How do you stop yourself when your body is screaming?

I just want to do PMO now. Help!!!!

 

Scream back!


Seriously though, I'd start tracking your behaviour. Get a journal, I use a spreadsheet, fortify app, something to keep track of your urges and anything else they relate to. If you can identify different moods, habits, situations, diet, or anything else that correlates to trouble with recovery it could be the key to stopping. It's all conditioning, you might need to cut out other things during your reboot. If you haven't already read Yourbrainonporn.com there's loads of information on there that might help.

 

PMO steals jollies from tomorrow with a HIGH-interest rate. Keep doing it and it will take you months or even over a year to recover.

Go out. Gym. Friends. Keep busy.

 

You have to change the habit, b/c that’s what it’s become. When I get to that point I put my phone down and I count to ten. If the urge still hasn’t passed, I get up and walk around, eat something, turn on the tv. Anything to redirect my mind. If that doesn’t work I set a timer for five minutes. I’m usually over the urge after the timer elapses.

 

When the first spark of an urge comes… this is when you just cut it off!

A Forrest fire starts with a small ember. As an ember, it’s easy to put out. But when it grows bigger, it is hard to put out

the trick… you have to cut off the sexual thought in the very beginning. Within the first second.

I myself also have a tendency to want to continue thinking about the sexual thought

It’s a greed for the sexual stimulus. We must cut it off completely!

Cultivate your inner energy… this is our ticket out of this PMO hell.

You have to no longer want to think about sexual stuff. Dismiss it immediately from your mind.

 

Asking the right questions. Usually when I get an urge I start contemplating, I start thinking about my motives to not masturbate, I remember how bad I feel every time after I end up relapsing, then the terrible feeling of resetting the streak... Then I start to think how socially awkward I am after a relapse, how my productivity levels fall, and so on, Basically I think of all the negative effects it has on me.

There is also another tip that I can give you that recently helps me. Most of the time you can prevent the urge from even happening and make it easy on yourself. For example: When do you usually relapse and when do you get the urges? I usually get urges in the morning while laying in bed, so when I wake up my mind is at the right place, I think about how I am in a situation that might cause an urge, and when you are prepared for the urge it is much easier to withstand it, or beat it or whatever you wan to call it.

Im curious what others do when they get an urge

 

I also get urges when I play videogames for longer hours I just eventually start to scratch my dick, which automatically starts giving me sexual thoughts and urges, so every time I play a game for more than hour or two I notice that and start thinking of changing the activity and also being aware that this activity might cause an urge soon.

 

Lately I have slipped myself, so I'm not an expert. But here's what I've found helps in the past. First, realize that the urges, no matter how powerful they feel at the time, are temporary. They will fade, like a cloud passing over the horizon. Next, find some other focus for your restless energy. This can be many things such as taking a walk, calling a friend, meditating, doing a crossword puzzle, organizing your room, whatever. The point is not to deny that you have urges, but to redirect your focus elsewhere until they pass, which they will naturally in time.

 

A therapist would probably tell you to recognise the urges, acknowledge them, realise what they mean and then gradually let them dissipate from your mind. That sounds great on paper but in the moment when you're sat there with a throbbing erection and all these thoughts running through your head, it's like trying to fight a blazing inferno with a water pistol. Personally I've found the most efficient way is to just get up, put your shoes on and your coat(depending on the time of the year) and go for a walk - a long one if necessary and don't turn back until you feel that you're back in control. Some may see it as running from the problem but this is a process, it's going to take a while until you can really develop the level of self-control required to fight it head on, until then it's fine to do something to simply take yourself out of the danger zone.

 

Put real walls up in place you can’t fight real physical desires and actions with just mental planning and thoughts.

Blocking all but Nofap website through giving password to family member or friend, internet blocking strategies cutting you off from all internet access.

Daily meditation to stop the stress leading to release of stress by ejaculation.

Focused work/exercise/hobbies you care about to burn accumulation of sexual energy output through the process they call “transmutation”.

Research into daily routines of those who have been successful and into ways to increase daily discipline.

Finding a reason you want to abstain and using discipline to drive the reason without mercy.

Cold showers and breathing exercises from Wim Hof. Strict bedtime method to keep from MO during that time

 

There's all kinds of tools you can use to deal with urges. Cognitive Behavioral Therapists talk about the Cognitive Behavioral Triangle. This depicts how your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected. Generally, your feelings and behaviors are hard to change but the good news is your thoughts are easy to change. To change your thoughts, you can change use coping strategies such as journaling, change of environment, go for a walk, take a cold shower, anything to get your mind off of your urge. Another thing you can do is practice Unconditional Self-Acceptance. Just say to yourself, "I'm experiencing this discomfort and I don't like it, but everybody suffers discomfort sometimes. I'm human." Here's another tool you might find useful. It's called the DEADS tool. http://www.smartrecovery.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/DEADs.pdf

Here's the Cognitive Behavioral Triangle:

 

@Im done man body isn't interested in continuous pleasure or pain but mind does, demanding more & more of the pleasure.

Never run away from urges or supress, you are making urges become even stronger.

Allow the urges to surface and never afraid of the mind tantrums. Be courageous and totally become aware of the urges, this awareness allows the innate intelligence function freely to correct the behaviours and habits that aren't conducive to freely functioning of the body with ease. When the body functioning with ease is health.

You might fail initially, don't bother, body's innate intelligence can renew the body if you are ready & allow it.

Trust the innate wisdom, it has no parallels.

 

Pain is a sign of healing, all the abuse happen to the body-mind unit has to be corrected to fall into natural functioning of the body.

Here are few techniques to deal with urges in a healthy way,

1. Once you feel the urges are popping, use four finger(no thumb) tips preferably left hand, you can use any hand and palm facing towards navel, soft tap for few seconds at slight mount in groin region to calm down the excited nervous system. Intention shouldn't be to supress urges rather it's not right way or time to release the sexual tension.

2. Use small towel and dip in slightly cold water or room temperature water and squeeze the water and place the towel below navel on the groin area, let it there for 10mins.

3. Touch the index finger tip with the tip of thumb and extend the remaining 3 fingers of both the hands and place the back of the palms on the knees or on thighs, never extend beyond knees and sit in any comfortable posture with spine erect for 5 mins, if the urges are heavy, do it 10 mins or more.

Use which ever suits you.

 

When you have a strong purpose or aim that you love to be and become, you start to discipline accordingly to direct the energies in that direction.

Exams are for those who educe themselves for better.

Be alert & courageous, you can thrive.

 

@100 Days never control the thought, it becomes even stronger to control you. Thought has evolved since ages and use fear as a tool to control you.

Thought can't touch the life force because it knows that's the end.

The vital life force when allowed without any resistance can correct dis-ease instantly. Surrender to the vital force. Surrendering means alignment, align with the natural flow of life.