Is there a site that is more dedicated to porn free? Rather than an extreme anti masturbation site?

AFAIK the subreddit is all there is, it's a smaller community.

Let me ask you a question: Are you on social media (aside from this site) still? And even if you're not how much time do you spend here? Are you selective in which posts you read, and if so in what way?

The thing is I think the truth is we have a tendency to spend too much time on here even if it is in general geared towards recovery. It's not just a matter of how much time of course, it all depends on what you read. Also it depends on whether you can just see it as other peoples opinion and keep it that way. This actually ends up going beyond rebooting anyway.

You can get into AP groups or specific groups, I don't know if there's a P only group in the Groups section of the forum but that's a possibility. On the other hand though that has the possibility of an echo chamber, it is possible for people to just say this is why I do P only or PM and you can take that for what it is, and ultimately accept it or not and those people can say it without pushing but they are free to express themselves as anyone else.

The thing is too you get to a certain point where if you just have a group with everyone thinking the same way it's just not interesting, I mean why would it be if everyone agrees on the same thing? You can agree on the goal or just accept people have different goals without the rest of your thinking being the same, but it's just a possibility that people paint themselves into a corner more and more and only expose themselves to the same point of view.

 

What if you have people that are all doing PMO but they don't push you at all, would you be comfortable with that? Because there's a difference between people saying "you need to" blah blah blah and just people doing what they do but respect that you make your own decisions.

 

Well as long as there isn't scientific backup that comes along with nofap do what it works for you.
Porn free will do it in a long term. Maybe it will need more time to cure some symptoms but i think it will do it..
We are all testers of the new drug.

 

I personally don't get the whole porn is bad but jerking off is ok thing. Jerking off only became acceptable sometime in the 1900s. Now we got all these people coming out with problems, but it's always "mah masturbation" and only the porn that is bad. I don't know for certain, but if you want to jerk off no one is stopping you. Even if this site was anti wank, which I don't think it is, it's about cutting porn completely and wanking for 3 months. Why take offense at those who think wanking is bad and want to stop it?

The other thing is. Do you really think you wont start looking porn when you wank?

 

M is only bad in the context of MO or PMO addiction. But if you honestly only have a problem with P and you can MO without it escalating, then go for it. Won't hurt you.

 

Most of the common problems we experience (anhedonia, depression, anxiety, PIED, PE etc) came along with the advent of high speed Internet. Therefore, it is statistically likely that if you give up porn for a prolonged period (I believe 2-3 years to return to normal) you should rid yourself of those symptoms. It might be quicker and you will see fairly linear progress during the process, so don't be put off by the length of time it takes.

Getting to your point. If you are able to crack one off without looking at porn then go ahead. The issue is that if you start jacking off, then it is much more likely that you will be tempted / give in to porn mid-wank. That's why a lot of people suggest abstaining from both.

 

A lot of users at this forum are fine with M, or MO. This forum isn't anti-masturbation. Read the reboot guide. P mode, PM mode, PMO mode or even your personal mode either way it's perfectly fine. Just a matter of choice.