Returning Fapstronaut

Welcome back to the Nofap community.
The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
The community will support you.

You made the habit and you can break the habit.
Will you have enough strength? You can’t imagine how strong you are.
Good luck!

 

I don't blame her for being distant to you. Trust is easily broken and it takes time to rebuild it. First of all, you have to show your wife that you want to change. Stop seeking escorts immediately. If you can't exercise self-control, get help (especially for your drinking problem). You probably won't be able to stop overnight, so take it one problem at a time. First, stop fornicating with other women. Second, stop drinking all the time. Just take it one at a time.

It's time for you to step up and be a man. Don't drown yourself in self-pity, arise from the ashes and get your life back. I think that, deep down, your wife still loves you, otherwise she would've divorced you already. As I said before, you can build up her trust again, but you must take it back slowly. Show her that her trust is not misplaced. I will pray for you and your marriage.

 

Welcome back

 

You've taken a big step by coming back here and opening up.

Good luck with you 90 day challenge. As others have said it sounds like you have a number of issues to deal with, maybe it's too much to deal with them all at one.

Definitely give up on the escorts, at least then your issues are only with yourself.

 

Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

Here is just some advice:

First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

 

Hello and welcome back.

I guess your wife must be mad at you and afraid of catching another STD.

I’m reading a book right now about sex addiction. All of the stuff you mentioned is in the book. There’s a 12 step program called Sex Addicts Anonymous. I’ve seen it mentioned on the forums.

 

Hi AndyShyGuy78, welcome, and wishing you loads of strength and good luck overcoming your problems. If you really want to, you can do this. Regaining your wife's trust and healing your relationship will require a huge amount of work and effort, but it is possible. Quiting escorts and sticking to your 90 day goal are important steps in the right direction. You can do it!