How to overcome a fetish ?

This might be completely off base and just please forgive me if it's totally not the point. I think you can start to unwind and undo the fetish when you start to realize what's it all about. Fetishism in it's broadest sense (not just sexual) is about giving yourself to something that is not a person. It's about giving your heart, your soul, to something. Let me give you 2 examples, technically, Voldemort's Horocruxes are his fetish. Or another example Sauron's Ring which he pours his life and strength into is his fetish. Instead of caring and loving people they essentially give themselves to things that are not people. Or instead of loving and worshiping God they end up loving and worshiping themselves. You get the idea...
The reality is that everyone ends up doing it to some extent. You can imagine the teenage boy waxing his car endlessly on the weekends and driving it around thinking that he's on top of the world because of it, and that he's good and safe and cool and all the rest because of his car.
But I guess that for you it's gone in the direction of sexuality. Sexuality is one form of self-giving, so it's not surprised that fetishism turns sexual. So how do you unwind it and rewind it so to speak?
One realize what you are doing. When I'm getting turned on by something weird and not a person or at least a whole person, I'm not giving myself to a person, I'm giving myself away to something that doesn't care about me, can't love me, can't keep me safe, isn't going to add to my value. It's just a _______. One realize what you are doing.
Two: replace it. Actually start loving and caring and serving whole people.
And three ultimately I think it comes down to giving yourself to God. To the Ultimate person. To satisfy you, to love you, to make you safe and good and all the rest.

Now again I repeat. Maybe that's not what you are looking for. Maybe that's not what you came here for, but I don't think just saying, "Stop doing that" is going to help. You are going to have get deeper than just behavioral modification and glib steps. If this was completely off...Sorry. Really I don't want to waste your time. I want to help.

 

It's not abnormal, it's completely normal. Your particular fetish may be unique but the fact that you have one is not at all. I cannot say for sure whether your fetish will go away, it may fade completely or remain to a varying degree. If you find that it is negatively impacting your overall sexuality and/or hurting your relationships then I suggest going about it no differently than you are for PMO.

If your fetish is something that is able to be avoided in everyday life like PMO, than I would recommend avoiding looking or thinking about it. I personally have one of these fetishes. When I see my particular fetish in everyday life I notice it, accept it, and try to get if off my mind immediately and move on.

I am not the best person to give advice on getting over a fetish that is something unavoidable (like feet or shoes) since I do not have one of these. It is possible that those could remain with you, so the best thing I can think of is to try and separate your sexual feelings for the object/body part from the sexual feelings you have for your significant other, so that you are able to be with your partner and not require the fetish to be aroused.

Even if you have a significant other that shares the same fetish, enjoy it and have fun, but you should be extra careful to not let it dominate your sexual feelings for each other.

 

My friend, the word "fetish" is derived from the french word "fétiche" which is derived from the portugese word "feitico". The original word is "facticius" which means ARTIFICIAL in latin. Facere, the verb to it, means "to make" as in "to create".

This means in essence, that every fetish, is created in one´s mind. The reasons for fetish appearence may be versatile, but no one is born with a fetish.

For now just wait and cease all PMO. If after, three months of nofap, you still have your fetish, start investigating about it. What do you like about it so much?
Why does it turn you on?
Do not get lost in your fantasies and emotionally detach yourself from your fetish.
Just try to understand why it is there.
Remember when it was the first time it started and if given a certain amout of time, you will surely find your answer.

Most fetishes are aids for desensitized people to derive more pleasure. If you have a healthy sexuality a fetish should not be needed anymore, it is likely it will vanish on it´s own.