Not able to stop porn and masturbating

I'm here my friend.

 

I'm in this miserable status. But together we can climb back up.

 

You can DM me from this forum for now. I think I have to set Telegram on my laptop.

 

For a lot of guys (including myself) it's really hard to stop PMO once and forever in a single run. I think postpone every time the relapse is somewhat good, you can slowly "unlink" your brain to porn. The important part is to not binge or edging during the relapse. Every time you relapse, try to set a later date the next time, for example, you relapse at day 14, next streak try to relapse at day 25 or 30, and so on. In this way it's easier to made longer streaks. I did the same and I've made streaks of 7, 14, 25, 30, 42, 64 and 78 (the last one). In the current streak I wish to be able to stay clean for at least 90/100 days, if not even longer. At a certain point, the desire to PMO should vanish or be less pushy.

 

Hello! I'm still looking for an accountability partner

 

You've made a very good point. Because yes, when someone relapses, it's very easy for them to go binge and relapse 4 or more relapses after that initial relapse. And what's the most important thing here is that it's very important that it's FAR FAR better to relapse just ONCE than to relapse multiple times.

Obviously, the best is zero, no relapse, but still 1 is far better than 2,3,4 or more relapses... Because relapsing once is never the same thing as relapsing twice or more, because each relapse is worse, but the thing is that our negative thoughts want us to be swollen by it, so they want more, our desires want us to go for more, to go for that second, third, fourth, fifth relapse and that's the real problem. If you have a long-lasting pmo addiction, if you go from doing it 3 times a day to few times per week don't punish yourself for it, eventually, you'll get to no relapses, the most important is to stay away from multiple relapses...

 

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hey friend ,Avoid want sth more than nofap，and be honest to yourself

 

set boundaries and have a deeper "WHY". be honest indeed to your self which is important. I also suggest joining a 12step program with SAA(Sex Addict Anonymous) which they host meetings everyday and discuss how to overcome the addiction. Goodluck brother! All the best! We will all recover from this!

 

Hello, I think you have a typo in your post title. It says "Not able to stop porn and masturbating", it should say "Able to stop porn and masturbating". You can do it I believe in you.