Hey everyone, Unfortunately I relapsed today to my god damn foot fetish that beat me in an urge today.. I did some research and apparently watching vanilla sex cant be that bad. Or can it? In my opinion I feel like experimenting with this can perhaps increase my libido in vanilla sex and there fore give me an array of variety in my sex life and not just be my dumb fetish. Also.. im currently 16 years old I relapsed day 95, last month. Tried nofap again and relapsed. But it isn't that bad.I get strong morning wood and can get turned on by real woman. What do you all think of this experiment ?
Not a good idea. Total abstinence from all forms of arousal is best. Sure you might enjoy vanilla sex for a while, but then you will get bored and go back to your fetish. If you really want to be free of your fetish cut out all forms of porn. I can guarantee that your fetish will disappear. But if you don't, it won't, because fetishes are built on the building blocks of objectification and as long as you continue to see women as a collection of parts, you will continue to focus on their feet.
@mumchance - I agree this would be true if the fetish(es) arose while watching porn. But I do not think you can guarantee that pre-porn fetishes will disappear.
I think I agree with IGY here. OP, fetish porn is just as bad as vanilla porn. Vanilla porn will lead you to more extreme porn, including foot fetish porn. Stay away from all porn and pursue real women. Once you are mutually attracted to someone, you can experience vanilla sex with her, and play with her feet. (;
I've been done with porn for a while now. After adopting the nofap culture and becoming more educated on how destructive porn is; the benefits from not having porn in my life significantly out weigh the path if it remained.
NO, it will lead you straight back to fetish porn! Mumchance's advice is best- you need to abstain from ALL porn. This kind of rationalisation shows that you are still addicted, despite having been clean for 95 days a while ago. As for fetishes, a foot fetish sounds like a relatively natural induced fetish. Naturally induced fetishes (those not induced by porn consumption), will not go away with abstinence, although they may likely fade down to a more normal level. It is porn that is making you think objectively on your fetish and causing you to obsess over it. I have found that all of my extreme fetishes have completely disappeared now, but then I did not have any fetishes pre-dating my porn use.
I don't know much ab out foot fetishes to be honest, I guess I assumed that they were all porn induced. But whether it is p-induce or pre-p it will definitely fade down to a manageable level: you won't be focusing on a woman's feet to the exclusion of the rest of her. Her feet will just be another awesome part of her.
Even during my short 20 day streak I lost interest in my disgusting fetishes. Pre-porn fetishes are here to stay, but they're normal. The foot fetish is actually very common and a lot of couples have adopted it into their daily sex life.
Even if you can get use to vanilla porn and only watch vanilla porn it won't get the results you expect. Sure, it sounds good but you have to know what you are actually teaching your mind to do. Let's say you just watch vanilla porn and you soon don't watch anything else but that, you are still training you brain that watching is what turns you on. You are watching people have sex. Since you are 16 your brain is releasing more dopamine that it will later in life so right now you might still be able to get hard and have sex. Give that a couple years when porn has really taken hold and I can almost guarantee that you will not be able to have sex. No matter what porn you are watching it is still watching someone else have a sexual experience. As long as you do that you will be a Beta person and not an Alpha. If you don't know what those terms mean look them up.
I agree, it's a weird world we live in where people prefer to watch other people having "fun" instead. Of having fun themselves
im new to the website but quick question, im trying NoFap and i try to just watch movies and tv show instead of porn, but what about game of throne? theres some breast scene, do i close my eyes or look away ? and also i have a girlfriend and how do not masturbate to porn but still have sex with gf? does tht work if im trying to stop fapping? does defeat the purpose of trying? anyone can answer this cuz i need answer lol
It depends on your addiction and how bad it is.I have been addcited to porn and masturbation for 10 years but watching game of thrones doesnt trigger me one bit becuase usally look at the show for its story.Although there are times when the sex scenes can go on for too long and I just have to skip them.Do you have a chaser effect when you having sex with you gf?If so you should go hard mode for a while.For more info check this link out http://yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-with-a-partner