A mindset that led to my current 300 + day streak

Whats up NF Community! JackieNoFappieChan checking in to let you know about a mindset that has helped me live the Nofap Lifestyle (HardMode) since February of this year. That mindset is to act like fapping does not exist.

Hear me out. Everyone here has probably heard of the pink elephant story. Someone tells you to not think about a pink elephant and what do you do? You involuntarily think about that pink elephant because you are focusing so hard on trying to not think about it that it IS the only thing you're thinking about now. Now what are the odds of you even thinking of that pink elephant in the first place if that person had not brought it up? Very slim. The same goes for NoFap. If you wake up everyday with the mindset that " I'm going to try my best not to fap today " you will be living your days with that sitting at the back of your mind which will make it even harder to not to that thing.

We all had a time in our lives that we did not even know porn or masturbating existed. For me, I was lucky enough to lose my virginity at 16, before i had ever fapped or watched a single porn video. During those 16 years I had never looked at a porn or even a soft porn image, my friends always talked about porn and beating off but I always thought it was pointless until I actually tried it at the age of 17. During my late teen years and early 20's I went on very long streaks of abstaining from porn and fapping, I mean like of 8 months to 2 years because I did not know that NoFap or Fapping at all really existed so it was so easy to avoid it. I was too deeply invested into my passions, sports , traveling and my friends for PMO or fapping to even cross into my mental. I think this set me up for my success in abstaining now.

My point in saying all of this is don't make your focus of this journey to not masturbate or not watch porn. Turn the focus to perfecting your craft or chasing your dreams or embracing your hobbies. Bury yourself so deep into something you love that Porn becomes so distant to you , you almost forget that it exists. Wake up with the mindset " I'm going to get one step closer to owning my own home" or "I'm going to work hard to get that promotion" or "I'm going to be a better version of myself than I was yesterday." You cant build a new house with the same old bricks you used to build your old house.

Hope this helped you out! Look at my previous threads in my profile for some other tips and tricks that helped me along the way. If you have questions or issues with quitting feel free to message me. I'm always open to talking or providing accountability. Good Luck!

 

Although I had sex first it, masturbating and porn effected me alot, that is why I became addicted to it and porn still. If I didn't think it was a fulfilling back then then I wouldn't have been addicted for as long as I was. Of course now PM and sex don't even compare to which is better. It surely effected how much sex I have had because of the side effects of porn and death grip. I am not saying imagine it doesn't exist. Imagining it doesn't exist completely contradicts my pink elephant reference. To each their own, good luck.