100-day semen retention goal

i'm around the same number of day as you more or less... maybe i can check in here now and then as nofap synchroners.
pray for you.

 

Cuidado, es más probable que nos caigamos cuando tenemosBe careful, we are more likely to fall when we are more confident not to, I am on day 77 after lasting over a year and fell for an ex, I found my mistakes and am correcting.

 

Pregunta lo que quieras Ask what you want and I will help you, even if I need I will leave the message here

 

Good job! 40 days may not seem like much when comparing to other, much higher numbers of others in the community. But never forget that they once were where you are now, and 40 days is a huge achievement. So many men can't even go one week, or a couple days even. Don't compare yourself to others, instead compare the current you to the you of the past. From what I'm reading it sounds like you're a new man. Keep it up!

 

Hello, I always hear about meditation is helping with nofap, but i don't get it. What's is meditation? is it the deep breathing exercices in and out, or is something more?. Can you please recommend me some on internet that is helping you with NoFap.
Thank you in advance.

 

First off, congrats on 50 days!

Exercise is a great outlet as you probably already know, but I also suggest that you get more consistent with your meditation. Do it every day first thing in the morning for as long as you are able to. Sit with the emotion of sexual desire and try to just feel it without getting swept up in it. The emotion is just an emotion; it is not you, so don't identify with it. Eventually it should dissipate on its own. The same technique can be used for any unwanted emotion, like anger or irritation etc. When pushed away they tend to come back stronger, but when allowed to be felt without acting on them they go away on their own.

You can also try addressing your body intelligence directly. It's called the "innate" and is the reason why placebo works, among other things. it doesn't matter if you believe there is such a thing or not. Speak these words out loud or in your head: "Innate, transmute my sexual energy and use it for a higher purpose". See if that works for you, even if it doesn't there's no harm done.

As for your concern about not being very sociable I wouldn't worry about it. First off there are plenty women who are attracted to the more quiet types. Plus longer streaks do tend to make it a lot easier to socialize naturally. Financial situations do change as well, and despite what many would say money is not the be all, end all when it comes to dating. Not for decent women anyhow. They're more interested in your personality and they're perfectly able to pick up SR streaks as something attractive, even if they don't know what it is.

Hope this helps a bit. I wish you all the best, brother.

 

Congratulations and well done! It's amazing isn't it? Knowing only darkness and finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel is a truly wonderful feeling. But you've seen nothing yet, and you can feel even better once you truly begin to heal those deep traumas within you. This will take time, and remember that although nofap is a great tool it is still just a tool. There are many other tools. Meditation is a big one as well as you've surely noticed by now.

Now start turning what was previously self hatred into acceptance, and from there cultivate that acceptance into self love. Because you cannot truly love this world or anyone else until you fully love yourself, warts and all. Celebrate who you are, because you are a unique expression of life and all the suffering you've gone through acts like pressure on a lump of coal to turn it into a diamond.

Some of us may have been taught that self love is narcissistic and to stay humble (repressed). But true humility is perfectly compatible with loving ourselves. It's not about feeling good about comparing ourselves with others who we may feel are lower than us, that leads to narcissism. It's about loving who we are regardless of any comparisons. No matter how far we come and we see someone struggling, remember that we were once in their shoes and they too will learn from their struggles.
This is called compassion, and is probably the greatest thing that we can learn on this earth.

May you be well.

 

I did this in the past and I guess that some other folks here did it too.

When I did it, I felt that the sexual energy circulated better. Like I had more energy in the body.

But it can also be a dangerous game. Orgasm is never too far and once you ejaculate, it is then too late.