I have been trying to go fap free for more than 30 days. I have tried to do so for more than 5 times but so far succeeded only once. I see here people with who have not PMO'd from 90 to 180 days and even more. How can someone really achieve this? How can you not PMO for for than 100 days. Don't you go to your room after dinner? Don't you have high speed internet access at your room? I am sharing my story so that someone can one day find a solution for this. I was living in a place from the past 2 years which was an alien place for me. I was facing language problems, no friends as i came out of college and started working in this sh*t place. No plan to settle down. No hot babes to see so no motivation to achieve something to get them. I was going through depression. No food to eat as everthing was made up of rice I asked God to make me come out of this place and i will not PMO again for a long time. God listened to me and my Company gave me a transfer. Now, i am living in a club house of my company till 14th May. Recovering from the past. Lots of hot babes around but now they aare out of the league as i have turned into a jaded, old engineer. During my college days i was something. (Not a chick magnet but at least i was a decent guy) But after spending 9 hrs reading somebody else code and a change in the technology made me to be in that shi* place for 2 years as i didn't expertise on something. Now, the problem is i am here in a luxirious place which is making me think about s*x again. Those urges comes back. Flash back scenes starts rolling into my brain and it gets hard not to go for private browsing. I am finding excuses after excuses. Now one solution which i have found is that 'DON'T LIVE ALONE'. I am going to live with a tenant and will be sharing a room with him after 14th May. But how to avoid it now? I don't think this is a proper solution. So Guys help me out here. Sorry for gramatical errors.
Nofap until you see changes.. once you see improvement, this would be your strength to keep moving forward..best of luck
People can achieve this because their willpower is greater than their desire to PMO. We can go more for 100 days because we are not waiting for change, we are changing High speed internet porn is one click away for all of us, but its complete garbage so we choose not to watch it You can make the change if you want it that bad
whenever urge comes try to ignore it by just walking away from ur desktop,pouring cold water on ur balls,running etc....If u are succesful in countering the urge record the urge no u ignored ,when second urge comes follow the procedure and continue recording.look at the number of urges u ignored and it will give u confidence to keep going strong and if u relapse start again.
Yesterday I've spent hours just walking around the house and staring at the wall. I didn't anyhting productive didn 't even try to meditate. I was just strolling along life. By doing so I've made my life empty and then I felt the urge to feel the emptyness with something. I took a while to think and chose not to be PMO or any addictive behaviour. Wheather I find myself in a state where I want to go back to my old habit I just take a nap or rest and stare at walls or go for walk read this forums etc. Basically do stuff that harm you less than your addictions. Since you can view any actgivity as an addiction.
rishabhv66, Great post! You make lots of really good observations and raise some pertinent questions. I guess every one of us develops our own 'risk avoidance strategy' - there are no hard & fast rules about how to stay PMO free - and, unfortunately, no secret solution. I lapsed & lapsed & lapsed for years. I have had to admit to myself that the reason I kept on lapsing wasn't that I didn't want to stop - but I didn't want to stop badly enough. The determination is everything. If we're not 100% committed to stopping, then the chances are we'll probably lapse eventually. Please don't get me wrong - this is my longest ever streak - but it hasn't been easy - far from it. The temptation is still there and sometimes the urge is very, very strong. I do think it gradually gets easier over time - the first couple of weeks were the most difficult and I almost caved in several times. My faith has played an enormous part in helping me to quit, but I realise of course that this isn't relevant or appropriate for everybody here. I think it's maybe a good idea to take things one day at a time. Try to limit your web browsing time - and maybe even think about filtering software? Definitely get rid of any magazines, books, DVDs, etc. that might cause you to feel tempted. Physical exercise, cold showers, whatever it takes. And if you stumble, don't be hard on yourself. Just re-set and try again tomorrow. One day at a time. If there's anything at all I can do to help or support you - please let me know. I'll gladly do whatever I can. Wishing you every possible success. R.O.
Thank you people for replying with your way of living a fap free life. @HeisenbergBlue - I liked your moto. "Suffer the pain of discipline......". That gave me a good motivation. I think women can destroy your life as well as make your life. It's up to us how we make use of them (in a good sense). There is a place near to where i live now. It's simply heaven on earth at evening. Sadly, most of them are with some handsome guys(those rough guys with tattoos on hands and lots of money...etc) and i cannot compete with them. I sometime sit there for no reason just to get that motivation that i too have the ability to achieve and be a chick magnet. As, i stated in my thread, last 2 years went in depression. My hairs have turned grey. I am skinny again. It will take time for me to rejuvenate but its possible. I know its possible. I am only 25 now. I don't have to look 30. I am starting meditation from tomorrow morning and may be in future join swimming. Pumping iron for 2 hrs was achieved during college days, i don't like that anymore. I just want to stay fit and fap free.
Reading your reply reminds me of how my mentality was before I started my journey here. And now after nearly 3 months of no PMO, I can tell you that has all changed. It's important to note that it's not women's fault we are here, it's unfortunate that the porn industry exists which warps our mind to believe like this. We are equal to women, and they are beautiful people. You think you can't compete with those other guys because you believe you can't compete with them. The power of believing will allow you to become who ever you want to be. However, you must climb out of this hole of self pity which allow you to develop the mentality to build the strongest version of yourself. It's not going to come overnight You say you want to be fap free, that is good. It's okay to make baby step goals right now, but initially you must have the goal of never fapping and watching porn again from this moment on, and for me, it's that mentality which has allowed me to stay away from this garbage. You must be ready and wanting to quit. It's no walk in the park obv.. You will lose motivation and feel down at times.. It's then when you must come to this website and read over success stories and your own posts to remind yourself how much garbage PMO is. Don't wank and come to the forum, come to forum when in need of help There is only so much myself and others can say to inspire you, but it's up to you to take action, change and take control. I promise you you will see change after time. Don't rely on motivation, you will ultimately fail that way. Good luck on your journey. Don't wait for change, change now. HB
@HeisenbergBlue - Thanks for motivating me. Your words knocked at the last door of my self image. I am doing it. Morning's are difficult but i have started feeling better. I am going to continue this time. When you said girls are amazing creatures. I slightly disagree with this because of the simplest fact - "With more money comes more babes". How calculated is this. Its not just our fault. Anyways, i would love to hear from you again.
I'm glad to see you have done 7 days. I look forward to your future posts when you have kept abstaining, to see and feel a whole new vibe in your messages. Change is inevitable if you stay on this path. Your mornings will become easier. With more money comes more misery* You have to find the one, just like women have to find the one. Personality makes beauty, this is what I'm starting to see and understand. To be successful, don't be the guy who tries not watch porn and masturbate, be the guy who just doesn't. Keep going, the support is here. HB
I will. These days i am imagining about my favorite porn movies in my office as well. The journey is not going to be easy.
@HeisenbergBlue - I am about to complete my challenge. Its been a tough journey. Didn't got any girlfriend yet but feel more confident now. I have started to feel tingling sensation. I still get erection like 2-3 times everyday and weekends are as usual tough. I have noticed there is a lot of precum after my erection goes away.
Well done. The girlfriend will come naturally, just carry on doing what tour doing. As for the pre cum, are you having erections for a long period of time ?
