Hi guys, i'm 17 years old. At the age of 15, I started watching porn while masturbating (once a day). Lately I've noticed that the penis doesn't get bigger without porn. I've had a girlfriend from 2 months, when she started masturbating me (first time with a girl) I didn't have an erection. I was terribly worried, I finished alone without an erection. I'm so nervous about this situation, I haven't masturbated once since. A week passed, in 1-3 days I was more aroused and the penis even stood on its own in random situations or when I thought about a girl, but it was so that, for example, at 3 pm I could have an erection and at 5 pm even if I thought a lot about her, I wouldn't. Today (day 7 without masturbation) I don't feel any arousal when I think about it and I haven't even had morning erections. I'm terribly worried about this. I came across this forum through a website, I hope someone can help me what to do in this situation. My questions: 1) can the lack of an erection with a girl be caused by pornography or the habit of masturbating with my hand? 2)What worries me the most is that I don't have an erection with my girlfriend, even though I fantasize about her in the evenings and I'm attracted to her. I would like to have an erection as soon as possible so that a girl can do me a good job when can this happen? 3) Is it normal that after a week I don't feel any arousal and I don't have an erection at all during the day? 4) I don't want to go back to porn and I won't and I don't feel any attraction to it after a week as long as I have no erection. I have a night with my girlfriend next week, how should I behave? He can masturbate today to get the sex drive back or better not. How to behave with her. 5) I feel hopeless and unmanly without an erection with a girl, when will he return to normal? That's all my questions, I'll gladly read all the news, all the advice because I'm terribly nervous about this situation. Please advise what to do in this situation!!! let anyone who can give me smallest advice write Thanks you!
Evening update: Today during the whole day I had 1 erection when I thought about my girlfriend. I also have fears about my relationship. it all breaks me down. I want to cry I don't know why, help
yes , masturbation , and porn with masturbation , rewire your brain , porn makes you think that is sex , and masturbation , if u do it very hard , leads to death grip syndrome , i cannot explain actual i am sayng what i understand about it , i have same problem , alot of peoples also . I think if u take a break from porn and masturbation for some time u will be ok , also u can read more about it somewhere in this forum for sure .
You are going to be fine. Too much porn can give you temporary ED, but it will go away when you stop watching it. Stop watching porn or masturbating and let the sexual tension build. A bigger challenge might be the fact that you've gotten into your own head. The stress and anxiety of worrying about not getting hard can keep you from getting hard. Relax and try to enjoy yourself. Keep in mind that you could fake not wanting to go all the way if you're fooling around and nothing is happening for you. That can reduce the worry and pressure on you. Good luck. You're gonna be fine.
Thanks for the answer, please help me for the next night with a girl (next week), but I don't know if I should let her need me for now, because I don't see any sex drive at all, and I don't have an erection at all, even if I talk about her fantasizes where until 5 days ago while semi-erect was fantasizing about her. Maybe its flatline? What do you think about it?
I think your best bet is to try to relax and bit stress. You don't have to have sex next time you get together. Go out and plan on "probably not having sex but maybe". That mindset might help the stress and anxiety, which I believe is your biggest problem. Ive had a few issues before where the first time with a girl I failed to get hard because I was so nervous about it but the next time I wasn't worried and everything worked fine from then on.
ok, i will try as you say. Only now, even if I think about her in a sexual context, I don't have an erection, I don't know if it's normal and it worries me ( But I'll find out everything about her if she had an erection or not, but I don't see it well considering the fact that currently I don't I even have morning erections (i dont masturbate and watchig porn from week, i think its flatline because 0 erection while day, and bad frame of mind, but idk and I don't know if an erection can occur during a flatline). Anyway I will try with her in next week.
We are all in the same boat I think you are flatlining. Your still young and if you don't PM, you will get better over time. Let your girlfriend know what is happening. Tell her about nofap. Whatever you do, don't touch yourself ever. I think in the next 3 months, don't have sex if you can. If you must, don't worry if you get and erection or not, it ok, you are healing. There were time when I couldn't get it up and you have to be ok with that. Go for kisses on her cheek and cuddles ( it helps recovery)
Edit: today when i fanasy about my gf i had half-erection. Its good sign? When can i have full erection
No masturbating will help recovery better. Don't listen to people who say M is good for you. If you M, it makes you want to watch P. P makes you want to M. It's a visious cycle. In the day and age of the internet, do not M
Try not to fantasies about your gf. Light kisses and hugs will help you heal better. If you are both naked, you can foreplay and try sex. If it works, then it works. If it doesn't, it still ok. There where times in the beginning, where I have half erections, I just hug and kiss her while naked. I told her about nofap and my addiction before hand and she is ok with it. Don't put presure on yourself. Eventually you will heal. Because of your age (you are young) it might take a while. By 19, if you don't P&M, you will get a full hard erection, just by seeing a real girl naked. You are young, don't put presure on yourself
ok . Today I woke up with an erection and cum in my pants. Tell me more. Why is it that over time when I think about my naked girlfriend I get an erection and sometimes even if I don't know what I was thinking it doesn't work. I want an erection while mutual masturbation with a girl
