I've been lurking on this site for a few months now and after getting so much from it, I feel it's time to give back. As a man who is older (53) than many on here, I have earned some insights that could hopefully be of help. You can read my full back story in the New to Nofap section but in three parts here I want to first share some things I've learned over nearly 40 years struggling with PMO (and M longer than that), then continue with my recent wins and conclude with what's left to go. Part 1: What I've Learned The PMO cycle is is the most vicious weapon ever unleashed against modern manhood. Why? - The #1 thing it takes from you, ironically and insiduously, is the #1 thing that attracts women and holds their respect: your confidence. - It puts up a wall between you and others. It repels people even if they don't know why. I'm a 6-foot guy who never weighed more than 200 lbs at my worst and has been told many times I'm good looking. I have an advanced degree, a good job, and I spent several years as an in-demand musician playing hundreds of gigs, yet I have been in countless situations where I have literally been invisible to women. I spent decades wondering why things didn't add up, and now I finally know. - It shrinks your motivation, your creativity--and your dick. - It consumes your time and gives you back nothing but a few seconds of feel-good followed by crushing emptiness and regret. - It causes you to be less than who you are, and to show up the worst around those who love you the most. I have experienced all of these impacts in full measure and cannot express strongly enough that this is no joke. Each man ensnared in PMO needs to decide for himself when it is important enough to him to accept the challenge of breaking free but if any of you reading have doubts about the consequences, I pray this post will make you think a little harder and do some research on your own. Tomorrow I will post Part 2: My Wins. In the meantime, I welcome any responses or follow up questions and look forward to contributing to this great community.
That's a very good question. I've M'd since before puberty. P has been in the mix from high school onward. I've had better stretches and worse stretches throughout my life, the worst most recent one recently being about a one year stretch 2-3 years ago and the best being 90 days (give or take) of monk mode from August to November 2018. Since then I've been on a "streak of streaks" each lasting around 20-25 days, broken by a PMO (or P-sub MO) session, then back on the next streak. My current streak is 4 days old as of this time. I will be posting more details on this, including some recent wins, as Part 2 soon.
Thanks for sharing this! You're right about the confidence issue. It leads to a vicious cycle for so many men, who then feel PMO is their only resort.
thanks for you insights on PMO i am grateful that you shared your experience. As i have same kind of low confidence problem.
I needed this right now. I have fallen deep back into the rabbit hole. I will definitely look back through your posts, my friend. Thanks a million for sharing.
“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots." “It has become appallingly obvious that our technology has exceeded our humanity.” -Albert Einstein Internet porn would have horrified Einstein. The internet itself might have. It certainly is changing society and how we interact. Nice post. Vicious weapon indeed. He also has a technology quote likening the advancement of it and those wielding it to an insane person running around with an axe, I saw it recently on a quote app of his. I want to read his books one day. Sorry to detract. Can I share this too? And nice post again.
Very good post and reminder as it relates to the ill effects of porn. Really looking forward to hearing more from you. Keep up the fight bud.
