Holy shit. This is tougher than I expected. Feeling like life sucks, I have no real friends. I can't talk to girls, which I've never had a problem with. Anyone else feel like this around day 10? And if so when did you break out of it? In all actuality my life is pretty good. And for the most part I'm a good guy. I don't really have any overwhelming erges, but I won't be pissed when I snap out of this.
We are in this together man! It feels better to know I'm not alone. This site is an amazing help. YouTube as well.
Some are subject more subject to depression than others, and many of those are used to self-medicating their depression with the dopamine produced by PMO. For them, a sudden cessation of PMO and its dopamine supply is bound to bring on some depression. This generally gets better with time as the mind readjusts.
The tougher days proves that how addicted we are to this.In turn it demands the urgency we need to address this issue. Hang on there. Better days are in the coming.
Its your brain missing the dopamine and excitement you were feeding it before. Its part of the reboot stage so head up and move forward.
It differs because not everyone is the same. Its a trial and error phase really, for one person it may pass quick and the next person may last longer. Either way u look at it, its best to focus on the journey.
I'm on my 10th day, maximum iv been on nofap is 12days straight. It does get harder for me as the days go by but I need to fight this off. Cant stay in this fantasy crap all my life.
As Kenzo89 told you, it varies for different people. However, my experience was that it got noticeably easier after about three weeks, and it continued to become progressively easier after that. Eventually, you reach a place where you still have a libido and occasional urges, but you're confident that you can handle them without fapping. You must be careful throughout your journey, though, to avoid triggers, which can make you want to fap at any stage.
I am at day 3 and I don't think the withdrawals have fully kicked in yet. I get depressed a little bit sometimes so far but I keep the benefits of not PMOing anymore are going to outweigh the temporary drawbacks. God, sometimes it's one moment at a time. To think forever for the rest of my life is too much to imagine. But plugging into this forum helps. Your not alone brother. Keep posting.
My first 30 days were absolutely insane and I felt every emotion to the extreme. Depression, rage, crying, laughing manically the next day or minute. My emotions were all over the map and scared me. Not to say I didn't have good moments too but even they were so heightened. I think it's a good idea to not make any serious life decisions that first month too. Then somewhere between day 30 and 40 something EVERYTHING started to level out. My highs were no longer as high and lows not as low. It was almost a boring period which I appreciated. It just keeps getting mellower all around and in all ways. I would have little flare ups even as far as day 50-60 but they were rare. They felt like a last ditch attempt of the dopamine trying to convince me things weren't really all that much better. But it wouldn't last long and thinking back to how hard the first month was became my motivation. I agree with Haggis I believe his name is who says starve the dopamine bitch to death. That's why subs and borderline need to go, all of it. Somewhere after day 60 I started to forget about all porn and even if it did flash in my mind it was a faded photograph with no power over me. The monster that crushed me for so long with it's unbearable weight became an insect under my foot. It get's incredibly easier. There is no way I would still be doing this if day whatever I am on if felt like the first month. Just accepting that first month might really suck helps as well as knowing it will get better, much better. It's different for everyone too but I was a 6-8 hour per day porn user with up to 14 hour binges. I was as fucked up as a person can get so I know it can be done. Again I agree with user Haggis who said learn to like the withdrawal because it's you getting better, it hurts but it is the rewiring process. I viewed my fucked up sex dreams, ect as an alcoholic sweating it out. If I can do this anyone can you just have to figure out your path.
