Worse and worse ( warning explicit topic)

I don't think this is horrible at all. You're 16, and you're talking about your sexual fantasies since you were 12. It's totally normal and natural for you to fantasise about girls you know, and older women you know, and to masturbate thinking about them. I think most teenage boys will do this, and I definitely did it a lot when I was your age, pre-internet. All this shows is that you have a functioning straight male sexuality! From this point of view girls and women just are attractive, and you'll fancy lots of lots of them. It's good to fantasise about people you know because that's a very real attraction to a real person, not to an image or someone very distant who's presented unrealistically.

There's absolutely nothing wrong about being attracted to older women. It's natural and good. Women don't disappear when they get past 30 or 40.

There's also nothing wrong with fancying your cousin or aunt. People differ in their attitudes to this sort of thing. Some people marry their cousins or have relationships with them, some think it should be avoided. If you think about it, it probably wouldn't be worth the family drama if you did have a relationship with one of these girls or women, and it definitely would be a bad idea to pursue them just because you've had these thoughts. But that's not the point anyway. The point is that all you've done is had a fantasy about them. *That's* not something you should feel troubled about.

It's good that you didn't do this. Again this was just a thought, but you're right that this was more dangerous. Dangerous for you, because you would have had to carry the guilt of doing this, plus the risk of being caught. It could have ended really badly for you. Dangerous for them, because it's really wrong for any woman and especially for a young girl to have things stolen, be "perved about" and used to this extent whether she ever finds out about it or not. It would be a really horrible thing to do to someone either way, and if she did find out that could be really emotionally hurtful for her.

This is an example of how fetishistic and sort of (I'm trying to put this neutrally) "marking-based" male sexuality can be. Boys and men can get excited by women's clothes generally, or clothes that belong to a particular girl or woman, and can want to "do stuff to them". This is actually just a manifestation or redirection of the natural desire to come inside a woman, when a boy feels he has no way of being able to actually do that.

If it's just a thought, that's okay. If you can't control the urge then it's far, far better to buy these clothing items for yourself so that you're not putting a girl or a woman at risk of feeling abused and degraded.

Some men on this site may have taken a girl's or a woman's things at some point in their lives, and the important thing for them is to put it in the past, and commit to never doing it again. Buy your own panties or whatever! I think it'd be important to apologise to a woman if she knew something like this had happened. If she doesn't then the better and kinder thing may be to avoid mentioning it and hurting her: the apology in that case would be more for your own benefit than hers. (But I wonder what women think about that).

 

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