Just relapsed, I'm terrible. Please, help

I think that you should rethink why are you doing it!?

What is motivating you to do it? That gives me strength!

Think what you could be doing with the time you are losing PMO'ing.

You can do it!

 

You'll break through it man. Just don't binge fap out of guilt. That'll only strengthen the neurons again and you'll lose all the progress you made.

Take it step by step and starve the sheep. Don't leave any room for temptation to get you again (i think the apostle Paul said this).you need to starve your brain from sexual stimulation.

And you it takes time for most guys to master the mindset and the resolve to be able to do a 90 day streak. But if you're fapping once every two weeks or one week, you're making better progress than the guy fapping everyday. It also gets much easier after the first three weeks. If anything it get super easy after the first month and a half. You just need to stop giving strength to your urges. See them as just hormones passing through. Every time you have urges, wait it out, and don't fantasize and it'll be gone in less than thirty minutes.

 

39 days is still an accomplishment and something to be proud of! Just think, how long did you usually go? Don't beat yourself up you're still making progress. Just don't get into the mind-set that you're back at square one. Take this as a learning experience; why did you relapse? What can you do to make sure it doesn't happen again? If you O just from looking at pictures, then don't look at pictures man! Even if you do O unintentionally, something I realized early on is the power of intention. If your intention is not to PMO, then that in itself is powerful.

Pick yourself up man I know you can do it. Just keep on keeping on. Shoot me a message if you want; I'd be glad to help.

 

hey man take it from me, the path to becoming fap free isn't a smooth and easy one to walk but it is well worth it in the end. I read a thread someone posted on here yesterday, they said that a relapse doesn't have to be a failure, it's like captain jack sparrow said, " the problem is not the problem, your attitude toward the problem is the problem" if you look at a relapse as a total failure it de-motivates you and makes you feel bad, makes you feel like you can never succeed, but if you look at it as a learning opportunity it can go a long way to help you. Look back on your relapse and think about what triggered the relapse, if it was due to stress, or a certain activity, if it was caused by you looking at adult content pictures don't look at them, if it was caused just by normal picture of people that gave you urges, avoid those type of pictures, think of what you could have done instead and the next time you cath yourself falling into this same position, apply what you've learned from this relapse to prevent the next one. Each step towards your goal is a step in the right direction, sometimes you just need to make sure you're still on the right path and not wandering off. I wish you the best of luck and if you need someone to talk to feel free to message me.

 

1 : Your not terrible because that would make me the same, and I am not going back into that prison of the mind... Your coming out my friend...

2 By the sounds of it you made some excellent headway build on it... I made 28 days and relapsed... Nevermind i am here now and thats what counts my friend...

3 Dust yourself off take all that you learnt and yes get into the ring again... I am behind you...

--Burty

 

I recognize this from myself too. Im on day 40 now, after long time of struggling. This is my longest streak ever.

My turning point was when I started active thinking about what I really want. What I really want in life, with work, friends, relationship, housing, etc. So every time an urge popped in my mind I trained myself to remind myself of what I really want. And with that I didnt think about pmo anymore.

Try it for a day.