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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by seuqsiaw, Mar 5, 2014.

  1. Mar 5, 2014 #1
    seuqsiaw

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    Hey guys, I have a girlfriend. I'm not ready to have sex with her yet but we do engage in foreplay. For me, doing these things with her makes me crave and relapse to porn more because i am not with her 24/7 so i need my desires filled when she is not there? Do you guys think doing these things with her a bad alternative and stop these behavior? because they cause me to relapse
     
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  2. Mar 5, 2014 #2
    Squeaky Soul

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    If you feel more PMO cravings when you aren't around her, maybe you guys should stop the foreplay. If there is anything that might cause you to relapse, I would stay away from it. What other activities do you do together (not sexual)?
     
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  3. Mar 5, 2014 #3
    seuqsiaw

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    We do things just like any other couples would do like go on dates, hang out, and we are in college together so we study together
     
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  4. Mar 6, 2014 #4
    Squeaky Soul

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    Well, maybe you can do start doing more things that aren't pleasureful, but still fun to do together. That's what I would recommend.

    Good luck,

    ~Squeaky
     
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  5. Mar 6, 2014 #5
    DarkATi

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    An ancient proverb asks, "Can a man take fire into his lap and not get burned by it?"

    The obvious answer is "No," you cannot take fire into your lap and not get burned. So, if you feel that foreplay with your girlfriend is causing you to relapse, you have to stop it. Treat it like fire. You will get burned sooner or later.

    Touching, caressing, kissing... these are all wonderful things but they are meant to drive you to sex. Your body is designed this way. Foreplay just lights the fires of passion. I used to use this rule before I was married: If it gave me an erection, I didn't do it with my girlfriend. Honestly, that sometimes meant not even holding hands. If you're getting an erection (and I don't mean those weird erections that every guy gets at random times and places) you're taking fire into your lap.

    Just my $0.02

    Blessings!
     
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  6. Mar 6, 2014 #6
    sanchy

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    Good one. Similar to: "If you play with fire, you will get burned".
     
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