What Do You All Think About For Joy/Comfort Besides Sexual Stuff?

So I kind of realized recently, that in my thoughts I have a tendency to want to think about sex in order to feel good and feel comfortable and feel some joy. I used to fantasize a lot more than I do now. But I still do have the tendency.

So my question is, what are some good, inspiring, comfortable things to think about besides sex? In the past, I'd think about an old relationship, or a porn scene, or fantasize about sex if I wasn't feeling 100% good in that moment.

But what are some other stuff to think about, when I'm doing something that isn't all that fun. Say for example, I am at work, and bored or suffering a little bit. Instead of thinking about sexual stuff to feel good, what are some other things to think about?

 

Thanks for the response. Yea I could try meditation. I've never really consistently meditated, just at random times I have tried it.

I guess also I mean what are some things to hope for in the future. In my mind, I sort of feel like any accomplishment or activity I am pursing, is for the end result of hoping to have regular sex with an attractive woman. So in my mind, I'm putting the emphasis on the future of having sex.

There are other types of thinking though regarding what to hope for in the future. Some life philosophies have as a hope for the future of helping to reduce the suffering of other living beings. I haven't reached that point yet, I'm still in a pretty selfish mindset I think.

Maybe that's part of the problem.. always thinking selfishly --- MY own pleasure, MY own sexual fantasies, MY desire, things like this

But then I think, if I don't get to experience anything I actually want, then why even try? haha

 

Yea fantasizing would give me comfort and make me feel good because it would be a distraction from what I'm currently doing. And yea, the fantasizing would usually always lead to PMO. But even PMO I used as a way to comfort myself and as an escape from reality for a little while. I guess that's kind of how I view sex, too -- as an escape from reality, a little break from daily life and indulging in some fun.

I have caused a lot of damage to my life too because of PMO, and just addiction to sex and sexuality in general. I put sex as the main thing in life, and didn't really care about much else, just sexual pleasure. I thought all the other boring people out there working jobs and having families were just plain boring people haha

So I was/am addicted. Certain behaviors and personality traits I had when I was younger... I now believe these were due to PMO/sex addiction and the result of too much loss of semen from my body