Husband's addiction, where to start ? How to ?

There is nothing you can do to get him to stop. He can do a lot, but it’s a lot of work and money. Therapy (not couples) he needs to find out why he is an addict. Saa or sa meetings, these are free! They have helped my husband immensely. Path for Men has free podcasts, Doug Weiss has free podcasts. The therapy is what ends up costing so much but I believe it really is essential for long term recovery. Journaling helps my husband also. What you can do? Focus on yourself and your own healing. Bloom for Woman has free resources, Betrayal Trauma Recovery has a Facebook page and podcasts. If you can find a good csat, both of you seeing your own helps if you can afford it. I love mine and my husbands is pretty awesome too. Couples counseling is not recommended ( and is usually harmful) until the addict is about a year into recovery. I can explain why if you’d like to pm me. Stopping sex for 90 days is what most csats advise. Again I can explain why if you’d like. Statistics say only 5% get into long term recovery for this addiction. It’s very difficult, for both of you.

 

He's never going to stop. Separate yourself from him emotionally. Develop your own bubble and stay in it.