Minister Taking the Challenge!

Hello ckj i've just joined too and i am very happy to see another christian brother trough here, i have been fighting porn for some time now and im sure Jesus will provide us all the strenght to keep going. May God bless you too in your life as a minister!

God bless us all in this community!

 

I'm Christian too. There were times when I'm alone, I'll read the bible, trying to fight the urges.. Then I'll just get defeated. . PMOed then feel guilty then read the bible again. Just wondering if you guys have experienced that..

 

Hi Guys

I can relate to what you're saying however now in my mid 50s I'm sorry to say this has been going on for me for a lot longer - I would say a significant problem since my 20s (before the Internet existed) but what I would call it a full blown addiction for at least the last ten years.

Anyway, the point is that I'm also new here but have had a tremendous sense of finding the key at last in the combination of getting up to speed with the science and finding a place to talk. I think the two work very powerfully together.

Discovering that my problem is not due to being a disgusting weak willed pyschologically flawed human being but is simply a matter of chemical paths being created that it takes time to rewrite has been incredibly liberating. I read somewhere it's like sledging down a slope. After you create a path in the snow that's where you will naturally go just following the incline in future. Maybe that's why its called an "inclination"???

What we need are new paths and that takes time. But every time you go a different route in spite of the inclination you weaken that path and strengthen a new one.

Secondly its a huge relief to be able to own up and talk in a supportive atmosphere.

So you've got friends here ckj. Slide down a better side of the hill - we're cheering you on.

 

Fantastic decision ckj!

 

That's the thing... I think when I read the bible sometimes I'm not putting my faith in it. I don't "wear" it. I just read it like it's a spell that would magically make my addictions go away. It really takes believing, praying and taking action. "Mind of Christ".. I should always remember that. Thanks!

 

Ckj pornography grips a lot of the christian community because its so taboo. Churches don't tackle it. When I was growing up, I wasn't aware that pornography is extremely destructive. Anyway kudos and good luck to you! I'm going to pray for our churches to learn how to deal with this....

 

So, I was just thinking. I grew up LDS. I believe in Christ. I have admitted to multiple bishops my PMO problem, all my immediate and some extended family, roommates and close friends, 2 clinical psychologist, 1 social worker, my mission president (person in charge on a 2 year LDS mission), got a blessing from one of my bishops to stop, attended 12 step from 3 different groups over 1 year, attended 2 groups with a professional clinical psychologist at BYU and now I'm trying this journal/forum. I started at around 10 years and I am 23...Although I have tried what seems like everything, I am going to keep going. Keep trying. Keep journaling. Keep admitting I need help. Keep plea-ing with Christ that I need help. That he can help me. That he can heal me. I am going to keep praying. I am hopeful thanks to this forum. 2 days clean.

 

Stay strong ckj!

It is important to remember as you go forward that you are not alone in this struggle. It may seem like it, but you are not! We are all members of Christ's body. As you stated, you need to put on that Holy Armor for battle. I encourage you to read these forums to gain focus and reason in this most unreasonable area of our lives. The Sacred Sexuality videos and website would probably be a good look for you also if you haven't checked it out yet.

You are in my prayers. Keep the faith even if you slip, all is not lost. The fact that you are trying to do better is the biggest step.

 

That is so true, December. My prayer is that when I have recovered from this addiction Christ will use me to minister to others. I really hope that will happen.

 

yea, stay strong, thats really important.
keep your relationship to god and you can do this with Jesus help!

 

Brothers: Take a listen to these broadcasts on Maintaining Sexual Purity of January 8th, 9th and 13th which are excellent.

This is physiological, psychological and spiritual battle we are in. "Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul." (1 Peter 3:11)

I continue to learn that our sexual desires when given over to God and used within his ordained boundaries is such a great blessing, but when used outside those boundaries they can be become such a pain and a burden in our lives. The battle is first won in the mind yet we have to realize that there are physiological aspects to this addiction where our brains need rebooting before we can finally overcome. After all, we need to look at this issue wholistically as we are comprised of body, soul and spirit which are inextricably linked - each component affects the other.

Praying for us all to find the victory in Christ one battle at a time!

 

Here's a thread with some good, concrete advice.

 

What do you mean "you can't pee"? This could be a health issue, I never heard of a similar case.
I don't know if it will help, but you could try drinking more water (it will cause you to urinate more and keep the channels unobstructed). If you think you need, try to see a doctor. Be careful what you say to him, because the doctor could be one of those morons that say that "masturbation is a good habit".
This feeling of "being punched in the sack" happens a lot when you are with a girlfriend, have a lot of contact with her, but no sex in the end. Your "old brain" does not know that you will not have sex and starts preparing your body (your genitals, specifically) to reproduction. When you are without her again, the sperm that were ready to leave you body does not leave (unless you masturbate) and you got this awful feeling. Again, I never heard about someone having this feeling without being with a girl. Unless you are having a lot of nasty thoughts during the day without masturbating, it should not happen. If this is the case, try to find other things to think about (Philippians 4:8).
God bless you, man. There is a lot of people here wishing to help, some with faith and some without it. Listen to them all and keep what you find to be usable.