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I keep calling my gf my exes name

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Deleted Account, Aug 20, 2023.

  1. 2 months in and I’m doing better but I wonder if porn fucked up my brain. This is the second time I called my gf my exes name. They sound similar but she seems to think I’m saying it because I was angry with her. I really don’t know thoughts?
     
  2. Megasameru

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    I don't understand why people didn't answer this yet.

    I hope you are doing alright! It's very common to occasionally say the wrong name to you partner, and it basically means nothing. No, it doesn't mean you miss your ex, or that you wish she was your ex, or that you are mad at her, or that she reminds you of her, or any other reason her head may construct. But it is
    understandable for her to be jealous! It's a hard thing to experience.

    1. First of all, be understanding. It's very normal for her to feel weird, a little jealous, and to plot a lot of crazy stories in her head. It's only natural. Listen to her to know exactly how she feels, try to consciously understand it, don't assume how she feels! Open your ears. Most of the time this is all you will need to do.
    2. Don't try to overexplain. As I said, it's something that just happens. You have little control over it, and most likely there is no underlying reason you can come up with. It just happens and it says nothing of how you feel about her.
    3. Offer reasurance. Tell her how much you love her. Be communicative and honest. You are not doing it because you're angry. It's an honest mistake.

    HMU if you need to talk!
     
  3. Hey thanks so much for replying! I almost slipped up the other day again but she didn’t hear me and I got away with it. I feel as almost it’s become an anxious tick I’ve developed. Because I’m so anxious I’m gonna say it I anxiously remind myself that I shouldn’t say it. So then I think about it and it’s on my brain. It’s a vicious cycle. Make sense?
     
  4. Megasameru

    Megasameru Fapstronaut

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    Makes lot of sense. You should really consider bringing up these thoughts to her. Tell her how you fell. It's ok to feel anxious.
    Soon you'll even make jokes about it with her.
    Bless!
     
  5. Onuphrios

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    hehe this actually happened to me too. Its a little bit funny thinking about it now. Dont worry, as said, its normal. I mostly confused their names when I was complaining about a minor thing both had a little bit in common, it felt a little bit like a flashback. My sister sometimes calls me with her husbands name, both our names start wit the same letter and my mum sometimes says to me my brothers name. I believe you are overthinking too much :)
     
  6. Hopingforchange

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    Happened to me also, there was a period where I basically got obsessed and afraid of saying the wrong brain. Probably a secondary effect of porn fucking up your brain
     
  7. Hopingforchange

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    A bit of urges but hitting the gym hard today, going to do some cardio , abs and sauna
     
  8. Megasameru

    Megasameru Fapstronaut

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    weird place to put it but very proud of u :emoji_muscle::emoji_muscle:
     

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