Need help

I'd stay away from P and chats for for sure! Do not put yourself in tempting situations, that's the first mistake with NoFap and not cheating (chat is a form of cheating, you can try and rationalize it but you are having a relationship with another woman even though it is online).

 

I feel that porn is the main reason for this. I've recently stumbled into porn again after going 5 years without it. I would've never even thought of being tempted by anything chat related, but because I've stumbled into porn...I would say this had been more of a temptation (though I have never followed through). I think its good that it was a wake up call for you man. Your wife is worth it, as you seem to be aware. But you would be amazed at the things you can do that you'd never have guessed you would do. Its a dangerous situation because it could cause real pain for you if something came of this, but hitting porn in the teeth is the biggest answer I'd say.

Also, have you thought of talking to your wife about this Skype chat thing? (if you haven't told her) I know it would be awkward, and sounds awful, but I'm sure it would end up better in the end. She would appreciate you being honest with her. I can say from experience that telling my wife about my porn escapades, as hard as it is for me, has definitely minimized the damage done to her and me. Still something I'm battling for sure.