i am on day 13th..... my problem is I am triggered by everything , even unavoidable things... This time my problem is that whenever i hear any female voice on T.V I get turn on... and tingly feeling in penis. & I cant avoid this everythime... There is T.V everywhere in my house and wherever I go , I hear female voice on T.V I get urges.... And I run away from that place or have to put fingers in my ears ..But it looks weird to others and IT IS WIERD .... I dont look anything triggering Stopped watching youtube due to ads, stopped watching movies and T.V. but I cant stop hearing the voice that is coming in my ear ... And If I dare to listen it without thinking of consequence the urge start increasing and tingly feeling in penis and have precum then after some time i feel like I played with trigger and ruined my streak...& should Start again... What should I do in this situation ..??????
If you can, go outside and try to relax. Tell yourself that you're in control, and that you can handle an urge. Always remember that the urge won't go away as long as you're growing out of it.
You have to face reality and life. You can’t be escaping forever. If just hearing a Female voice is tempting, then you have to realize that you have a long way to go. The problem isn’t the Female voice, it’s what meaning you Give it. Just normalize it. It’s NOTHING wrong with that voice. If you keep objectifying it and giving it other meanings just to trigger you, You will never recover. Recovery is about facing life for real, for what it is, not What our addicted mind tells us. There are no quick fixes. Face life, find accountability and find a Working mindset for You to do this. Only you know the answer to what you need.
Okk I will face it... .. But the problem is I start feeling my streak is not genuine & i intentionally played with trigger and got dopamine
A relapse is bad, but it's something you choose. You have the power to choose not to relapse. You might try to convince yourself otherwise, but you can't let yourself make excuses. For now, maybe you can try to turn the TVs off? You'd have to explain yourself, but that might be worth it—that's up to you to decide.
Good advice above there. Also, your recovery doesn’t depend on this streak alone. It’s long term. Don’t rely solely in that streak. You need a plan long term. Something sustainable. Improve yourself in life and dont give your addiction too much space. And like the previous guy said - you are in control. You Don’t need to relapse. It is in your head. You did the right thing reaching out. Find a accountability partner or group if you Don’t have it. Don’t do this alone.
The example was given to point out the Extent of Disgust(of a smell) required to Shove off a Sexual urge.
For me sometimes even The window of my room is a trigger! other times i can watch a hot woman singing on YouTube but i don't get TRIGGERED ! i think one of the things that rebooting teach us is that we should learn how to live our new life!
No, he's just flexing what little Chemistry he knows even if it's totally impractical and out of context. Have you tried cold showers or meditation yet?