I thought she was my friend...

Ftw I always say, but you don't need to reject her to be indifferent. You could still keep her within reach

 

Sounds like you're in love this girl and she doesn't feel the same about you so you're attempting to throw a hissy fit about something non eventful as an injury.

Awwwwww poor you, yes by all means ignore her and continue acting like a hysterical 14 year old school girl. Or you could just game her and demonstrate you're actually a man under the school girl guise, which, to be fair you're doing a good job pulling off.

Oh and by the way, if you think unadding her as a friend will somehow magically change things, know this... She probably hasn't even noticed!

 

OK so you're NOT the angry moron. You're the passive aggressive moron. I get it. It's totally cool.

At the moment you're stuck in a fantasy land. Like it or not, my wake up call is probably the best thing that has happened to you. You can say I am wrong to ridicule other people but you know deep deep down it is the honest truth.

You're in love with this girl. LOL a stranger, i.e me, can illicit this from the garbage you have written above, and I don't even know you. You thought she was into you. You wanted to slowly grow your friendship and then spew your feelings to her hoping she might, I don't know, suck you off down the line. This is why you told her your vulnerability about your back injury. 'Pwwwease feel sorry for me, see look I have a vulnerable side, now suck me off.' LOL

Imagine if you were a girl. Would the above get you all hot and bothered. Would you spread your legs to the above?

When she realised this, she did what any normal human being would do, and cut you off. Then you threw all your toys out the pram, and did what you do best. Passive aggressive, block her and unadd her as a friend, thereby confirming her suspicions about you.

^^The above is all fine, I've been there got the T-shirt. But now you are at a crossroads. You can continue to act like a bitter scornful little girl and continue until you reach your 40s, or you can do the following exercise and become a man...

Pull down your pants, make a cup shape with your hands and feel in-between your legs. If done correctly you will notice two egg shaped objects. Give them a little squeeze to make sure they are yours.

Live life, realise, there are many many girls in this world, and your character can be changed within a few months. Do this and the right success will fall into your hands. This is how you attract girls.

What you're doing at the moment is an apathetic joke.

Are more apt question would be, should she forgive you.

 

Should you forgive her or should you move on?
Do both.
Forgive her, put her out of your mind, and look elsewhere for emotional support.
If she comes back to you, be kind to her, but remember not to lean on her because she'll let you down again.
If you can't be kind, ignore her. There's no point and nothing to be gained by voicing bitterness.
Fairweather friends are what they are. You can't change them.
Raging will only hurt you, and drive helpers further away.

 

I actually was in the same situation as u are, pm if u wanna talk about it, some dudes here don't get it, and it's really complicated, trust me I know, if u don't want to pm me as far as I know I DODGED A BULLET REAL HARD l and I think u should do the same to.

 

If you must speak ill of another, do not speak it, write it in the sand near the water's edge.

Napoleon Hill

 

looking forward to that, I`ll tell u my story as well

 

I'm sorry but I've read the OP three times and I still do not see where this woman did anything wrong. You left her, then contacted her again, and then left her again simply because she did not respond to your back injury needs? Am I missing something?

 

No you are not missing something. The OP is living in a delusional fantasy land.

 

So sorry, Namekian23.

You're single, no kids, and college aged?

She clearly meant far more to you than you meant to her.

I get where you're coming from, getting emotionally attatched to an older person who's in a totally different stage of life. You think the age thing is no big deal at the time, ignoring friends' advice, but you'll see in 10-15 years what a very big deal it was.

Having kids is huge, too (and four of them!). Right now they're the proper focus of her emotional energy. Every decision a parent makes, from living arrangements, to work, to romance, has to keep the children's welfare in mind, especially when they're small. She's the only mom they get, and this is the only childhood they get. And she has to set a good example for them. It's an overwhelming amount of work, and it's totally normal for new parents to drop off the map socially for months, if not years. Long-term friends catch up later, but many connections are lost.

If you haven't left college yet, you have no idea how many friends you'll drift apart from over the years, and how many new friends you'll make. The cycle of greeting and parting repeats, until no new meeting is quite as emotionally powerful as the experiences of youth. Deep bonds can still be forged, but it takes longer, and letting go, in a healthy mature adult, gets easier to do.

I wish you the best of luck in getting over this. Distract yourself, do right by yourself, and give it plenty of time. If you need to talk about what you're feeling, by all means talk. And writing here is good too.

If this loss continues to eat at you for too long, I would encourage you to seek counseling as well, from a good psychologist, or, if you're religious, a clergy member. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, only that you've been through rough stuff and you need to talk it out. A few sessions may be all it takes to get you coping well again.

Again, best of luck.

 

I'd ask totallifechange
That guy has some great advice

 

agree with all of this, totally spoke my mind, been in the same situation as well, 6 years older, I`m so glad it`s over despite the intimacy I was always getting loads of pain out of the relationship

 

OP how old are you? I'm infatuated with a married older woman at work who has two kids? I pretty much did a similar thing.