I'm on day 52 hard mode, and yes I don't have any urges to masturbate, even if I feel horny. The urge to masturbate has rewired my brain to urge me to want sex, socialise, and play the piano. I don't believe you can just starve the brain, you need to find other ways to use the urge energy. Energy doesn't just go away, it can be converted to other types of energy but has to be used.
I totaly agree with him, im the same 52days hardmode, and still have urges even strong ones sometime but not to fapping, like fapping isnt a option anymore and i want real sex, women intamcy. so keep it up it worth it and working!! richie, im so tempted to have sex with real women and i have some options, im also hardmode but im thinking maby to wait tiull 90 just urges are crazy and i have an options.. reason i started it pe, and ed what do you think? ill glad to hear some words from other mate thanks
Hi Dir3ctX, Well done on getting so far! My opinion is that there is too much focus on hitting a particular target on this website, which I wonder if sometimes is counterproductive. I haven't actually got a target number of days. I think that's why I'm still happy trundling along, and I'm not stressed over it. I reckon you will know inside your heart if there has been enough time to overcome your ED and PMO addiction. If you feel confident you are ready for the real thing why not? If you feel doubt and anxiety, then maybe leave it a while longer. I suppose it depends on how deep your addiction was, and how fast your brain can rewire. I know in my heart, I am over my problems now, maybe because my addiction was nowhere near as severe as some of the posters on the site. Some of the guys on here report that the PMO several times a day. Thankfully it was never as bad as that for me. Dir3ctX, do you feel ready?
Well i feel same as you said i never fapped serval times a day so the addiction wasnt so hard... But i was fapping daily... Well i have bad memories from the past where i had problems in interactions. So atm i think fapping and porno is behind me. I guess i will it more month to complete the 90... I had deacade of fapping and bad interactions better hold on and then go with confident... What about you? Dunno why but i had thougts on taking some pill for extra help for tbe first times after... Im so much more confident right now after holding on so much... Just want to become strong again.. Rewiring in my opnion is much about also having 1-2 good sessions with or without extra help and then understanding thats evreything is good and be able to relax... Whats ur opnion bro?
Btw i do feel some anxitey about trying. Afraid to fail again and feel doomed... The 90thing maby palcebo but make me feel confident... Like if i self control so long thibg most get better
Yeah I like the idea of self control. Before abstaining from it all, I had very strong urges for porn/sex and it controlled me in some way. My attitude has completely changed. Yeah if I have a nice sexual experience with someone that is to be enjoyed, but I don't crave or seek out that experience any more. I now understand how men can be celibate. I don't want to be celibate but now I am in control of my sex life, it doesn't control me. This journey has made me a stronger person.
I am going through pretty strong urges as of the last month, and today makes exactly 270 days hard mode! But it's not worth it. That temporary pleasure is not worth the feelings of failure. It's like every day we stay clean is another deposit. And a reset will take it all and leave us with nothing. Stay strong and carry on.
Yeah with a combination of white knuckling and developing new habits you can avoid urges to fap, the initial white knuckling is very important to get you going Workout 3x a week and walk regualrly and they will drop
It depends on what you mean. If you mean, will you get to a point where you'll never be tempted to fap, I think the answer is no. But... If you mean, will you get to a point where the urges aren't running/ruining your life? Absolutely. You will always have your sexuality, and that means you'll always be capable of responding to temptation. You'll always have desire and interest. But what can change is your sense of stability and peace and self-control.
