Hey everyone. So I finally made an account. I have started to consider trying to quit porn relatively recently. Ever since maybe 6 months ago I have made a conscious effort to stop. It hasn't always been serious though. I have relapsed a lot since then. I don't have a specific goal of clean time. I just want to stop completely. This might have crippled me in my effort to stop so far, since I don't have a clear set goal, but I truly believe I can stop indefinitely. So over this past 6 months or so my efforts have slowly become more serious as I have slowly begun to accept my addiction to pornography. I now know this, so I want to take action. I'm happy to see myself creating an account and posting this thread. Its a pretty big step for me. I was just dling some new music from piratebay, and I'm sure some can relate to the kinds of images that are all over sketchy websites like the ones I use to get music. I realized how weak I suddenly became. I wanted to look up some porn so bad. But I have been successful in abstaining up until now. I have seen a consistent pattern of me having to come to close calls before I decide to take further positive action. I have 8 days clean today. I don't want to start over again. I'm excited to get involved in this program. I'll be up for a couple hours checking for any responses.
Hey man, welcome!! We are glad to have you. This is a journey and not a sprint. Remember that. Some advice. Some guys will make a counter and keep pushing their goal out a week if they haven't PMO'd. My goal also is to make it last forever. I started on December 1 last year. 45 days later, I wasn't vigilant and humble. I was humbled. Reset. I looked at the positive side and feel like I bounced back even stronger. Kind of like when a broken bone heals Some tips 1. Educate yourself 2 watch YourBrainOnPorn.com 3. Watch YourBrainRebalanced.com 4. When you feel an urge do something productive. I don't know your marital status or hobbies so it's hard to give complete advice on that 5. LEARN WHAT TRIGGERS YOU TO PMO!!!!! Very important I look forward to your response. Ask me anything and I will do my very best to help you!! God bless WRA
Thanks for the replies. Yeah I guess I'm not sure what triggers me. A lot of stuff does though. I'm packing for a trip. Going to go spend a semester in Rome. Really excited for everything but staying clean will be a major part of my experience there. I believe that staying clean will enrich it in a way I don't think I understand. I have watched a couple of those brainonporn videos. They are pretty interesting. I like watching videos on this stuff in general though. I don't know if you guys watch Mark Queppet or not at sacred sexuality project. I like his vids a lot though.
I will check him out. I'm always up for learning something new about this problem. Learning never stops. If you don't know your triggers, figure them out. When you get the urge think to yourself what did I just see/think/do? What are my surroundings? Stuff like that. A semester in Rome. How awesome man!! That might be good to establish a good NoFap base. Kind of like a drug addict who moves away from his old town WRA
Yeah I'm really excited. If you have some downtime try this vid I just watched on his website - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU. Its a lot of the brainonporn stuff but some new stuff too. Yeah just like a drug addict leaving an old town. I actually participate in a support group for drug addiction. Pretty much everything I have heard about quitting porn is very similar to things that I do in it. This Rome trip will for sure be an amazing spiritual experience. I can't wait.
Hi mate! Just a quick greeting to wish you all the best! If I could just suggest you visit the thread below as the first thing you might want to start doing is learning how to view your 'problem' in new and fresh ways because as Albert Einstein once said "You will not solve a problem using the same thinking that caused it"! http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2318-Humour!! You'll get lots of different perspectives in the main forums so start focusing on the 'solution', get stuck in, and help and be helped because your contribution/perspective is as valid as anyone's! This is a great place to start on the 'serious' stuff...http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?3549-Action!-or-not!!!-Have-you-actually-Prepared-for-it It's also worth mentioning that I hear a lot of people refer to the struggle/fight/battle etc, but it REALLY doesn't have to be that way(not unless you want to get in your OWN way?!?!)... http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2655-The-Way-of-Harmony So stay strong, help and be helped, and keep going! http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2660-Keep-going
