When im at the day 23 or 24 and have so much sexual desire, my brain tricks me to fap. Like if i flipp the coin and appear that side i've chosen i will fap and flip to and flip until yay thats my side...or if on the radio they put one song that i've chosen i will fap. Is like the universe want me to cancel this and get back to the old habits. What can i do when this type of thoughs come??? FUCK MY BRAIN
In my experience you either have to resist it which is not easy or you can go out of your house and visit a friend or walk or sth that takes your mind of porn.
Hey man! I wrote a post this morning about this very phenomenon - it's called "Cognitive Distortion". Check the post "Meta-Meta-Cognition" in my signature! It might help you. Basically, thinking that "your brain is making you fap" is the wrong way to look at it - your brain has urges and your best bet is to observe those urges, relax and let them pass. However if you start thinking things like "Oh no! It's an urge! Here we go! I'm definitely relapsing! I'm not going to make it, just like last time!" you need to realize that those are just thoughts as well, and you can relax and let them pass as well, just like an urge. Nothing can "make" you relapse - it's never too late until you PMO! Good luck, and welcome to the forums!
Exactly! Understand that you're just rewiring your brain, removing old habits. Take control of your mind and you're get there!
The problem with nofap is you're also fighting natural desires that your brain is programmed to want. Two basic instincts we posses are finding food and passing on our genes. When your brain isn't passing on its genes it seeks an alternative. If you're consistently making it that long I'd imagine that you're not fighting off urges just for porn. I'd recommend really assessing if you've made progress, focus on the improvements you've made. If you can honestly say you're life is on an upswing besides the small setbacks than it might be time to explore the possibility of someone else getting you off for a change. Go find a partner, fall in love and all that jazz...and get intimate if you find the right person. My two cents.
Exactly msa2388 It's not like quitting smoking,smoking is not a natural desire because you are entering an addictive substance into your body there is nothing natural about it but on the other hand sexual desires are completely natural and when you have passed puberty your body wants to pass your genes and when it can't it makes you want to somehow satisfy your need
