What is God doing?

Wish I could give you advice but I'm kinda inexperienced in dealing with girls in the long term. I'm 16m, never really had a serious gf that lasted more than a few months. Maybe you need a girl's perspective on this one. My advice would be to let her be and put your "luck" so to speak in someone elses hands. Nobody likes to be perstered, but a random..maybe monthly text would still be cool. Just my thoughts.

 

Read "the art of seduction" and

http://www.amazon.com/Get-Inside-Her-Secrets-Attract-ebook/dp/B00AY8OCIY/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

That books reveals a lot about the female mind

 

I would suggest you tell her how you feel. We're taught from puberty that dating is some kind of game where you have to stick to certain rules or your crush will never like you back. Its nonsense. If she likes you then she likes you. Trying to read some book about how to pick up girls won't work. Its utter tripe. Don't play games. Of you like her. Tell her. If she doesn't feel the same way then no ammount of James bond seduction or pheromone sprays or changing your personality to be some kind of lothario is going to make the slightest bit of difference. Be yourself and be honest about your feelings. Using some book learned technique to get some poor girl to fall for you is dishonest and impossible to maintain long term. If you're not being yourself then a relationship would never work out between you anyway. If she doesn't feel the same way then pick up and move on. You're young. You have plenty of chances to meet girls.

 

You should do it face to face. That would be best. If anything it'll give you practice at talking about feelings and things which will serve you well in the future. Of course this is just my opinion. But if you don't tell her how you feel you'll always wonder what could have happened.

 

Hey brother! From what I'm reading and seeing, it looks like you're a christian and relatively new to NoFap and quitting PMO. What I'd suggest is to take time to concentrate on working on your problem with porn and masturbation and then see where you're at in terms of a relationship. I'd say just stay friends now and don't focus on her so much. If you're thinking about anything or any(one) more than God, that's considered idolizing. Focus on God and working out your own problems, and you'll feel at peace when you're ready for a relationship. I strongly believe that men are supposed to be totally free from porn and masturbation in order to be in a fully functional, healthy, and intimate relationship, so my advice would be to get to a place where you're comfortable with your progress and know that you can live a healthy life with this woman, being able to abstain from PMO while fully committing and pouring into her. This girl might not be a good fit for you, or it might not be the right timing. Whatever the case is, pray about it and make sure you've got your shit together before you get into an intimate relationship. That's my advice. Take it or leave it. I'll be praying for you brother! God be with you.

 

If she was into she would make the time for you. She's not, so focus on you and move on. You're only 17 dude, you have a looooonnnnngggg dating life ahead of you.

 

Hey buddy, idk if this has already been said, but I would just like to suggest maybe asking her out on a date. If she is hesitant or uncomfortable (or she just sees you as a friend) you will know with her reaction.

 

I like what @Sun Bro said!

 

@Jwaggy I regret losing many girls in my life by not letting them know that I was into them - some girls just really will have no idea that you like them. Ask her to something fun, and if she agrees, say "great, its a date" and see what she says.

 

Please don't judge people like this man. There no such thing as "too needy". You can be insecure or under-confident, but no one is too needy. Everyone has needs: respect, understanding, empathizing etc.

If people don't meet those need for you then you must find a way to express them to them. If you actually still believe someone to be "too needy" then maybe you need to take a step back and listen to yourself. When you call someone too needy, what emotions do you feel? I feel frustrated when you did this because my need for understanding wasn't being met, so I would now request of you to please find a different way to express yourself and opinion.

Just something to think about. The world needs more Non-violent Communication.

 

Bro I won't bull you.

You probably haven’t got a chance! Sounds like you’re friend zoned. It’s also not up to God to bring you guys together either. You have free will bro.

Anyway dude! F___ her! She probably isn’t worth it bro anyway!


Don’t hesitate to message me dude if you want a chat. I don’t mind helping you!

 

Don't feel bad about it is my advice. There are lots of busy people out there who have little time, also given that you don't spend as much time together, she may just have other things going on in her life at the moment. It may frankly also be the case that she's hooked up with that guy you mentioned before privately or with someone else, remembering that you can't see every aspect of her life definitively.

Without meaning to portray myself as rude keeping in mind I am more of a agnostic type and I'm not really familiar with definite christian thinking. You put a lot of faith into a series of events delivered by God to happen instead of guiding yourself with that self belief to make things happen. I've stood around and done the same, waiting. Endlessly waiting, and in the end it puts pressure on the other person to walk the path for you, which is difficult and slightly selfish i guess, but wholly understandable from certain points of view.

Low self esteem can make it difficult i can totally understand. I have it occasionally and it makes keeping that environment up and engaging hard. Maybe its something else, i do not know, but I'm sure you will come to overcome it soon in your life or learn to accept and accommodate it into your being with the intent to try and move past it.

Remember that it is a mutual thing, you put your faith in God and God puts his faith in you, and even if you don't succeed, he knows that you were trying to do what you thought was right and understands entirely.