My streak is now 15 days hard mode I know that I should't edge at all but sometimes the urges are so strong that I edge for like 3 minutes but then I stop,I can still feel the harms of the porn but I don't count it as a relapse. So my question is in my case do you count it as a relapse?
I never counted that as a relapse. Until my latest streak. But after my last relapse I read a thread, can't remember the name, it said that edging should be considered as a relapse. Actually, edging got some negative effects. Do a research. So because of that, I now count edging as a relapse. When you think, edging is the same with M, you got the same intentions, but without ejaculating. I would call that a M-substitute. But to not loose your motivation, I would recommend to not count it this time, but to avoid as much as possible in thr future, because it can be a big trigger for a relapse. Happend many times to me.
Do you edge while watching pornography? If yes, I can only see this as a relapse, considering we're talking about hardmode (remember: No Porn even if for "just a few minutes")... If you edge without pornography, I guess it's a trickier question... I would say that's really personal, but I think that, first of all, you're leaving a dangerous door open. You might be strong enough right now to just keep edging and stop right before orgasming, but let's be real: can you assure yourself it'll always be like this? Can't you see yourself later on, as you're tired and stressed out, just deciding do go all the way while you're edging? Secondly, I just don't really see the point. I'm sorry if I'm too blunt, but edging while on NoFap just defeats the whole point of it for me. Why are you doing NoFap hardmode? The majority of people here do it to improve themselves, to use the time spent watching pornography and/or masturbating on something productive or on building meaning connections to other people. Now, if you're just spending said time edging instead of masturbating, what's the point? What do you hope to achieve on NoFap if you aren't using the time you gained on something better than satisfying sexual urges? Don't be afraid to count it as a relapse. Reset your clock, learn from it, and starting spending the time you spent edging on something useful: if you feel the urge, just go take a shower, learn a new skill or talk to someone. Otherwise, I really can't see the point in edging almost daily, but not masturbating "to the end".
