I have been battling with porn and masturbation for a long time. But ever since I moved to my new area, I noticed the more I do nofap, the more I want to have sex, now I have sex almost every week and I do not like it. It's sapping my energy and ruining my spirituality. To be sincere to anyone reading this. My fap addiction was far better than this one.
Try giving up PMO. You don't say if you're married or if it's the same woman your sleeping with but if you give up PMO for a while then go back to sleeping with your girlfriend/wife when you feel like you can. If you're sleeping with different women then you've just replaced one addiction with another. Sex is an amazing thing but it needs to be enjoyed right and with someone you love and if you give up PMO until you find that special person it'll be so much better
I wonder if you could elaborate a little bit more on this one. - Are you sleeping with 1 girl, or different girls? - What exactly about it don't you like? - And what is your goal here? e.g. a committed relationship or break from all sex for a while? From what I can assume so far, you may be experiencing a high quantity of intimacy, rather than quality of intimacy. Sex is great, but too much of it, or experiencing it with a different person each week can be too much. On the spectrum of intimacy, sex is there, but we can also include conversation, flirting, holding hands, even eye contact. So, whether it's PMO or regular sex, you may simply need to take a step back, and find 1 girl at a time to try to connect with in a meaningful way. Date her a few times before getting in the bedroom, then continue connecting so you're both invested a lot more.
It is normal. they are both emotional crutches. you have to go slowly. I have failed hundreds of times and now i am on day 60 monk mode. I also had a problem with M and O ( more than P) You have to be patient and persistent.
Some people might disagree but i am of the opinion that porn addicts-well pmo addicts in truth- are really sex addicts only they stay virtual.
No. I am just screwing people I do not really like. People i do not really care about being around and thats messing up my whole head.
Me too. I hardly do porn. I am more of the M and O type during my days. Now I want to have sex every time. Every single time. It's like my head will explode if I do not unload.
This is the most helpful as you explained and seemed to understand my situation. I really do not care much about the people I have been sleeping with and this is the reason why I am messed up... Slept with a girl last Sunday and now she stopped talking to me cus I won't call or chat her up. Immediately after the sex I seem to loss all form of interest in the person... This is not healthy... I think.
If you think it's not healthy, damn right you are. Since what you're basically doing is just porn but in real life, so basically real life pussy sleeves. This is just the same ol' dopamine and opioids addiction that you're having, it's dangerous as you might ruin more relationship in the future. I'm glad that you found out the problem about yourself, you still have time to change. Peace.
I was that way when I was younger. I crave novelty and the chase. When those are finished, I lost interest. And I would lose interest in sex and go back to porn but because it was easy path to novelty.
I am on Day 10 for the first time in a long time and I feel really happy about myself. Went to a girl's house yesterday and we spent long time together just talking without sex. Usually that is not me.
Sadly I relapsed. Had sex with my girlfriend and then went to visit a second girl and had sex with her on the same day. Didn't use protection cus I was desperate and now I am feeling like I must have caught something.