304 days I'm glad see you going foward Keep on doing the good job I will be here less ,cause have to focus on doing my schedule . Hope you are all doing well. Just try to alter your atitutes toward sex, it is the key. The goal of our sexual part of life and organs is to reproduce ,not pleasure. Because pleasure is addiction, and it has Coolidge effect ,especially mental part of sex that has the power to destroy personality and memory and brain. We know sexual matter has two part, mental and physical, both of them is addictive but the mental one is the source of human frantic behaviour and sickness. So ,Repeat it 3 time every day. Till at least 6 month .
Day 39/60 Communication is key in a relationship.Women want men to be more open with their feelings. One way you can do this is to say,"When you do/did (x) I feel/felt (y). or it makes me feel (y).Or How did you feel when I did (X) today?If we don't communicate our feelings we may often jump to the wrong conclusions about each other. Marriage can also be difficult,because two people who have different childhood upbringings live together.Therefore communication brings empathy and understanding.
Just to clarify, This time I posted " Day 0/3" in 3 days challenge and " Day 0/7" in 7 days challenge and so on... this time it does not violates the code of posting the same duplicate message in multiple threads/forums Sorry for any inconvenience in my part
The 11th A very slow day for me though I have gotten encouragement from attending church. Day 6 Cold Shower Day 6 Exercise: Back [Dumbell row variation 1 4*8 reps 25 kg, Variation 2 4*8 reps 25 kg] Biceps [Bicep barbell curl 25 kg 3*7 reps, 22.5 kg 1*7 reps, short-range dumbbell curls 7.5kg 4*8 reps] Day 6 Meditation: Mindfulness Meditation 10 minutes Day 3 Reading: The Now Habit page 45 of 182
I made it past half a year! I want to thank you for all the support on this page. No time to waste. No time to look back. There will be ups and downs. But you just need to keep pushing every day, every minute, every second. Cheers! Day 183/365.
2/365 I feel great today! But, not all days feel great. It's important to catch mental scripts that start with things like "We'll see how I feel tomorrow..." when thinking about making decisions. I've found it very helpful to replace thoughts like that with thoughts like this: "Tomorrow may be difficult, but I am strong enough to make it through and still stick with my convictions." You guys are all so awesome!!
Time is very hard now and was last couple of days every now and then those thoughts are popping up but glad that not responded to any of these Day 11
Yeah great.Also keep looking back at your achievements.After trust and acceptance as the most important primary love need for men,we need to to be appreciated, admired, approved of and encouraged by women. If you can encourage and appreciate your hard work on completion with short term goals you set yourself,you will be motivated. Women's primary love needs are caring and understanding followed by respect,devotion,validation and reassurance.When women receive these needs they will give men the top 5 that men need and vice-versa for men who will give women what they need. So finally for women, the man's top 5 list comes under their top 5 and the woman's top 5 list comes under the man's top 5.So the answer is for men and women to remember their differences and to give what the other needs and not just what they themselves need. Hope this helps!!
Completed Day 72 with ease. Heading towards big milestones. I am going to work hard towards achieving my goals.
I've been pretty negligent overall as far as posting here as of late, and simultaneously apathetic to resisting PMO.. I haven't really noticed a significant decline in my overall cognitive/social ability, to be honest.. But, I haven't been exactly been "binging" either.. I've found myself reengaging in "casual," occasional usage. I genuinely don't think I'm capable of binging anymore. The only upside to any of this is, at this point in my journey I'm not berating myself for failure. It really only makes me feel worse overall. I'm not devoiding myself of accountability, however. I know I can't live this way for too long; it's bound to backfire on me, nor is it my greatest potential. I'd initially decided after my last relapse, I'd commit myself to abstaining entirely from surfing on the web, and staying off electronics all together.. That didn't really work, because I wasn't actively keeping myself accountable through posting here.. And on my last streak, I think my downfall was browsing the forum and using the internet too much as a whole. Constantly reading about PMO addiction honestly led to me becoming hyperfocused on my struggle.. Let's face it, if you're trying not to think of White Elephants, what are you going to think about? Anyways, I'm getting back on the horse again, I'll be on here semi-regularly, 1x or 2x a week to update my counter and stay accountable, but ultimately, I need to shift my focus to creating a life that makes me forget about PMO altogether, and not waste my time staring at pixels regularly. With that, 0/365
Day 101. Current focus is on 120. A subtle, but positive shift has occurred. Instead of expressly wanting porn OUT of my life, lately I JUST DON'T WANT porn IN my life. I know this sounds like I'm splitting hairs, but there really is a difference. It's like instead of pushing something AWAY, I'm simply NOT INTERESTED IN SEEKING it out. The upshot is that I feel more calm, more in control, and with my mind more freed up to focus on other parts of my life. Anyway just keep taking those steps forward, friends, and HAVE FAITH that the changes will come in their OWN TIME.