I'm not trying to give advice. I just thought my situation was relevant to the op's question.

And another of his disciples said unto him, Lord, suffer me first to go and bury my father. But Jesus said unto him, Follow me; and let the dead bury their dead. Matthew 8:21,22
https://catholicism.org/let-the-dead-bury-their-dead.html

 

Stress has definitely been a trigger for me. I think it's the brain trying to seduce you into momentarily replacing the negative emotions with some dopamine. But of course it's far from helpful and it's good you recognise it and are trying to do something about it

 

Thanks for your thoughtful reply and the passage from Matthew. I am attempting (haha!) to follow the inner guidance, “Christ in you, the hope of glory.” It sounds like you are too.
Wishing you all the best for 2024!

 

Try me. I have a deep morality instilled in me by my own Protestant parents and a rigorous religious background as well. I’d love to hear more of your story.