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How can I resist?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by fighters85, Jan 22, 2022.

  1. fighters85

    fighters85 Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone I'm trying to abstain from PM since one year ago but punctually after max of 2 weeks I start watching porn again. Do you have any suggestion I'm totally addicted and I want go out from this addiction :) . Any suggestions will be helpful thanks
     
  2. I can hardly blame you for not passing the two-week mark. That was like the sound barrier for me, too, personally. At about 13-17 days the urges were at their most extreme for me.

    I would suggest, for the sake of experiment--or whatever mental excuse you want to give yourself, you try going just one week more; i.e. take it to three weeks. Then see if the battle eases up.

    However, the only way you're going to make it is if you learn to govern your thoughts. Every time your thoughts drift to unwanted themes, you must immediately reject those thoughts and deliberately think of something else. This takes practice, determination, and persistence in the beginning, until it becomes a habit. Follow the links in my signature for more specific tips along these lines.

    I was never addicted to porn--just to the O. But the same principles apply. If you let yourself fantasize of the O you're wanting, you'll have a reaction to those thoughts later that makes the urges especially strong. For me, the urge comes about a day or two after I let my thoughts go out of control. You might think that it's okay just to think about something, so long as you do not act on it. But this is simply not true. Thoughts and feelings precede actions, and they pave the way for those actions. If you want to stop the actions, the thoughts must be stopped first.

    Don't give up! You can succeed when you put your whole mind into it.
     
  3. AlexFightsAlex

    AlexFightsAlex Fapstronaut

    My suggestion would be not to focus that much on just PMO, but also in the self-development aspect. At the end, nofap is just a tool that allows us to progress. So, focus on doing good stuff that will benefit you. Obvious examples of this are weightlifting, start a personal project, etc.

    Fight PMO with a more complete approach, not just PMO. It's useless to try to break the habit of PMOing but not replacing it with good stuff.
     
  4. fighters85

    fighters85 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for the encouragement today is one of the day where my mind is trying to resist but is not easy. Let's see, however coming here and read the replies give me strength
     
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  5. I would say it's easier to stop masturbating when you stop watching porn first. Porn is usually what created the addiction. If you get the urge to masturbate and couldn't control yourself, at least do it without the porn. You'll feel a lot less guilt and it'll be easier to abstain another time.

    That's my personal experience with it. When you stop watching porn, you start being attracted to women again, since your brain is no longer tricking itself into thinking you're having sex. Once you start being attracted to women again, it becomes less sexual as well since your brain isn't having constant sex being fed to it.

    Little by little, you'll naturally start thinking less about masturbation. Also, try not to be alone, go out, go workout, watch a movie with your family. It helps.
     
  6. fighters85

    fighters85 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks :), I will for sure abstain from watch porn and if I can't resist I will have SO with my wife ;). But you are totally right the really addiction is the porn.
     
    Last edited: Jan 28, 2022
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  7. AlexFightsAlex

    AlexFightsAlex Fapstronaut

    That's for sure. It's like starving the masturbation habit in a sense. It doesn't have a constant flow of fuel as before. It happens to me as well.
     
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  8. True One Shot

    True One Shot Fapstronaut

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    Cut your cock off nah but seriously just block porn from your computer
     
  9. ollo

    ollo Fapstronaut

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    meditate on thought of pmo and just observe it...
     
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