Hey, I'm Arrow (Male), I'm 16 turning 17 and I'm queer. I'm 5 days in, and in about 4 hours, I'll be 6 days off of porn. I want to try something called a sissygasm, which is orgasm through anal stimulation but I'd end up loosing a huge part of my energy reserves and a possible shit feeling. Plus it feels like I'm missing out if I don't try it. But more importantly, I've been exposed to pornography since I was 12 or maybe even 9 or 11? On November 28th 2022, I ended up leaving social media to practice delayed gratification, restore my mental health and learn everything I possibly could about the workings of my mind but porn was still a problem, so I'm on nofap. I don't want to lose this streak, I've been doing so well. This is the highest I've ever gotten. Please tell me what I ought to do, thank you.
I understand the desire to experiment with something new, but what’s the rush? You’re better off staying on your streak for now. You haven’t been porn-free long enough to rewire your brain yet, so a relapse now would likely be highly counterproductive.
It's best to stay away from any sexual stimuli right now. If you sit alone in a quiet room and ask yourself if this experiment would help or hurt your recovery, and answer yoursewith brutal honesty, you'll have the answer.
If you want to stay away from porn, it is best to avoid sexual simulation for beginning of your reboot. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you. It is literally and figuratively screwing yourself to do what is described and I 100% guarantee it will lead to relapse. I HIGHLY recommend a 90 day hard mode reboot. This means no porn, masturbation (including butt stuff) and orgasm. Besides, where did you even get this idea from? If it is from porn, then it is linked to the addiction you are trying to kick. Good luck mate
Hey thank yall for the comments, I haven't relapsed and I'm 6 days strong and I don't think I'm gonna get anymore funny ideas : ) It's highly likely that this was just a withdrawal symptom.
Our addicted brains can sometimes take over briefly and put insane ideas in our heads, all with the goal of complete relapse. I speak as a recovering alcoholic as well as PMO addict, the "other" you is always fighting for release. The road to happiness is keeping him imprisoned. Congratulations on your progress, keep it up, keep coming back here, and keep engaging.
Yeah I'm actually going a bit of Monk Mode, I've quit social media but I got back into surfing here and there looking for answers, and I fear, it's wasting my time. I stopped that today. I've quit video games as well a while ago. Thank you very much, I'll keep it in mind.
You might as well be asking whether you should switch to methamphetamine in order to kick a weed habit That's totally cheating, and counterproductive. The point is to avoid orgasm, not find more ways to induce one. You're on the right track; just stay the course! Save these sorts of explorations for when you have a partner. DIYing it leads to excess; at least depending on someone else to do that to you enforces some rate-limiting and keeps you from regressing.
