I AM VERY TIRED OF SUFFERING

Hello, Christ bless you all, About your post, I understand you, I cant make you avoid porn but I can give you advices:
1.Try to find for some study or job, or if your job is the cause of your problem leave it and Look for a new one, your mind need to be focus on important things.
2.Consider the idea of do exercise or walk everyday.
3.Leave electronic items at night, or give them to some person or persons you know.
4.And the most important thing, Look for JesusChrist, in our main forces we cant do anything.

 

Ciao se vai nella sezione internazional c è un forum italiano con tanti ragazzi italiani , non sei solo dai , scrivi una presentazione e i tuoi problemi vedrai che un aiuto c è sempre , ciao

 

I'm sorry for your pain. It's a rough road many of us have traveled, though. So don't feel alone.

If I were you, I'd brainstorm goals; that is, things you want from life. Then make a plan of action. You can get as detailed as you want, making short, mid, and long term goals to meet the overarching ones. But the main thing is to start working on them. All the reflecting and reasoning in the world won't help unless there is action towards those goals. So best advice? Act. Start working towards a better life and you may be surprised in the ways your life improves.

Good luck, my man.

 

Find a men’s group of some kind. Any kind. Connecting with other men is the best way out social isolation. The gym will help. Getting a job will help. But you need friendship with other men.

 

I feel like women could be in the group, too, right? I mean, the increased practice would do him good, yeah? I would go so far as ANY social interaction would do him good. He holes up in his house. Heck, I would say go out to some nursing homes or volunteer somewhere just for the social interaction and practice with socializing. Isolation kills, except for the exceptional few.

 

The gazelle cannot teach the lion how to hunt. The man needs a pack. Once that's established the girl stuff gets a lot easier.

 

At this point, he just needs a social circle. Period.

 

The English is sufficient. I know what you are trying to say. And I'm glad you have found this place so that you can vent frustrations in your life. That is healthy.
However, it may not be healthy to neglect yourself as an agent of change in your life. You have more power than you think. It's called "locus of control." Do you believe you (internal factors) influence things in your life? Or do you believe your life is dictated by external factors? You have more personal power over your life and what becomes of it than you realize. Remember that. Don't minimize what you are capable of. With enough patience and persistence, I feel like just about anything is possible (not everything). I do believe that with effort, you can change your life. But it requires CONSISTENT EFFORT. Not effort only sometimes. Effort all the time, or at the very least most of the time. Ask for and get help when you need it, but don't rely too heavily on others to do the work that you should be doing yourself to improve your life. The minute you give up on yourself...well...that's when you are truly defeated. Hang in there, man. Patience and persistence. Consistent effort. Don't set limits on yourself or your abilities until you've done everything in your power to prove them wrong. Those are important lessons I wish I could tell my younger self.

 

It is incredible how many of us are in this same situation. I am sorry for your pain buddy and I share it since I'm in the same position. In my case, I want to do a lot of things but there's something that it's preventing me, the vaccine passport that is required to enter almost any place, to get a job, etc. so I know some of you would say "that is not an excuse to not get things done" and you all are right but I don't want to take that vaccine since a lot of people I know started to develop symptoms, one acquaintance of mine doesn't stop getting colds and fever. Others that haven't developed the symptoms yet will eventually develop them sometime in the future. I've seen so many
athletes (young) died from this and the worst of all is the doctors who say he/she died from another disease or coronavirus (even though he/she was vaccinated).

 

How to do it? Time. And effort. I used to be a PMO multiple times a day man myself years ago. I remember when going 3 days without PMO was a MONUMENTAL task. Then I started taking it seriously. Now I'm on day 20 or so without PM. I've only O'd once in the last month and a half or so. If it's possible for me, it's possible for you. Trust me. With effort, you can turn your life around. Now, that took me YEARS of effort. But likely because I was alone. Had I done it with social support, I probably could make progress faster. But I'm stubborn..or ashamed...or both. So I go it alone. So I'm probably not the best one to give advice. But what I can say from my journey is that the more you put effort into improving your life, the less you want to PMO. It's honestly simple, but effective. In my case anyway. It takes some of the anguish out of what ails you when you are actually doing something to make your situation better (i.e. addressing your problems directly, no matter what it takes). Is the process slow and frustrating? You bet. But makes it more gratifying when you accomplish things.

Anyway, embarking on the journey alone is probably not the recommended course, but it is possible to make progress, even if you go it alone. Most of my progress has been alone, even without this forum (I had a several year long hiatus from the forum, though not from my attempts to stop PMO...I was always working on stopping the entire time). But yeah, I have little doubt that it's easier with social support.

That being said, don't live an electronic life. Go live life in reality. Don't spend too long on this forum. You have to improve your life in REALITY in order to feel better about yourself. I'm probably speaking to myself here (processing my own thoughts on NF forum), but, to quote "Girl, Interrupted," DO NOT DROP ANCHOR HERE. It's a good port to embark from and stop by to harbor from time to time, but this is no place to waste hours upon. It's better to spend those hours on improving your life.

I'm probably just repeating myself. But yeah, social support is good. And if this NF forum is that for you, please take advantage of that. BUT, you have to put forth the effort in your REAL life as well. You got this, buddy. Keep at it

 

Ciao @Brian11 , ho provato a scriverti in privato ma probabilmente hai qualche filtro attivato. Se vuoi una mano io son qui, posso darti qualche punto di vista, la mia storia e magari qualche consiglio. Rispondimi qui sopra o sentiti libero di mandarmi un messaggio privato

 

Well, what activities do you enjoy doing?