Hi everyone, I am Yash here. I suffer from Pure-O OCD. And I think the one thing that has pushed me into this quagmire and unfathomable suffering is my addiction to Internet Porn. Also I am just about to get married and watching and indulging in internet porn feels to me a conspicuous case of infidelity and betrayal. As though I am not doing anything physically, I am mentally fantasizing having an intercourse with someone. I really need your support and tips. The thing is porn is so easily and moreover its free. Its just a click away and hence it is extremely difficult for me to extricate myself from porn.
Yeah, hi there Yash, I will try to support You here as best I can, the question is not: Is it betrayal? It is irrelevant. I think PMO is no real sex, and I do not think it is betrayal. That said ... it, as any addiction, drains you, your mental power, your focus, drive, direction, it is the worst addiction, but hey, I know the feeling, you're feeling horny and just feel drawn to the activity, it feels good while you're doing it ... So ... my tips: Try and picture the long term benefits: after 20 days of no Porn Watching and no touching yourself sex with your fiancee will be epic, unforgettable and she will feel it and love you much more for it, I checked it is so ... moving on .... second: after a week of no PMO you will suffer from acute withdrawal symptoms like anxiety, panic attacks, uneasiness and worrying incommensurate to your actual problems: the problems will be none but you will fret anyway ... so ... just be tough and barrel thru, and stay clean, that's the toughest part! Also, most pilgrims on this journey report libido drop, total loss of interest in sexuality, that's the flatline, it is unsettling, scary and is the most sensitive period, also the one when you're most in danger of relapsing, it sets in 2 weeks, around 2 weeks mark after stopping PMO and may (it varies) continue like for another 4-5 weeks or longer when you're feeling like you have no sexual drive and will stay asexual forever ... it is genrating panic even .... the important realisation then is to know it is JUST A PHASE and it will pass Now the motivation part: After two weeks (periods of time may vary in different people) you will feel divine, great, reborn, full of mental and physical power and potential, you will feel energised motivated and a flood of positivity may ensue ... It is all worth it, so start today! and ... I am on the journey with you, I relapsed yesterday, starting over now. Keep in mind: I have calculated that after circa pushing 24 years of porn usage/addiction and having started aged 15 or younger my recovery is gonna take 3.5 months of no porn whatsoever and no masturbation, that's hard mode, I am willing to be in hard mode cos the option with occasional masturbation with no P does not work for me, I relapse, when occasionally fapping solo, so ... but will have sex with my GF, so, and You will too, hopefully, this sex will be awesome, and it is well worth waiting for it!!!. Cheers and .... keep it real
Yeah but just for few days as they want to close down websites related to Child porn. But then the ban was revoked
I just loved the way your candidly and frankly explained me. Yeah about the betrayal part you are right .I heard an Indian Guru lust and creativity comes from the same source. So that propelled me into reading and now I am an addicted voracious reader. So I keep on expanding my horizons where it comes to creativity. Many times people watch internet porn because they are restless and want to spend their leisure time somehow. So I occupied my leisure time with all such creative activities. But I think it was not enough as I was not able to eradicate the lust from my psyche here I am not talking about the lust arising from love. So I have taken up yoga and meditation. There is this brilliant website headspace it's just mind boggling. Try their free take 10 sessions and then you can pay for the app. But the meditations are priceless so I bought the app. I have already started feeling the benefits. Try it out and let me know and thank you mate I really appreciate. You have talked like a friend not as a person replying to my thread.
Yeah, I will try it, thx, and ... yeah my greatest gift to this world is "being a friend" and being a "great boyfriend", that is my divine purpose. I am so happy you found it "honest help". I worked with Indian people over a year and I loved them . Hey, my thought on restlessness, it takes discipline to abstain, you're restless, you're angry, aggressive (surge in testosterone when not fapping for 5-6 days) action prone, you wanna change things, improve, act ... that is uncomfortable even unbearable to us porn addicts who calm ourselves down with P for decades, however... what if we utilise this fire??? what if we take this rage and apply it not destructively (citing Doctor Paul here) but constructively to achieve our dreams, our wildest dreams, what is yours???? tell me
