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Fapstronaut's Success Guide: The Essentials to defeat PMO

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Str33tD4wg, Dec 23, 2020.

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Dec 26, 2020 #21

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baba_yaga_ said: ↑

Very well written mate!!
Seeing such wise words, I was amazed to see that you're just 18 years old. I guess that's one of the benefits of doing Nofap for almost an entire year...
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Ahah you'd be surprised with how much of a crackhead I actually am! But thanks anyways bro, I really appreciate your words! I don't feel very wise to be honest, I still feel more like a kid, but I don't find that a bad thing at all.
Happy New Year!

RaXaZ said: ↑

The article is well written. Simplify,simplify,simplify. These are the words we should keep in the back of our minds, if we ever want to attain greatness and care for our viability. The endurance of this challenge strengthens many different areas of our lives, as you pointed out. On top of that we are creating the change for whom we want to die so nobly for, but yet haven´t understood we need to live it humbly for good. Time is our most precious ressource and we can contribute to our spiritual growth by becoming disciplined like the "disciple".

I want to add that most people just seek relief from their current state, rather than challenge themselves inmidst this state. No doubt, that life is difficult and to do decide is always gonna erase other possibilities. Moreover can a decision mean to put aside instant gratification and begin with thing being put off for a long time. Funny enough, this is completely up to you and me, whether we act on a feeling of love or be disturbed by it in our goal, vision or profession. Unless we learn to set aside our past, we cannot live in the present and make our desired future reality. Sometimes this will require disappointing days and involve effort with a scar to be left. But if we are honest, who makes it through this life without a single scar?
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Most definitely! I agree with everything you've said, and although I wish I could add anything meaningful to it, your knowledge on the matter left me pretty speechless! Thanks for the compliments, and of course, by your great lessons friend!
Happy New Year!

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Dec 28, 2020 #22

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Thanks for this bro. You spoke some very wise words. I'll be saving this for any future rainy days.

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Wow! What a long post I read, I loved your personal improvement. I lost a lot of things like sociability, I stopped coaching basketball which was good, etc. All because of this shit, just like that.

But well, the good thing I see is that I realized and that I'm on time. So I'm very encouraging and don't stop going back to your old habits.

Cheer up!

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Dec 29, 2020 #24

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-During the first weeks or months, try to stay off the social media, streaming services, and games like GTA, lots of triggers there, Twitter is probably the worst;
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this one is very underestimated... and also very powefull. instead, do homework or read an e book about porn addiction. one i can recommen is your brain on porn by garry wilson

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Dec 29, 2020 #25

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Wow!! I'm also having that burning sensation when I pee. I just went into a relapse today and I still feel the same burning sensation(plus guilt). I want to get checked up medically to see what is wrong with me. How did you overcome yours?

I feel ejaculating all the time and my mind wanders to the thoughts of women almost all the time. I wish I never stumbled into this porn shit.

I'll be saving this post for days when I feel down. Nice, educative post by the way.

Waiting to hear from you #blessed

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Dec 29, 2020 #26

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slug175 said: ↑

Thanks for this bro. You spoke some very wise words. I'll be saving this for any future rainy days.
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Thanks for the kind words! Happy New Year!

Sergiosanz995 said: ↑

Wow! What a long post I read, I loved your personal improvement. I lost a lot of things like sociability, I stopped coaching basketball which was good, etc. All because of this shit, just like that.

But well, the good thing I see is that I realized and that I'm on time. So I'm very encouraging and don't stop going back to your old habits.

Cheer up!
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Thank you my brother! Hell yeah, better late than never. You'll get those things back surely in no time! Happy New Year!

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this one is very underestimated... and also very powefull. instead, do homework or read an e book about porn addiction. one i can recommen is your brain on porn by garry wilson
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Don't think it's that underestimated, lots of people in NoFap talk about that, but I do have to agree it is indeed very helpful! I'm a big GTA fanboy, like every other young person, and God was I getting tired of the porn billboards! So I just stopped playing any GTA (and using stupid Twitter because of the simping dumbasses always liking and retweeting bitches) in the beginning of this streak. After day 90 though I got back to GTA and the billboards really don't bother me much at all now. Anyways, thanks for the feedback! Happy New Year!

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Wow!! I'm also having that burning sensation when I pee. I just went into a relapse today and I still feel the same burning sensation(plus guilt). I want to get checked up medically to see what is wrong with me. How did you overcome yours?

I feel ejaculating all the time and my mind wanders to the thoughts of women almost all the time. I wish I never stumbled into this porn shit.

I'll be saving this post for days when I feel down. Nice, educative post by the way.

Waiting to hear from you #blessed
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Thanks a lot!! Regarding your question, it just went away like nothing. I was in day 80 or something, and I was having a lot of pressure, because I was so close to making it to the big day 90, I wasn't having any urges really, but the pressure and stress was so damn high! Then I started noticing how it was so hard to pee, it never peed much but when it did, it was burning as fuck! I googled it to see if it was an UTI and if it was something NoFap related. In the "UTI causes" google search, it showed up that high stress levels could be a possible cause. I didn't really believed it much, but I didn't wanted to relapse either so I just tried to survive until day 90. After day 90, the pressure and stress was gone of course, and then, I slowly realized that the burning and the difficulty in peeing was simply gone past day 91 or 92. So it was indeed the high stress I'm assuming. I doubt not masturbating really would cause an UTI anyways. Regardless, this may not be the case for you, the high stress thing, and if it keeps going, I really advise you to go check a doctor ASAP!
Good Luck and Happy New Year!

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Dec 30, 2020 #27

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Update:
Since this post has been getting a lot more attention than I was expecting, I decided to update it! I just made it a little more eye friendly, changed its format, changed the title of the thread and changed a lot of chapter names, added a few extras in each chapter, especially in the "Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips" etc.
It's not a huge update but I felt like it had to be done since the post was a bit too messy and unorganized which probably put off a lot of people. Anyways, I'm just rambling now. Happy New Year, and good luck y'all with your NoFap journey!

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Str33tD4wg said: ↑

Introduction:

Ayy y’all! I’m in day 200+, and I finally got myself to just sit down and share with you guys my experience with NoFap Hardmode, and the wisdom I have gained throughout this entire year, which has proved to be nothing less than an absolute success so far.
This will mostly consist of me listing down what I have learned, what I have experienced and what worked and didn’t work for me. Keep in mind that maybe some of the stuff I’m about to say might not work for you. This is personal, my opinion and my view on the matter, and I hope it’ll help you rethink your approach on NoFap.
There are lots of information to take away from this, so I suggest you re-read it a couple of more times and take a bunch of notes. Most of what’s in here can also be applied to other things in life other than NoFap. Feel free to ask any questions once you’re done reading. Anyways, let’s start.

My Story:

I just want to first talk about my old self, I used to fap almost every day, and while I wasn’t really depressed, I wasn’t that happy with myself either. Things weren’t really that enjoyable anymore, my self-esteem wasn’t exactly high and I had a bunch of ideas and projects that I kept getting motivated for, telling myself and others I would do it, only to in less than 2 days, give up immediately and forget them. I found NoFap and decided to give it a try just for the challenge, then I actually saw all the reported benefits and science behind it, and decided to stick with it, not for the challenge anymore, but because I actually could use this new big change in my life. Fast forward 1 year and now I’m pretty much a new man. I can honestly say I am really happy and a way more positive person! Things are enjoyable again! When planning and/or waiting for certain cool events to come, it actually feels exciting, like waiting for Christmas when I was a kid. I laugh way more now, things are genuinely funnier! I feel more generous and kinder towards people. I also feel more clear-headed, organized, and mindful, I know what I want, why I want it, and how I’m getting it without feeling confused and lost all the time. When I face an obstacle in life, I don’t completely go into despair like before, I simply, and quickly, find a way around or through it! I am way more open-minded, willing to do/try all sorts of new stuff and meeting new people. I love change now, I don’t run away from it anymore, I actually look forward to it instead of running away back to my shitty comfort zone. I’m so much more energetic and less lazy, I actually have a drive to get shit done now and wanting to accomplish more and more. I’m way more creative than I used to be, and I come up with such great awesome unique ideas. I used to feel like a boring person, especially when talking about achievements with other people, but now, I don’t feel like a generic person anymore, because I know I now have lots of interesting accomplished achievements to talk about. My self-esteem skyrocketed too and I have such a massive confidence in myself! I finally can start a project and actually finish it, and I can also stick to my life values for once and new habits with ease. My self-discipline got so damn strong too, I love it, I can do whatever I set my mind to. I don't know if this one is a superpower, but now I can easily shift my mood (with only my mind), I can calm myself down and hype myself up very quickly, as I please. Overall NoFap has helped me a lot and I have no intentions in going back to my old lifestyle.

What I have experienced so far:

I just want to tell you here right ahead for you to not expect NoFap to make you happy 24/7 and turn you into a God! While it does indeed help, you might, of course, get some lazy days, fall into ruts and feel sad too, but for the most part, you feel pretty energetic, and that’s a plus in my book. And when you are happy and shit, it isn’t that special, it’s just the new normal. Also don’t expect NoFap alone to magically solve all your problems in life! NoFap will just give you the energy you need, now it’s up to you to put this new energy to good use! Build new habits, start and finish amazing projects, meet interesting people, develop relationships, find true love, follow your passion, create something you believe in, leave your mark on the world, etc. Doing this is what will actually make you feel happy, fulfilled, and ultimately get your life together.
(Also, using this new energy, or rather “Sexual Energy”, in things other than just sexual acts, will reduce your urges a lot, or at least that’s what Semen Retention believers claim. I don’t agree nor disagree with the Semen Retention believers. I’m not too into it nor never tried it, but it looks a bit interesting and you might want to investigate it a little, and then come to your own conclusions.)
Another thing I just want to clear out of the way is, urges will never go away based on the NoFap day you’re in! The amount and intensity of urges you get will depend on your current mindset regarding NoFap (and of course, if you’re in a flatline/chaser effect or not). I will cover this later on in this post. Personally, I haven’t had much urges and the ones I do have are extremely manageable and short-lived due to my great discipline and skill to not engage with them and just ignore them, I will also cover this in a bit in this post.
Regarding wet dreams, at the beginning of my NoFap streaks, I always used to have them once or twice a week, sometimes even 3 a week (wet dreams were either scattered throughout the week or in a row of days or even 2 in one day), and in the days I had wet dreams I always felt like shit, really lazy and without any energy. But as time went by, the amount of wet dreams I had, started decreasing. Now I usually only have 1 or 2 per month, and when I do have them, the day doesn’t feel like complete shit, it’s the same as every other day, I still feel very energetic and happy throughout the entire day, I don’t really notice any change caused by the wet dreams anymore. Wet dreams seem pretty random though, for the most part, they don’t happen on days when I have mad urges, but happen on days when I don’t have a single sexual thought. My wet dreams used to be about relapsing to porn, then changed to real sex and now it’s weirdly just me peeing out of nowhere and, instead of normal pee, it feels like cumming, or sometimes the dreams are just really nothing at all, completely black or completely sex unrelated. Only thing I can say is, don’t bother about wet dreams much. They’re a natural process that doesn’t seem like it can’t be fully prevented.
Now, about semen leakage, I surprisingly only first noticed it after day 92, during bowel movements. After that, I started having semen leakage like once or twice a month (maybe more, I’m not checking how my pee looks like every single time), most of the time during bowel movements, but there were some times, that weirdly was just when I was peeing. Semen leakage doesn’t make me feel any different throughout the day, it’s just pretty weird, and it can easily trigger some people. Just like wet dreams, they seem pretty random, usually happening when I wasn’t even aroused at all that day. You shouldn’t bother much about it, it’s a natural process, that although it seems like it can be prevented, doing so appears to harm you pretty bad, so I’d just let it be like it is if I were you.
I also can’t say a lot about flatlines, because the only flatlines I noticed were always in my first or second weeks of NoFap, and they were just the physical ones, where my libido was dead, which were kind of not bad, to be honest. I don’t think I’ve had any depressive flatline. Basically, I don’t have much experience nor things to say about flatlines. But I do know something, if you’re having a flatline, please don’t fall for the oldest trick in the book. No, your genitals are fine, they aren’t completely dead and won’t stay like that forever, you don’t need to check if they’re fine. No, you relapsing won’t make those depressive numb feelings go away, it’ll just make it worse! Just hang in there, the flatline will go away soon enough.
Another thing I think it’s worth mentioning is, around day 85 NoFap, before day 90 NoFap, it was hard for me to pee, and when I did pee it was burning, so I thought I had a urinary tract infection. I immediately linked it to NoFap, but as soon as I got past day 90 NoFap, it stopped, and only then did I realize, that it was due to my high levels of stress and anxiety to make it to day 90 NoFap. During NoFap, it’s easy to relate every single thing, especially the bad stuff, to NoFap, and use it as a reason to relapse, because you think masturbating will fix it, but it doesn’t because it very likely isn’t NoFap related, to begin with. Investigate hard and, if necessary, check a doctor instead. Don’t jump immediately to conclusions and blame NoFap and go ahead and do something you’ll regret later on. Doubt not masturbating would ever fuck you up.

Warning- Everybody is different, you probably won’t have the same amount or type of wet dreams that I do, you probably won’t experience semen leakage as often I do, you probably won’t flatline the way I did, hell you might not even feel exactly like I been feeling during this NoFap journey, etc.

The Knowledge I have acquired:

Now, I will talk about what I have learned, that has helped me get to day 200, which are 3 main core things (that I will break down and explain in-depth), extremely important information I’d say, so read carefully.

Urge Killing and Why you SHOULD NOT do it- I honestly believe, urge killing, is the dumbest shit you could ever do in your NoFap journey. If you have to keep yourself busy all the time, if you have to do pushups, if you have to take a cold shower, if you have to resort to a “red alert emergency” 30 minutes plan, every single time you’re bored or get a tiny urge or boner, you’ll probably never be and/or aren’t truly cured of PMO! You're just delaying the inevitable. Stop it, you look like a clown! How can you consider yourself cured if you can't even stay relaxed in an empty room without doing anything? If you want to really be freed from PMO, you shouldn’t be killing urges, you should be embracing them, being one with them, completely be able to live your life normally and continue doing whatever you were doing (with them), be neutral towards them! Don’t think of the urges showing up as something terrible and annoying, and them going away as a relief and a blessing. Think of both scenarios as something neutral, regular, and normal.
Realize already that the urges will never go anywhere, they’re a part of YOU so why bother running and killing YOURSELF over them? Might as well just accept them once and for all and live comfortably with them.
Stop running away from the urges with all those “tricks”, because trust me when I tell you, that they run faster than you, and every time you “kill them”, they just get up and quickly catch up to you. You aren’t really killing anything at all technically, nor even weakening them. You’re just exhausting yourself by panicking over them and killing them every time, which ironically, makes you weaker, which will, in turn, make urges stronger.
Urges feed off attention, the more they get it, the stronger they get. So, the wisest thing to do really is just not giving them any kind of attention, both mentally and physically (like: trying so hard to put a stop to the urges, which really just puts more focus on them, therefore making them stronger; over-fantasizing; self-negotiating a possible nearby/future relapse; touching yourself, etc.). Let them starve, and they shall back off quickly!
Don’t get me wrong though, killing urges is way better than giving in to the urges, but in the long term, killing urges isn’t really doing you any favors. Just live your life normally with the urges, don’t freak out over them, the more you ignore them, the easier it gets. See it as something neutral (and as something you won’t obviously engage with), not good, not bad, it’s just there but won't harm you nor change your plans for the day or whatever you’re doing. It can only ever harm you, if you start engaging with it, mentally, and/or physically.
Anyways, IF, and that’s a big if, if you really can’t control yourself anymore in a certain moment, by all means, kill the urge! But whenever you possibly can, please, just try to live with it. This might take a bit of practice to fully master, might cost you some streaks, but in the end, it’s definitely worth it!

Motivation and Discipline- Now in order to achieve what I stated above (live peacefully with the urges), you’ll need some discipline. But before talking about discipline, I want to say some things about motivation. Motivation is beautiful and all, but it’s unreliable as fuck, fuck motivation, if you the type of person who keeps binge-watching motivation videos instead of just getting shit done right away no matter what or how you feel, you aren’t going anywhere in life! You know the deal, Relapse, Get Motivated, and then, Relapse again. It’s a never-ending cycle, but how do you get out of it and make it just a simple non-ending line that doesn’t get back to the start every time? Yeah, that’s right, you add a strong discipline to it. So now, it’s, Relapse, Get Motivated, Fight through shit with discipline and keep on winning until you’re dead! I’m not saying motivation is completely useless, but it’s definitely very overrated. Motivation may feel great and be what gets you to start something like a project or whatever, but the only way you sticking with it and finishing it is with discipline. Motivation is just not enough, it runs out quickly, in less than a few days or hours. Discipline though, you can always rely on it. I know discipline may feel hard and all, but it doesn’t have to be, and the good news is that you can make it easier and stronger over time. All you have to do is practice it, work it out like a muscle, so it’s really as dependable as you want it to be. You can do so by doing things you don’t particularly like, taking cold showers (especially every morning, as soon as you wake up), with meditation, by abstaining from things you like but aren’t really in your best interest to keep around, exercising/working out, etc., etc.
Get out of your comfort zone and in no time, you’ll have massive self-discipline, which will without a doubt heavily benefit your NoFap journey and your life overall. Not to mention that comfort zone usually leaves you soft, zombie-like, and more prone to relapse (hot showers did that to me).

Mindset, Beliefs, and Self-Identity- Just like discipline, your mindset/mentality will also play a huge role in your NoFap journey, and I just, can’t overemphasize enough how important it is.
First, it is an absolute must to have a strong reason and a strong belief in yourself and what you’re doing, a reason and belief you won’t even dare questioning, or at least won’t question often. You must believe in NoFap, believe in yourself, and know precisely what you want, how you getting it, and why you want it! You must have super strong beliefs/reasons, so strong that they won’t even leave any room for dumb excuses with shitty logic. No “just a last time”, No “checking how it feels now”, No “maybe it isn’t even that bad”, No “well, everyone is doing it”, No “I worked so hard, I really deserve just this one PMO session”, No “I can start doing this next month or year”, No “Do I really need NoFap in my life?” etc. No means NO! Work hard on this, cause getting a strong mindset is equally as important as developing a strong self-discipline. Keep in mind though that a lot of drug addicts know fully well that their addiction is not healthy at all, but that doesn’t stop them from hitting the drugs. So, when looking for a reason and trying to strengthen your beliefs, you might have to look beyond just the science of NoFap and why PMO fucks you up (not telling you to ignore the science, just telling you to not focus completely on science alone) and look into stuff like your goals or values or morals or self-identity or religion (if you have one) or spirituality (if you’re into that), and etc., etc.
You must get it in your head that NoFap is really in your best interest, that the best version of you, wouldn’t be behaving like a simping cuck/perv, watching girls or boys he/she wouldn’t ever get!
You also must get in your mind that you aren’t fapping ever again, even if it’s your last day alive, because the moment you even slightly think or convince yourself fapping maybe isn't that bad or that you’re fapping /watching porn/edging/peaking sometime soon in the future or in just a few hours (either cause you planning to for some reason or think you can’t make it or think it isn’t that worth it to keep being on NoFap) you’ll get mad urges, urges which your discipline will have to hold off until you successfully manage to fix your mindset and get your mind straight and fresh, focused again on what you really want. Basically, a guy on day 200 who currently has a broken unreliable mindset will have way way more urges than a guy on day 7 who currently has a mindset as strong as an iron vault.
Honestly believing you can pull this off and win in NoFap, will tremendously help you too, because if you think you can’t make it, then your brain will start telling you to not even bother trying since you can’t make it anyways apparently. Don’t listen to it though, you know your brain is just lying to get some good old dopamine. Get that winning mentality instead and practice some positive thinking, it’s just like any other habit, just get the ball rolling. You got this!
Also, don’t overcomplicate things. You shouldn’t be needing weird tricks like watching yourself relapsing or looking at pictures of you when you were a child to beat PMO! If you think about it, NoFap is easy! It’s literally just, not touching your genitals. It’s literally only that when it all comes down to it. It’s simple, so make it simple! If you see NoFap as something simple and easy, then it will be simple and easy. Thinking NoFap is hardcore will just add to your anxiety and feeling of overwhelm and despair, which will just, turn it actually harder. More people should have this “Just do it” or “Just don’t do it” mentality. There’s a reason Nike has this slogan and why it got so popular. It’s because most things in life really just require that. You just do it, that’s all. Stop stalling with all those over preparations and dumb useless “tactics”, just make it happen already! NoFap is NOT a 6-headed monster, so stop treating it like it is!
Now onto a more difficult and very opinion-based topic, self-identity/self-perception. I believe the way you see yourself will influence your NoFap journey.
If you identify yourself, as a Coomer, a guy who faps, or a loser who can’t stop fapping, then you will, certainly, act like one.
The way I see it, what makes a Coomer, are 2 things, the Coomer mentality, and the Coomer actions. One leads to another, it’s kind of a cycle, Coomer mentality makes Coomer actions happen, and Coomer actions create and/or further strengthen the Coomer mentality, which in turn, will lead to more Coomer actions. So, it’s important to break free of both of those 2 things, cause if one remains alive, it can easily revive the other, like let’s say, you have stopped fapping (Coomer actions) for like 1 week, but you still don’t think you’re a real man, you still identify yourself more as a Coomer than as a Chad, you still can’t firmly say to someone “I don’t fap!” “I’m clean man, I don’t do that shit, it’s beta as fuck, and I ain’t like that!”. You lack trust in yourself, you think you aren’t really meant for greatness, nor do you think you even deserve it in the first place. You think you’re still just a Coomer pretending to be a Chad, and you should really just act like the Coomer you are, after all, a Lil booty never hurt anyone eh? Well, well, 2 hours later, your Coomer Mentality has led you yet again to the Coomer Actions you tried to get rid of!
You don’t wanna be a Coomer though right? You wanna be a Chad, right? But what makes a Chad?
In order to become a Chad, there are 2 things that must be accomplished (just like the Coomer), the actions/achievements that make a Chad and, the Chad mentality, one thing leads to another, Chad actions lead to Chad mentality, just like Chad mentality leads to Chad actions. So, you got to either execute a couple of Chad actions that will aid you in building a Chad mentality OR make a Chad mentality all by yourself which will help you start doing Chad actions (To achieve the second one, you gotta bump that self-esteem up homie!).
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT, OR BETTER YET....NO!! YOU ARE ONE! BY ENDURING THIS NOFAP JOURNEY, YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE CHAD! NOW, KEEP BEHAVING AND START THINKING LIKE ONE!!!

Warning- Reading this once and/or not applying anything advised in here is just not enough, you won’t understand and achieve everything written here overnight or with just 1 read, you must practice, train, take notes, and study a lot. You might fail quite some times before you can truly get it all right, but in the end, it’s all worth it! This also applies to the next chapter “Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips”.
Try not to apply everything taught here all at once though, you’ll get overwhelmed and end up not learning and achieving anything at all. Slow and steady, one or 2 things at a time. Consistency, persistence, and patience are the key.

Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips:

Unfortunately, due to NoFap’s Forums’ character limit, I had to remove this entire chapter, but you can read it in a PDF file (or TXT if you really, really can’t somehow open the PDF) I attached to this post named "Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips". It’s just below “The Ending”.
I strongly recommend you read the PDF/TXT file (preferably before reading “The Ending”) if you really want to get the full, not incomplete, experience from this article. A lot of the things in it, are linked to stuff I’ve talked about earlier in this post. There’s also a bunch of really important information and advice that I couldn’t quite fit in the other chapters, but here, I had the freedom to. So, do me and yourself a favor, and check it out.
If for some reason, you can’t download, you’re not logged in NoFap Forums or don’t have an account, here’s a link for the PDF/TXT/Docx file (https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-oBvkR0FAhTT33pylV6eFksxuCWKPi6Y?usp=sharing)

The Ending:

Anyways that is all, I hope this has helped you in some way, and if it didn’t, thank you for taking the time to read this then. I really do believe you are going to make it. 2021 is likely to be crazier than 2020, 2020 was only the beginning, harder times are sure to come, we are going to lose much, but don’t let that and the uncertainty ever stop you from becoming the best YOU possible! You only ever truly lose, when you give up. In times like this, it’s important to keep your head up, help and cherish one another, but most importantly, remember what matters the most, the gift of life. Don’t throw your life away because of the fear of losing it. Let’s kick 2021 right in the ass and come out on top of it, only to keep on thriving for many more years to come! Stay safe, Stay hard, and of course, a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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Thanks my man! I really appreciated your words. Happy New Year, hope 2021 will be kind to you bro!

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Introduction:

Ayy y’all! I’m in day 200+, and I finally got myself to just sit down and share with you guys my experience with NoFap Hardmode, and the wisdom I have gained throughout this entire year, which has proved to be nothing less than an absolute success so far.
This will mostly consist of me listing down what I have learned, what I have experienced and what worked and didn’t work for me. Keep in mind that maybe some of the stuff I’m about to say might not work for you. This is personal, my opinion and my view on the matter, and I hope it’ll help you rethink your approach on NoFap.
There are lots of information to take away from this, so I suggest you re-read it a couple of more times and take a bunch of notes. Most of what’s in here can also be applied to other things in life other than NoFap. Feel free to ask any questions once you’re done reading. Anyways, let’s start.

My Story:

I just want to first talk about my old self, I used to fap almost every day, and while I wasn’t really depressed, I wasn’t that happy with myself either. Things weren’t really that enjoyable anymore, my self-esteem wasn’t exactly high and I had a bunch of ideas and projects that I kept getting motivated for, telling myself and others I would do it, only to in less than 2 days, give up immediately and forget them. I found NoFap and decided to give it a try just for the challenge, then I actually saw all the reported benefits and science behind it, and decided to stick with it, not for the challenge anymore, but because I actually could use this new big change in my life. Fast forward 1 year and now I’m pretty much a new man. I can honestly say I am really happy and a way more positive person! Things are enjoyable again! When planning and/or waiting for certain cool events to come, it actually feels exciting, like waiting for Christmas when I was a kid. I laugh way more now, things are genuinely funnier! I feel more generous and kinder towards people. I also feel more clear-headed, organized, and mindful, I know what I want, why I want it, and how I’m getting it without feeling confused and lost all the time. When I face an obstacle in life, I don’t completely go into despair like before, I simply, and quickly, find a way around or through it! I am way more open-minded, willing to do/try all sorts of new stuff and meeting new people. I love change now, I don’t run away from it anymore, I actually look forward to it instead of running away back to my shitty comfort zone. I’m so much more energetic and less lazy, I actually have a drive to get shit done now and wanting to accomplish more and more. I’m way more creative than I used to be, and I come up with such great awesome unique ideas. I used to feel like a boring person, especially when talking about achievements with other people, but now, I don’t feel like a generic person anymore, because I know I now have lots of interesting accomplished achievements to talk about. My self-esteem skyrocketed too and I have such a massive confidence in myself! I finally can start a project and actually finish it, and I can also stick to my life values for once and new habits with ease. My self-discipline got so damn strong too, I love it, I can do whatever I set my mind to. I don't know if this one is a superpower, but now I can easily shift my mood (with only my mind), I can calm myself down and hype myself up very quickly, as I please. Overall NoFap has helped me a lot and I have no intentions in going back to my old lifestyle.

What I have experienced so far:

I just want to tell you here right ahead for you to not expect NoFap to make you happy 24/7 and turn you into a God! While it does indeed help, you might, of course, get some lazy days, fall into ruts and feel sad too, but for the most part, you feel pretty energetic, and that’s a plus in my book. And when you are happy and shit, it isn’t that special, it’s just the new normal. Also don’t expect NoFap alone to magically solve all your problems in life! NoFap will just give you the energy you need, now it’s up to you to put this new energy to good use! Build new habits, start and finish amazing projects, meet interesting people, develop relationships, find true love, follow your passion, create something you believe in, leave your mark on the world, etc. Doing this is what will actually make you feel happy, fulfilled, and ultimately get your life together.
(Also, using this new energy, or rather “Sexual Energy”, in things other than just sexual acts, will reduce your urges a lot, or at least that’s what Semen Retention believers claim. I don’t agree nor disagree with the Semen Retention believers. I’m not too into it nor never tried it, but it looks a bit interesting and you might want to investigate it a little, and then come to your own conclusions.)
Another thing I just want to clear out of the way is, urges will never go away based on the NoFap day you’re in! The amount and intensity of urges you get will depend on your current mindset regarding NoFap (and of course, if you’re in a flatline/chaser effect or not). I will cover this later on in this post. Personally, I haven’t had much urges and the ones I do have are extremely manageable and short-lived due to my great discipline and skill to not engage with them and just ignore them, I will also cover this in a bit in this post.
Regarding wet dreams, at the beginning of my NoFap streaks, I always used to have them once or twice a week, sometimes even 3 a week (wet dreams were either scattered throughout the week or in a row of days or even 2 in one day), and in the days I had wet dreams I always felt like shit, really lazy and without any energy. But as time went by, the amount of wet dreams I had, started decreasing. Now I usually only have 1 or 2 per month, and when I do have them, the day doesn’t feel like complete shit, it’s the same as every other day, I still feel very energetic and happy throughout the entire day, I don’t really notice any change caused by the wet dreams anymore. Wet dreams seem pretty random though, for the most part, they don’t happen on days when I have mad urges, but happen on days when I don’t have a single sexual thought. My wet dreams used to be about relapsing to porn, then changed to real sex and now it’s weirdly just me peeing out of nowhere and, instead of normal pee, it feels like cumming, or sometimes the dreams are just really nothing at all, completely black or completely sex unrelated. Only thing I can say is, don’t bother about wet dreams much. They’re a natural process that doesn’t seem like it can’t be fully prevented.
Now, about semen leakage, I surprisingly only first noticed it after day 92, during bowel movements. After that, I started having semen leakage like once or twice a month (maybe more, I’m not checking how my pee looks like every single time), most of the time during bowel movements, but there were some times, that weirdly was just when I was peeing. Semen leakage doesn’t make me feel any different throughout the day, it’s just pretty weird, and it can easily trigger some people. Just like wet dreams, they seem pretty random, usually happening when I wasn’t even aroused at all that day. You shouldn’t bother much about it, it’s a natural process, that although it seems like it can be prevented, doing so appears to harm you pretty bad, so I’d just let it be like it is if I were you.
I also can’t say a lot about flatlines, because the only flatlines I noticed were always in my first or second weeks of NoFap, and they were just the physical ones, where my libido was dead, which were kind of not bad, to be honest. I don’t think I’ve had any depressive flatline. Basically, I don’t have much experience nor things to say about flatlines. But I do know something, if you’re having a flatline, please don’t fall for the oldest trick in the book. No, your genitals are fine, they aren’t completely dead and won’t stay like that forever, you don’t need to check if they’re fine. No, you relapsing won’t make those depressive numb feelings go away, it’ll just make it worse! Just hang in there, the flatline will go away soon enough.
Another thing I think it’s worth mentioning is, around day 85 NoFap, before day 90 NoFap, it was hard for me to pee, and when I did pee it was burning, so I thought I had a urinary tract infection. I immediately linked it to NoFap, but as soon as I got past day 90 NoFap, it stopped, and only then did I realize, that it was due to my high levels of stress and anxiety to make it to day 90 NoFap. During NoFap, it’s easy to relate every single thing, especially the bad stuff, to NoFap, and use it as a reason to relapse, because you think masturbating will fix it, but it doesn’t because it very likely isn’t NoFap related, to begin with. Investigate hard and, if necessary, check a doctor instead. Don’t jump immediately to conclusions and blame NoFap and go ahead and do something you’ll regret later on. Doubt not masturbating would ever fuck you up.

Warning- Everybody is different, you probably won’t have the same amount or type of wet dreams that I do, you probably won’t experience semen leakage as often I do, you probably won’t flatline the way I did, hell you might not even feel exactly like I been feeling during this NoFap journey, etc.

The Knowledge I have acquired:

Now, I will talk about what I have learned, that has helped me get to day 200, which are 3 main core things (that I will break down and explain in-depth), extremely important information I’d say, so read carefully.

Urge Killing and Why you SHOULD NOT do it- I honestly believe, urge killing, is the dumbest shit you could ever do in your NoFap journey. If you have to keep yourself busy all the time, if you have to do pushups, if you have to take a cold shower, if you have to resort to a “red alert emergency” 30 minutes plan, every single time you’re bored or get a tiny urge or boner, you’ll probably never be and/or aren’t truly cured of PMO! You're just delaying the inevitable. Stop it, you look like a clown! How can you consider yourself cured if you can't even stay relaxed in an empty room without doing anything? If you want to really be freed from PMO, you shouldn’t be killing urges, you should be embracing them, being one with them, completely be able to live your life normally and continue doing whatever you were doing (with them), be neutral towards them! Don’t think of the urges showing up as something terrible and annoying, and them going away as a relief and a blessing. Think of both scenarios as something neutral, regular, and normal.
Realize already that the urges will never go anywhere, they’re a part of YOU so why bother running and killing YOURSELF over them? Might as well just accept them once and for all and live comfortably with them.
Stop running away from the urges with all those “tricks”, because trust me when I tell you, that they run faster than you, and every time you “kill them”, they just get up and quickly catch up to you. You aren’t really killing anything at all technically, nor even weakening them. You’re just exhausting yourself by panicking over them and killing them every time, which ironically, makes you weaker, which will, in turn, make urges stronger.
Urges feed off attention, the more they get it, the stronger they get. So, the wisest thing to do really is just not giving them any kind of attention, both mentally and physically (like: trying so hard to put a stop to the urges, which really just puts more focus on them, therefore making them stronger; over-fantasizing; self-negotiating a possible nearby/future relapse; touching yourself, etc.). Let them starve, and they shall back off quickly!
Don’t get me wrong though, killing urges is way better than giving in to the urges, but in the long term, killing urges isn’t really doing you any favors. Just live your life normally with the urges, don’t freak out over them, the more you ignore them, the easier it gets. See it as something neutral (and as something you won’t obviously engage with), not good, not bad, it’s just there but won't harm you nor change your plans for the day or whatever you’re doing. It can only ever harm you, if you start engaging with it, mentally, and/or physically.
Anyways, IF, and that’s a big if, if you really can’t control yourself anymore in a certain moment, by all means, kill the urge! But whenever you possibly can, please, just try to live with it. This might take a bit of practice to fully master, might cost you some streaks, but in the end, it’s definitely worth it!

Motivation and Discipline- Now in order to achieve what I stated above (live peacefully with the urges), you’ll need some discipline. But before talking about discipline, I want to say some things about motivation. Motivation is beautiful and all, but it’s unreliable as fuck, fuck motivation, if you the type of person who keeps binge-watching motivation videos instead of just getting shit done right away no matter what or how you feel, you aren’t going anywhere in life! You know the deal, Relapse, Get Motivated, and then, Relapse again. It’s a never-ending cycle, but how do you get out of it and make it just a simple non-ending line that doesn’t get back to the start every time? Yeah, that’s right, you add a strong discipline to it. So now, it’s, Relapse, Get Motivated, Fight through shit with discipline and keep on winning until you’re dead! I’m not saying motivation is completely useless, but it’s definitely very overrated. Motivation may feel great and be what gets you to start something like a project or whatever, but the only way you sticking with it and finishing it is with discipline. Motivation is just not enough, it runs out quickly, in less than a few days or hours. Discipline though, you can always rely on it. I know discipline may feel hard and all, but it doesn’t have to be, and the good news is that you can make it easier and stronger over time. All you have to do is practice it, work it out like a muscle, so it’s really as dependable as you want it to be. You can do so by doing things you don’t particularly like, taking cold showers (especially every morning, as soon as you wake up), with meditation, by abstaining from things you like but aren’t really in your best interest to keep around, exercising/working out, etc., etc.
Get out of your comfort zone and in no time, you’ll have massive self-discipline, which will without a doubt heavily benefit your NoFap journey and your life overall. Not to mention that comfort zone usually leaves you soft, zombie-like, and more prone to relapse (hot showers did that to me).

Mindset, Beliefs, and Self-Identity- Just like discipline, your mindset/mentality will also play a huge role in your NoFap journey, and I just, can’t overemphasize enough how important it is.
First, it is an absolute must to have a strong reason and a strong belief in yourself and what you’re doing, a reason and belief you won’t even dare questioning, or at least won’t question often. You must believe in NoFap, believe in yourself, and know precisely what you want, how you getting it, and why you want it! You must have super strong beliefs/reasons, so strong that they won’t even leave any room for dumb excuses with shitty logic. No “just a last time”, No “checking how it feels now”, No “maybe it isn’t even that bad”, No “well, everyone is doing it”, No “I worked so hard, I really deserve just this one PMO session”, No “I can start doing this next month or year”, No “Do I really need NoFap in my life?” etc. No means NO! Work hard on this, cause getting a strong mindset is equally as important as developing a strong self-discipline. Keep in mind though that a lot of drug addicts know fully well that their addiction is not healthy at all, but that doesn’t stop them from hitting the drugs. So, when looking for a reason and trying to strengthen your beliefs, you might have to look beyond just the science of NoFap and why PMO fucks you up (not telling you to ignore the science, just telling you to not focus completely on science alone) and look into stuff like your goals or values or morals or self-identity or religion (if you have one) or spirituality (if you’re into that), and etc., etc.
You must get it in your head that NoFap is really in your best interest, that the best version of you, wouldn’t be behaving like a simping cuck/perv, watching girls or boys he/she wouldn’t ever get!
You also must get in your mind that you aren’t fapping ever again, even if it’s your last day alive, because the moment you even slightly think or convince yourself fapping maybe isn't that bad or that you’re fapping /watching porn/edging/peaking sometime soon in the future or in just a few hours (either cause you planning to for some reason or think you can’t make it or think it isn’t that worth it to keep being on NoFap) you’ll get mad urges, urges which your discipline will have to hold off until you successfully manage to fix your mindset and get your mind straight and fresh, focused again on what you really want. Basically, a guy on day 200 who currently has a broken unreliable mindset will have way way more urges than a guy on day 7 who currently has a mindset as strong as an iron vault.
Honestly believing you can pull this off and win in NoFap, will tremendously help you too, because if you think you can’t make it, then your brain will start telling you to not even bother trying since you can’t make it anyways apparently. Don’t listen to it though, you know your brain is just lying to get some good old dopamine. Get that winning mentality instead and practice some positive thinking, it’s just like any other habit, just get the ball rolling. You got this!
Also, don’t overcomplicate things. You shouldn’t be needing weird tricks like watching yourself relapsing or looking at pictures of you when you were a child to beat PMO! If you think about it, NoFap is easy! It’s literally just, not touching your genitals. It’s literally only that when it all comes down to it. It’s simple, so make it simple! If you see NoFap as something simple and easy, then it will be simple and easy. Thinking NoFap is hardcore will just add to your anxiety and feeling of overwhelm and despair, which will just, turn it actually harder. More people should have this “Just do it” or “Just don’t do it” mentality. There’s a reason Nike has this slogan and why it got so popular. It’s because most things in life really just require that. You just do it, that’s all. Stop stalling with all those over preparations and dumb useless “tactics”, just make it happen already! NoFap is NOT a 6-headed monster, so stop treating it like it is!
Now onto a more difficult and very opinion-based topic, self-identity/self-perception. I believe the way you see yourself will influence your NoFap journey.
If you identify yourself, as a Coomer, a guy who faps, or a loser who can’t stop fapping, then you will, certainly, act like one.
The way I see it, what makes a Coomer, are 2 things, the Coomer mentality, and the Coomer actions. One leads to another, it’s kind of a cycle, Coomer mentality makes Coomer actions happen, and Coomer actions create and/or further strengthen the Coomer mentality, which in turn, will lead to more Coomer actions. So, it’s important to break free of both of those 2 things, cause if one remains alive, it can easily revive the other, like let’s say, you have stopped fapping (Coomer actions) for like 1 week, but you still don’t think you’re a real man, you still identify yourself more as a Coomer than as a Chad, you still can’t firmly say to someone “I don’t fap!” “I’m clean man, I don’t do that shit, it’s beta as fuck, and I ain’t like that!”. You lack trust in yourself, you think you aren’t really meant for greatness, nor do you think you even deserve it in the first place. You think you’re still just a Coomer pretending to be a Chad, and you should really just act like the Coomer you are, after all, a Lil booty never hurt anyone eh? Well, well, 2 hours later, your Coomer Mentality has led you yet again to the Coomer Actions you tried to get rid of!
You don’t wanna be a Coomer though right? You wanna be a Chad, right? But what makes a Chad?
In order to become a Chad, there are 2 things that must be accomplished (just like the Coomer), the actions/achievements that make a Chad and, the Chad mentality, one thing leads to another, Chad actions lead to Chad mentality, just like Chad mentality leads to Chad actions. So, you got to either execute a couple of Chad actions that will aid you in building a Chad mentality OR make a Chad mentality all by yourself which will help you start doing Chad actions (To achieve the second one, you gotta bump that self-esteem up homie!).
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT, OR BETTER YET....NO!! YOU ARE ONE! BY ENDURING THIS NOFAP JOURNEY, YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE CHAD! NOW, KEEP BEHAVING AND START THINKING LIKE ONE!!!

Warning- Reading this once and/or not applying anything advised in here is just not enough, you won’t understand and achieve everything written here overnight or with just 1 read, you must practice, train, take notes, and study a lot. You might fail quite some times before you can truly get it all right, but in the end, it’s all worth it! This also applies to the next chapter “Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips”.
Try not to apply everything taught here all at once though, you’ll get overwhelmed and end up not learning and achieving anything at all. Slow and steady, one or 2 things at a time. Consistency, persistence, and patience are the key.

Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips:

Unfortunately, due to NoFap’s Forums’ character limit, I had to remove this entire chapter, but you can read it in a PDF file (or TXT if you really, really can’t somehow open the PDF) I attached to this post named "Observations, Advice, and Extra Tips". It’s just below “The Ending”.
I strongly recommend you read the PDF/TXT file (preferably before reading “The Ending”) if you really want to get the full, not incomplete, experience from this article. A lot of the things in it, are linked to stuff I’ve talked about earlier in this post. There’s also a bunch of really important information and advice that I couldn’t quite fit in the other chapters, but here, I had the freedom to. So, do me and yourself a favor, and check it out.
If for some reason, you can’t download, you’re not logged in NoFap Forums or don’t have an account, here’s a link for the PDF/TXT/Docx file (https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-oBvkR0FAhTT33pylV6eFksxuCWKPi6Y?usp=sharing)

The Ending:

Anyways that is all, I hope this has helped you in some way, and if it didn’t, thank you for taking the time to read this then. I really do believe you are going to make it. 2021 is likely to be crazier than 2020, 2020 was only the beginning, harder times are sure to come, we are going to lose much, but don’t let that and the uncertainty ever stop you from becoming the best YOU possible! You only ever truly lose, when you give up. In times like this, it’s important to keep your head up, help and cherish one another, but most importantly, remember what matters the most, the gift of life. Don’t throw your life away because of the fear of losing it. Let’s kick 2021 right in the ass and come out on top of it, only to keep on thriving for many more years to come! Stay safe, Stay hard, and of course, a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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This is awesome.

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This is awesome.
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Thank you for your kind words my man! Have a nice day!

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Easily the best nofap guide I have ever read in my whole life. It honestly helped me so much in my nofap journey as well....THANK YOU....don't know what would have happened to me without your help... thank you....friend..

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Easily the best nofap guide I have ever read in my whole life. It honestly helped me so much in my nofap journey as well....THANK YOU....don't know what would have happened to me without your help... thank you....friend..
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Thanks! Appreciate the kind words. Have a good one friend!

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Very inspiring and insightful post. Thanks for putting so much effort in it.

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I just read this file and man, hats off to your self-awareness, ability to observe and make reasonable, logical points. With this age and this awareness you are really owning your ass. Good luck!

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Very inspiring and insightful post. Thanks for putting so much effort in it.
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Thanks my man.

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I just read this file and man, hats off to your self-awareness, ability to observe and make reasonable, logical points. With this age and this awareness you are really owning your ass. Good luck!
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Ahah thanks a lot for this. Good luck to you too brother.

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It's been a year since I posted this, so I decided to make a 1 year update. Anyways, enjoy and happy new year y'all
Let's see if 'em new year resolutions get done this time

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The Introduction:

Ayy y’all! I wrote this when I was in day 200+, now I'm well past day 365+, and I finally got myself to just sit down and share with you guys my experience with NoFap Hardmode, and the wisdom I have gained throughout this entire year, in a practical manner.
This will mostly consist of me listing down what I have learned, what I have experienced and what worked and didn’t work for me. Keep in mind that maybe some of the stuff I’m about to say might not work for you. This is personal, my opinion and my view on the matter, and I hope it’ll help you rethink your approach on NoFap.
There are lots of information to take away from this, so I suggest you re-read it a couple of more times and take a bunch of notes. Most of what’s in here can also be applied to other things in life other than NoFap. Feel free to ask any questions once you’re done reading. Anyways, let’s start.

My Story:

I just want to first talk about my old self, I used to fap almost every day, and while I wasn’t really depressed, I wasn’t that happy with myself either. Things weren’t really that enjoyable anymore, my self-esteem wasn’t exactly high and I had a bunch of ideas and projects that I kept getting motivated for, telling myself and others I would do it, only to in less than 2 days, give up immediately and forget them. I found NoFap and decided to give it a try just for the challenge, then I actually saw all the reported benefits and science behind it, and decided to stick with it, not for the challenge anymore, but because I actually could use this new big change in my life. Fast forward 1 year and now I’m pretty much a new man. I can honestly say I am really happy and a way more positive person! Things are enjoyable again! When planning and/or waiting for certain cool events to come, it actually feels exciting, like waiting for Christmas when I was a kid. I laugh way more now, things are genuinely funnier! I feel more generous and kinder towards people. I also feel more clear-headed, organized, and mindful, I know what I want, why I want it, and how I’m getting it without feeling confused and lost all the time. When I face an obstacle in life, I don’t completely go into despair like before, I simply, and quickly, find a way around or through it! I am way more open-minded, willing to do/try all sorts of new stuff and meeting new people. I love change now, I don’t run away from it anymore, I actually look forward to it instead of running away back to my shitty comfort zone. I’m so much more energetic and less lazy, I actually have a drive to get shit done now and wanting to accomplish more and more. I’m way more creative than I used to be, and I come up with such great awesome unique ideas. I used to feel like a boring person, especially when talking about achievements with other people, but now, I don’t feel like a generic person anymore, because I know I now have lots of interesting accomplished achievements to talk about. My self-esteem skyrocketed too and I have such a massive confidence in myself! I finally can start a project and actually finish it, and I can also stick to my life values for once and new habits with ease. My self-discipline got so damn strong too, I love it, I can do whatever I set my mind to. I don't know if this one is a superpower, but now I can easily shift my mood (with only my mind), I can calm myself down and hype myself up very quickly, as I please. Overall NoFap has helped me a lot and I have no intentions in going back to my old lifestyle.

How the experience has been going:

I just want to tell you here right ahead for you to not expect NoFap to make you happy 24/7 and turn you into a God! While it does indeed help, you might, of course, get some lazy days, fall into ruts and feel sad too, but for the most part, you feel pretty energetic, and that’s a plus in my book. And when you are happy and shit, it isn’t that special, it’s just the new normal. Also don’t expect NoFap alone to magically solve all your problems in life! NoFap will just give you the energy you need, now it’s up to you to put this new energy to good use! Build new habits, start and finish amazing projects, meet interesting people, develop relationships, find true love, follow your passion, create something you believe in, leave your mark on the world, etc. Doing this is what will actually make you feel happy, fulfilled, and ultimately get your life together.
Another thing I just want to clear out of the way is, urges will never go away based on the NoFap day you’re in! The amount and intensity of urges you get will depend on your current mindset regarding NoFap (and of course, if you’re in a flatline/chaser effect or not). I will cover this later on in this post. Personally, I haven’t had much urges and the ones I do have are extremely manageable and short-lived due to my great discipline and skill to not engage with them and just ignore them, I will also cover this in a bit in this post.

The Essentials:

Now, I will talk about what I have learned, that has helped me get to day 365+, which are 3 main core things (that I will break down and explain in-depth), extremely important information I’d say, so read carefully.

Urge Killing and Why you SHOULD NOT do it- I honestly believe, urge killing, is the dumbest shit you could ever do in your NoFap journey. If you have to keep yourself busy all the time, if you have to do pushups, if you have to take a cold shower, if you have to resort to a “red alert emergency” 30 minutes plan, every single time you’re bored or get a tiny urge or boner, you’ll probably never be and/or aren’t truly cured of PMO! You're just delaying the inevitable. Stop it, you look like a clown! How can you consider yourself cured if you can't even stay relaxed in an empty room without doing anything? If you want to really be freed from PMO, you shouldn’t be killing urges, you should be embracing them, being one with them, completely be able to live your life normally and continue doing whatever you were doing (with them), be neutral towards them! Don’t think of the urges showing up as something terrible and annoying, and them going away as a relief and a blessing. Think of both scenarios as something neutral, regular, and normal.
Realize already that the urges will never go anywhere, they’re a part of YOU so why bother running and killing YOURSELF over them? Might as well just accept them once and for all and live comfortably with them.
Stop running away from the urges with all those “tricks”, because trust me when I tell you, that they run faster than you, and every time you “kill them”, they just get up and quickly catch up to you. You aren’t really killing anything at all technically, nor even weakening them. You’re just exhausting yourself by panicking over them and killing them every time, which ironically, makes you weaker, which will, in turn, make urges stronger.
Urges feed off attention, the more they get it, the stronger they get. So, the wisest thing to do really is just not giving them any kind of attention, both mentally and physically (like: trying so hard to put a stop to the urges, which really just puts more focus on them, therefore making them stronger; over-fantasizing; self-negotiating a possible nearby/future relapse; touching yourself, etc.). Let them starve, and they shall back off quickly!
Don’t get me wrong though, killing urges is way better than giving in to the urges, but in the long term, killing urges isn’t really doing you any favors. Just live your life normally with the urges, don’t freak out over them, the more you ignore them, the easier it gets. See it as something neutral (and as something you won’t obviously engage with), not good, not bad, it’s just there but won't harm you nor change your plans for the day or whatever you’re doing. It can only ever harm you, if you start engaging with it, mentally, and/or physically.
Anyways, IF, and that’s a big if, if you really can’t control yourself anymore in a certain moment, by all means, kill the urge! But whenever you possibly can, please, just try to live with it. This might take a bit of practice to fully master, might cost you some streaks, but in the end, it’s definitely worth it!

Motivation and Discipline- Now in order to achieve what I stated above (live peacefully with the urges), you’ll need some discipline. But before talking about discipline, I want to say some things about motivation. Motivation is beautiful and all, but it’s unreliable as fuck, fuck motivation, if you the type of person who keeps binge-watching motivation videos instead of just getting shit done right away no matter what or how you feel, you aren’t going anywhere in life! You know the deal, Relapse, Get Motivated, and then, Relapse again. It’s a never-ending cycle, but how do you get out of it and make it just a simple non-ending line that doesn’t get back to the start every time? Yeah, that’s right, you add a strong discipline to it. So now, it’s, Relapse, Get Motivated, Fight through shit with discipline and keep on winning until you’re dead! I’m not saying motivation is completely useless, but it’s definitely very overrated. Motivation may feel great and be what gets you to start something like a project or whatever, but the only way you sticking with it and finishing it is with discipline. Motivation is just not enough, it runs out quickly, in less than a few days or hours. Discipline though, you can always rely on it. I know discipline may feel hard and all, but it doesn’t have to be, and the good news is that you can make it easier and stronger over time. All you have to do is practice it, work it out like a muscle, so it’s really as dependable as you want it to be. You can do so by doing things you don’t particularly like, taking cold showers (especially every morning, as soon as you wake up), with meditation, by abstaining from things you like but aren’t really in your best interest to keep around, exercising/working out, etc., etc.
Get out of your comfort zone and in no time, you’ll have massive self-discipline, which will without a doubt heavily benefit your NoFap journey and your life overall. Not to mention that comfort zone usually leaves you soft, zombie-like, and more prone to relapse (hot showers did that to me).

Mindset, Beliefs, and Self-Identity- Just like discipline, your mindset/mentality will also play a huge role in your NoFap journey, and I just, can’t overemphasize enough how important it is.
First, it is an absolute must to have a strong reason and a strong belief in yourself and what you’re doing, a reason and belief you won’t even dare questioning, or at least won’t question often. You must believe in NoFap, believe in yourself, and know precisely what you want, how you getting it, and why you want it! You must have super strong beliefs/reasons, so strong that they won’t even leave any room for dumb excuses with shitty logic. No “just a last time”, No “checking how it feels now”, No “maybe it isn’t even that bad”, No “well, everyone is doing it”, No “I worked so hard, I really deserve just this one PMO session”, No “I can start doing this next month or year”, No “Do I really need NoFap in my life?” etc. No means NO! Work hard on this, cause getting a strong mindset is equally as important as developing a strong self-discipline. Keep in mind though that a lot of drug addicts know fully well that their addiction is not healthy at all, but that doesn’t stop them from hitting the drugs. So, when looking for a reason and trying to strengthen your beliefs, you might have to look beyond just the science of NoFap and why PMO fucks you up (not telling you to ignore the science, just telling you to not focus completely on science alone) and look into stuff like your goals or values or morals or self-identity or religion (if you have one) or spirituality (if you’re into that), and etc., etc.
You must get it in your head that NoFap is really in your best interest, that the best version of you, wouldn’t be behaving like a simping cuck/perv, watching girls or boys he/she wouldn’t ever get!
You also must get in your mind that you aren’t fapping ever again, even if it’s your last day alive, because the moment you even slightly think or convince yourself fapping maybe isn't that bad or that you’re fapping /watching porn/edging/peaking sometime soon in the future or in just a few hours (either cause you planning to for some reason or think you can’t make it or think it isn’t that worth it to keep being on NoFap) you’ll get mad urges, urges which your discipline will have to hold off until you successfully manage to fix your mindset and get your mind straight and fresh, focused again on what you really want. Basically, a guy on day 200 who currently has a broken unreliable mindset will have way way more urges than a guy on day 7 who currently has a mindset as strong as an iron vault.
Honestly believing you can pull this off and win in NoFap, will tremendously help you too, because if you think you can’t make it, then your brain will start telling you to not even bother trying since you can’t make it anyways apparently. Don’t listen to it though, you know your brain is just lying to get some good old dopamine. Get that winning mentality instead and practice some positive thinking, it’s just like any other habit, just get the ball rolling. You got this!
Also, don’t overcomplicate things. You shouldn’t be needing weird tricks like watching yourself relapsing or looking at pictures of you when you were a child to beat PMO! If you think about it, NoFap is easy! It’s literally just, not touching your genitals. It’s literally only that when it all comes down to it. It’s simple, so make it simple! If you see NoFap as something simple and easy, then it will be simple and easy. Thinking NoFap is hardcore will just add to your anxiety and feeling of overwhelm and despair, which will just, turn it actually harder. More people should have this “Just do it” or “Just don’t do it” mentality. There’s a reason Nike has this slogan and why it got so popular. It’s because most things in life really just require that. You just do it, that’s all. Stop stalling with all those over preparations and dumb useless “tactics”, just make it happen already! NoFap is NOT a 6-headed monster, so stop treating it like it is!
Now onto a more difficult and very opinion-based topic, self-identity/self-perception. I believe the way you see yourself will influence your NoFap journey.
If you identify yourself, as a Coomer, a guy who faps, or a loser who can’t stop fapping, then you will, certainly, act like one.
The way I see it, what makes a Coomer, are 2 things, the Coomer mentality, and the Coomer actions. One leads to another, it’s kind of a cycle, Coomer mentality makes Coomer actions happen, and Coomer actions create and/or further strengthen the Coomer mentality, which in turn, will lead to more Coomer actions. So, it’s important to break free of both of those 2 things, cause if one remains alive, it can easily revive the other, like let’s say, you have stopped fapping (Coomer actions) for like 1 week, but you still don’t think you’re a real man, you still identify yourself more as a Coomer than as a Chad, you still can’t firmly say to someone “I don’t fap!” “I’m clean man, I don’t do that shit, it’s beta as fuck, and I ain’t like that!”. You lack trust in yourself, you think you aren’t really meant for greatness, nor do you think you even deserve it in the first place. You think you’re still just a Coomer pretending to be a Chad, and you should really just act like the Coomer you are, after all, a Lil booty never hurt anyone eh? Well, well, 2 hours later, your Coomer Mentality has led you yet again to the Coomer Actions you tried to get rid of!
You don’t wanna be a Coomer though right? You wanna be a Chad, right? But what makes a Chad?
In order to become a Chad, there are 2 things that must be accomplished (just like the Coomer), the actions/achievements that make a Chad and, the Chad mentality, one thing leads to another, Chad actions lead to Chad mentality, just like Chad mentality leads to Chad actions. So, you got to either execute a couple of Chad actions that will aid you in building a Chad mentality OR make a Chad mentality all by yourself which will help you start doing Chad actions (To achieve the second one, you gotta bump that self-esteem up homie!).
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT, OR BETTER YET....NO!! YOU ARE ONE! BY ENDURING THIS NOFAP JOURNEY, YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE CHAD! NOW, KEEP BEHAVING AND START THINKING LIKE ONE!!!

Warning- Reading this once and/or not applying anything advised in here is just not enough, you won’t understand and achieve everything written here overnight or with just 1 read, you must practice, train, take notes, and study a lot. You might fail quite some times before you can truly get it all right, but in the end, it’s all worth it! This also applies to the next chapter “Extras”.
Try not to apply everything taught here all at once though, you’ll get overwhelmed and end up not learning and achieving anything at all. Slow and steady, one or 2 things at a time. Consistency, persistence, and patience are the key.

Extras:

Unfortunately, due to NoFap’s Forums’ character limit, I had to remove a lot of content, but you can read it in a PDF file (or TXT if you really, really can’t somehow open the PDF) I attached to this post named "Extras", and also a little one named "Inconveniences". It’s just below “The Ending”.
I strongly recommend you read the PDF/TXT files (preferably before reading “The Ending”) if you really want to get the full, not incomplete, experience from this article. A lot of the things in it, are linked to stuff I’ve talked about earlier in this post. There’s also a bunch of really important information and advice that I couldn’t quite fit in the other chapters, but here, I had the freedom to. So, do me and yourself a favor, and check it out.
If for some reason, you can’t download, you’re not logged in NoFap Forums or don’t have an account, here’s a link for the PDF/TXT files.
(https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-oBvkR0FAhTT33pylV6eFksxuCWKPi6Y?usp=sharing)

The Ending:

Anyways that is all, I hope this has helped you in some way, and if it didn’t, thank you for taking the time to read this then. I really do believe you are going to make it. 2021 is likely to be crazier than 2020, 2020 was only the beginning, harder times are sure to come, we are going to lose much, but don’t let that and the uncertainty ever stop you from becoming the best YOU possible! You only ever truly lose, when you give up. In times like this, it’s important to keep your head up, help and cherish one another, but most importantly, remember what matters the most, the gift of life. Don’t throw your life away because of the fear of losing it. Let’s kick 2021 right in the ass and come out on top of it, only to keep on thriving for many more years to come! Stay safe, Stay hard, and of course, a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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Thank you brother for sharing your story !

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Thank you brother for sharing your story !
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Don't mention it homie, it was my duty to share the knowledge I've acquired. Anyways thanks for your comment, I really appreciate it!

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Great job! I'm new to NoFap and during my research I've found plenty of strange things. Your story makes me feel motivated to treat NoFap a part of my lifestyle.

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