I have a problem

No wonder that porn destroys marriage's. Later or sooner you will get caught watching those horrific scenes just image n the moment you are completely naked and your wife or kids enter your room, naked and mastrubating and watching porn how would that make you feel?

You have fallen in a deep rabbit hole friend. and it's only you who can save itself and climb back up.

Porn removes your self respect or even the jalousie from your spouse it makes you like a animal.

 

I'm not a genius here. I've been stuck in PMO for years. However, I think that you should think what you love more PMO or your wife. Try to find your strength in it. If she finds out what you do, think about the consequences for your relationship. Your call. No one can handle this decision for you.

 

Hi, I completely understand. I've also engaged in some very risky online behavior. There's a potential in the next few days that nudes/chats of myself could be exposed to a whole lot of people. Trust me, you do not want to have that kind of problem in your life.

That makes a lot of sense. I suffer with anxiety something fierce. Always have. Meditation has helped in the past but I got out of the habit. I started a new streak today. It's a hell of a cycle too - have anxiety, PMO, feel guilty, feel anxious, try to not PMO, get more anxious from not having an outlet for anxiety, PMO and start all over. Vicious circle we're trapped in mate.

The answer of course is to not PMO, no matter what. We will have to suffer for awhile to break the cycle and get our bodies and minds sorted out. But better to suffer that than a divorce or the ongoing life-destroying shame of hiding our filth from our loved ones.

Welcome to the group!

 

I'm on a day one. It's not perfect world. In the past I used to expect miracles from nofap. Yet in order to see them you need to wait until your body and mind adjusts. The early beginning is dreadful. There are strong urges and you feel unwell (withdrawal). Then you decide - why not do it again and then return. That's the crucial point. There are no shortcut. You are either on nofap or not. When you relapse, you return to square one. Slakka, if you know that you're doing the wrong thing, stop doing it. There's no other way and no excuse. If you REALLY want to change, you REALLY need to change. There's no shortcut, no half-measures. When you understand that, you'll be able to change. KISS - keep it simple stupid - rule is the best. You don't need compassion. You need a change to feel better about yourself.

 

Hello Slakka, i have been in your position.

I was young and lost when i was 22-23, and used porn and candaulistic actions as a way to escape the traumas and trouble i had faced a few years prior to that.

I never shared full nudes, but i used to share like creepshots of my gf in underwear, and normal beach photos, always made sure to not have her face or tattoos visible in anything explicit, thankfully- and I always deleted everything after a short while.

One day i broke down crying and realised that i had acted like a dumb fool, and I decided to come clean to her about it.
She forgave me and undersrood my problem.
She has been my greatest support and we are now engaged.

I have since then had ONE relapse as a result of her drunkenly giving me consent to share pics, something that messed with my mind, but that one time i took it down after just a few seconds and told her about my mistake.
That last time, i realised that i didnt feel the rush i had felt earlier, so i think i am cured.

We talked it through and I feel better now.



Feel free to PM me anytime, maybe it would feel good for us both to feel that we are not alone with having had this behaviour.


I wish you the best of luck!