28 years old and never had a girlfriend

Well, I was in your situation, with the difference that I never was too popular in school. Only when I accepted and embraced the fact that I was probably going to be alone, and therefore stopped looking for anything, a girl appeared and we started a relationship.

So, the moral of the story, don't feel bad about it and embrace it.

 

The first thing to get better is taking reasponsabilty for your actions. You need to blame yourself first for watching at porn. Be responsable for your actions, nobody forced you to watch porn. You are only been "punished" for doing something wrong for many years thats, it.

What's good about it? If you are the one looking at porn then you are in control to stop doing it and get better. Only you can do that, you need to help yourself to be better, if you don't nobody is going to do it.

Then make a list of everything you don't like in your life and take one thing of list as a goal and make it happen. Once you are done with the list make another with stuff you want to do or persue. By this point you are going to feel a lot more happy and proud of your life, thats a better moment to go out and date, you are going to have a lot more to offer to a woman and you are probably going to attract more woman than been a wirdo porn addict with nothing going on with his life.

Read books like rational male of rollo thomasy or how to be a 3% man from coach corey wayne.

 

I am in a similar situation and have been feeling some desire to connect with someone this holiday.

 

It’s okay, don’t feel bad. I’m almost 32 and have never had a long term girlfriend before, and I’m still a pretty happy guy

 

Yes I'm almost 31 I never had a girlfriend yet. All because of this porn. Don't know how to approach with girls. I won't use to talk with any girls since my school days even if someone talk to me I won't talk with them. Now I'm feeling very much that why I done all those shit things. If you got a girlfriend go and enjoy dating with her. My personal experience now I started nofap journey 1 month back and started going to gym there one girl is watching me continuously but I don't know how to approach. You carry on and rock it

 

I was in your spot before. All i did was: quit porn, start lifting heavy, enjoy healty habits and go out to public places. Eventually life will throw a woman at you. It is simple, but it isn't easy.

I've met women at my work, public park, university, gym, grocery shop and internet also.
Here are some situations so you can picture it in your mind and use as an example:
-At work:
I worked in a police station, i was a recepcionist, met a lot of people daily. One time a girl wanted directions and i started talking with her, eventually i got her cellphone and a date set.

-At a public park:
I was working out and a girl nearby commented on my workout routine, then i proceed to engage in a conversation which led to another date.

And it is almost the same type of encounter in the other places, did you follow the pattern? All that mattered was that i was in a spot of visibility, so someone could talk to me or i could engage in a conversation with the person first. Do not lose hope comrade, you're going to do this!

 

I haven't acted on my feelings to connect yet since I feel it may be too early in reboot journey. This feeling may be due to the holiday season and winter blues.