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Feel like I'm planning my next (first) relapse

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by hhh999, Dec 30, 2023.

  1. Dec 30, 2023 #1
    hhh999

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    I keep finding myself fantasizing about all the different kinds of porn I'll watch when my "streak is over". I committed never to watch porn again, but for some reason, something makes me subconsciously feel like this is only for a set period of time, and that I'll be "allowed" to PMO once that period is over.
     
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  2. Dec 30, 2023 #2
    ABigGuyForYou

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    First, 65 days, nice work man!!!

    I feel that. The brain starts thinking about what it's missing, it's normal for sure... what's the longest you've been without before?
     
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  3. Dec 30, 2023 #3
    Learner09

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    You know the problem with you ?
    Actually you defined abstaining from porn as soberity .So basically you are allowing your brain to fantasize because as long as you not watch porn brain won't consider it as bad .
    That was a problem for Me too .
    So ,this time I defined my Soberity as no fantasizing about erotic things it may be porn or anything else
    So now as the thought came I will counter it so my mind won't lost this time ...

    Actually Tyson discovered this first that even after abstaining from porn he relapsed because of fantasises.
     
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  4. Dec 31, 2023 #4
    jk243

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    I had the same feeling when I had my longest streak. I would just advise you to fight them or at least ignore them cause you know it is a lie and you will be sad and dissatisfied
     
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  5. Dec 31, 2023 #5
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    Yeah, i was planning in my head how it would be to watch VR porn on Samsung upcoming 4K/eye VR-headset.
    Its atleast a year away so hopefully i am cured by then and wont want porn :p
     
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  6. Dec 31, 2023 #6
    hhh999

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    I've been without porn since June 8, 2023 (206 days ago). I started my first hard mode streak on July 2, which I consciously chose to end 7 days after I hit my original goal of 90 days. A few days before the end of November, I made a challenge for myself that I would do another hard mode streak, except instead of setting my goal as being a set number of days, I set my goal to continue the streak until I get laid. I've had a few small slip-ups here and there, but no major slip-ups and no relapses.
     
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  7. Dec 31, 2023 #7
    hhh999

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    I try not to fantasize about anything, however, unlike watching porn or MO, trying not to fantasize is like trying not to think about a pink elephant. Even if you try not to think about sex (which I do try), you have no way of guaranteeing through conscious behavior alone that you'll succeed.
     
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  8. Dec 31, 2023 #8
    hhh999

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    Thank you. I gotta remind myself how psychologically painful a hypothetical relapse would be. I sometimes have nightmares where I relapse to PMO.
     
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  9. Dec 31, 2023 #9
    Learner09

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    Well bruh it helped me ...it helped "Mike Tyson " yeah that was his concept.
    I don't know if there is guarantee or not but a psychologist said that so I believed it and till now I am fine.
     
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  10. Dec 31, 2023 #10
    hhh999

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    So, even if you accidentally think about sex without realizing it, do you consider that a relapse?
     
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  11. Dec 31, 2023 #11
    Learner09

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    Omg that's not what I said ...
    So , firstly we have to find the first step which leads us toward relapse.
    In most of the cases it is fantasizing.
    So , I defined my soberity as not fantasizing about porn .
    So , if I fantasise now I know that it is against my rule so I will try to stop it which I consider normal if I define porn as soberity.
     
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  12. Dec 31, 2023 #12
    ABigGuyForYou

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    Okay, gotcha! It sounds like you have pretty solid control over this TBH. That's a great start.

    My longest streak ended somewhere around 400 days. I've told the whole story elsewhere, but I guess the answer to fantasies about going back to porn is to think of a streak only as a means to permanence. Right now, I am going for a 30 day streak. However that's not where it'll end. Then I want a 60, then a 90, then a 120, then a 180, then a 365 streak. My goal is total liberty.

    Fantasies are tough to fight in general. Not sure what I'm saying is a foolproof strategy, but I think it's a good place to start to at least try to remove conscious thoughts like "I'm gonna go wild once I hit [insert number here]."
     
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