Cheer me up fapstronauts. Hi, First of all I believe NoFap has nothing to do with religion, but I just wanted to introduce myself by saying I am a Muslim and in Islam it is forbidden to masturbate, (anything harmful, or its harms are greater than its benefits, is forbidden in Islam), which is why I was feeling guilty fapping in the first place. Anyways, I am a 23 years old from Saudi Arabia and doing my bachelors in the U.S. As most of the guys in their 20's, it is all started at an early age, growing up along with the emergence of this massive internet evolution, which has changed a lot of how people (in the whole world) view and live their lives. So, as I said I was feeling guilty about fapping, but actually I did not think it has a big impact on my personality. I thought the only harmful thing about it was maybe when you get a bit older you won't be able to perform well in sexual relations, which sounded normal because you would be old anyway. In the meanwhile, I was noticing a lot of negative habits and characteristics about myself. The main problem I am noticing is Social Anxiety and being afraid of making emotional relationships, I might interact with many people because of involvement in the family business, but I have a limited number of friends to hang out with on a regular basis, and I never never and never share my feelings and emotions toward others, not family, friends, or any alive person. I do have the feelings and emotions, but I can't act upon them. The surprising part is I have been in the U.S. for college for almost four years now and I have not made one single new friend, except for business matters or couple of people from my own country. So, I started doing some research and looking for solutions to the two problems, masturbation and negative habits and characteristics. I first wanted to visit a psychologist to talk about my issues, but while surfing the internet, reading related articles, and watching videos, searching for a solution I came to the conclusion that all of my negative habits and characteristics are strictly tied with MASTURBATION, and it is all in my brain. I figured that with all of those years of "wasting millions of sperms, which could have been breathing humans," I have developed somewhere deep in my brain "Subconscious" a totally different understanding of comfort, relaxation, and contentment. And I have to solve only this "EASY" thing to get rid of all of the other problems, AND FOREVER. Before discovering NoFap I was doing it my way and trying to abstain, I started tracking how many days I can last without masturbating, I recorded about four months, I was really shocked when I found that there is no way the 7th day would pass without masturbating. It was then when I realized that in the past three years I have been masturbating at least once a week. Regardless of the 9 years, since the age of 14 when I first learned masturbation, and then discovered pornography and never stopped. Then I found NoFap.org , I read a couple of ya'll threads, I really liked how positive and serious the Fapstronauts are, so here I am. My first hour in NoFap, I just jerked off right before writing this thread, I wish it is the last time. I know I can do it, of course with Allah's (God) help first, and then ya'll motivation, and because I somehow managed to quit smoking pot and quitting cigarettes of course a while after pot. Ya'll are the only ones who really feel me. Keep it up guys and I wish you all the best.
I'm new here to, while are situations are different we share a common problem and the sub-problems stemming from it. I just wanted to point you to a site that made me more informed on the things happening due to masturbation, http://www.yourbrainonporn.com It will inform you on why masturbation is making you fill this way. Also a plus is that I noticed many NoFap members used this site to inform themselves so it should be a step in the right direction. Wish you luck on your journey.
I have been to this site, thanks though. I appreciate you are taking the time to cheer me up with a comment.
It is the fifth day and I can't stop thinking about it, especially with too much school work. even though no one has commented and gave me a little support, but I think I got it under control.
Hello Yayoz, Welcome and congrats on your 5 days. Keep it up (on the good sense), believe me, it will change your life. Take care and stay strong.
Ma man. I am so angry right now I am just so freaking angry, this messed up era we living in, everything is about sex everyone is talking sex thinking sex and aiming sex. In school, with friends, songs, movies, and what girls wear around. How are we supposed to survive this messed up world?
Make your reasons for quitting porn and masturbation clear for yourself. Write them down. Make a list of the benefits you might gain by not masturbating. Keep track of your progress every single day. But most importantly start small. Don't set such great goals at the beggining. Why not make your first goal 10 day ? Celebrate when you accomplish it. Make yourself a present. Embrace failure , it's part of the process of succeeding. I wish you good luck.
No worries, try the other links that are in that post, they might help if you open up to the suggestions etc. Stay with it and keep posting. Help others and be helped yourself. We all share your frustrations to an extent and its only natural to get angry from time to time. Anger is an energy and I always say a rocket never gets off the ground without an explosion! You are 'waking up' and your anger is propelling you forward so be sure to channel that energy wisely. Keep going!!
Thanks for encouraging me and for the great tips I think they are really helpful. I am writing down the reasons now and I did change my PMO Tracker to a 10 days goal. Wish you good luck too.
Much respect Your help and motivation and knowing that all of you guys are facing the same thing are what giving me hope and propelling me forward.
Hey bro, it worked. I passed the 10th day WOOW I can't believe it, I did it without even keeping myself too busy. Thanks to your tip, it was very helpful.
Congratulations my friend. I also passed my 10 day goal and now I'm going for 20. It's a lot easier as the days go by. Hope you can accomplish your next goals too. Cheers.
"I thought the only harmful thing about it was maybe when you get a bit older you won't be able to perform well in sexual relations, which sounded normal because you would be old anyway." Even if that was the only problem.. You wouldn't want that problem when you're old! How you treat your body before you're 40 is how the body will treat you after you're 40..
Right right ... I understand what you are saying and I totally agree. However my point was that it is not an enough incentive for a young kid to know that if he gets old he won't be able to perform well in sexual relations.
